What would you do?

Domayne

Maybe the british need to lighten up then!
I mean the majority of people have had a one night stand at some point in their life and they're quite content to stick some strange guys **** in their mouth but squeamish about someone using their shower? !!!!!!

Claire_A87

But..but...they're getting naked in your house and using your toiletries without your permission!! It's just not OK!

(And yes, we probably should lighten up a bit about some things...I'm not conceding this one though!)

j.e.j.

Domayne wrote: »

Maybe the british need to lighten up then!
I mean the majority of people have had a one night stand at some point in their life and they're quite content to stick some strange guys **** in their mouth but squeamish about someone using their shower? !!!!!!

No, the "majority" of people have NOT had one night stands. As for the bolded bit, speak for yourself :eek:

Georgiegirl256

Domayne wrote: »

But if someone says 'can I use your bathroom?' But doesn't specify why they want to use it...is it still rude? Do you have to SPECIFICLY ask 'Can I have a shower?'
I'm not being a 'troll' I have...issues with societal norms/expectations etc. I mean personally, I wouldn't do this myself because I know 'most' people would think '!!!!!!?' But I genuinely don't know what the difference is in someone using your toilet or using your shower? I don't have a water meter myself so I don't know if its expensive to have a shower?
Also, how do you know your family/friends don't have anything contagious? Not everyone would tell you these things?

I would say to 99% of people that if someone says "can I use your bathroom?", then that means they want to go to the toilet. If someone actually does want to use your shower/bath, then they would ask if it was ok to use them. My best mate had a doctors appointment once, was nowhere near home and so asked if she could use my shower, I had no problem with that. I would have been abit gobsmacked though if she'd have just started using it!

I'm pretty confident that if any of my friends or family had anything contagious then they'd mention it so not as to use the same towels.

Cow_pie_muncher

Dollyrockerz wrote: »

Maybe he soiled himself and was too embarrassed to tell you so just washed himself off?

It sounds very much like he farted and had a huge follow through, just as well it didn't penetrate the old underpants and jeans/trousers. That would have taken a bit of explaining.
Unfortunately this sort of thing has happened to me, it's a total embarrassment I can tell you, after an unfortunate diarrhoea incident, I ran out of the house with their bath towel wrapped around me and left the reeking Kacchera on the bathroom floor, they haven't spoken to me since, can't think why.

fierystormcloud

Domayne wrote: »

Maybe the british need to lighten up then!
I mean the majority of people have had a one night stand at some point in their life and they're quite content to stick some strange guys **** in their mouth but squeamish about someone using their shower? !!!!!!

:rotfl: OMG! Are you for real???

j.e.j. wrote: »

No, the "majority" of people have NOT had one night stands. As for the bolded bit, speak for yourself :eek:

I agree with j.e.j, not EVERYbody has had a one night stand, many people have not, and I would imagine the VAST majority of people would not do THAT to a man on a one night stand. What a revolting and repugnant thing to say!

Claire_A87 wrote: »

But..but...they're getting naked in your house and using your toiletries without your permission!! It's just not OK!

No it is NOT Ok. It's wrong and it's weird!

jumpedtheshark

You don't think this was some kind of office dare? People don't think you're a bit uptight and maybe they're trying to wind you up?

It's very, very strange. I'm not sure what I'd have done. Some things are almost too uncomfortable to mention so I understand why OP didn't ask when he came down. I'd have trouble bringing myself to, though I have been practicing having awkward conversations lately.

fairy_lights

Domayne wrote: »

I mean the majority of people have had a one night stand at some point in their life and they're quite content to stick some strange guys **** in their mouth but squeamish about someone using their shower? !!!!!!

Well presumably the strange guy would ask before putting his appendage in your mouth? The op's colleague didn't ask before putting it in her shower, lathering it up with her new shower cream and then patting it dry with her towels.

yvonne13_2

fairy_lights wrote: »

So what did you talk about while he drank his hot drink? The shower incident must have been a bit of an elephant in the room.
Could he be homeless/living in his car and not able to shower anywhere else?
Just had a thought - did you check if your toothbrush was damp? he might have used that too :eek:

To be honest I paced my towel, toothbrush head, face cloth, medicated face soap,bath creme and vaseline in a carry bag and threw them in the bin.

I don't know him that well and he has a strange rash. I'm not a doctor and I don't know what it is. It could be just eczema, but I'm not willing to take chances with my stuff.

I'm sorry if I've offended anyone.

yvonne13_2

*max* wrote: »

One thought...Is he foreign? Because "bathroom" is not used as a euphemism for "toilets" in all languages...So if he asked "May I use your bathroom?" he could have meant it literally.

Still....:eek:

Yes he was born in another country. He did ask to go to the toilet as I pointed it to him and I'm sure I remember him opening the door before I went out back to the kitchen.

Now I'm thinking on perhaps it's a religious thing.