What would you do?

System

fivetide wrote: »

seriously, I would say something. I'd pitch it is "by the way, I know what my shower sounds like, if you wanted to use it you should have just asked. I'd have got you a clean towel."

or a sarcastic

"oh I see you found out where the shower was then".

fivetide

Judi wrote: »

or a sarcastic

"oh I see you found out where the shower was then".

or a concerning "it's just that when I was trekking in the rainforest, I picked up a nasty skin parasite. It's nearly cured but still quite infectious and it's just that... well, I'm not supposed to share towels with anyone as the little beggars can burrow into any part of the body...."

tea_lover

That is very odd. How did he even get upstairs? (I'm guessing you pointed him in the direction of the downstairs toilet?)

Maybe it was a dare?!

Piggywiggy

I think I'd have been angry at first and probably said something right there and then, but after time which you have had perhaps ask him if everything's ok at home, it is possible he could be sleeping in the car as someone else posted.

BigAunty

Wow, no wonder you are bewildered, that's beyond a social faux pas.

A few possible scenarios

1. he's embarassed to be homeless or have no decent sanitation at home and too ashamed to ask for a shower and wrongly thought he'd manage to have one without you noticing. However, using your towel and toiletries and the noise of the shower and his absence leaves such a trail, I can't think why he thought you'd not suspect. Also, if he does feel ashamed of his access to sanitation,you'd have thought he'd just use a local gym or shower in order to keep it secret.

2. he has no basic manners or sense of courtesy, either due to his upbringing or some kind of special needs - but I think you'd notice this kind of behaviour at work by now.

3. he did it to humiliate, slight and baffle you and get one over by using your most intimate things without permission, kind of a bizarre way of sticking his fingers up at you. other things he could have done to wind you up would be stealing your things. he's creepy.

missbiggles1

Did he actually ask to use the toilet or did he say bathroom and you just assumed he wanted the loo?

Claire_A87

I'm sorry, but I did have a good laugh when reading this. Rude doesn't even begin to cover it!

The problem you have is that it's going to be far more awkward to bring it up now than if you'd have said something at the time. Do you have his mobile number? Maybe text him saying something like 'I felt too awkward to bring it up at the time, but it's been weighing on my mind - why did you use my shower? I'd have been more than happy to have let you if you'd have asked'.

I think using someone's shower without asking might just be the most un-british thing I've ever heard of!!

tea_lover

Claire_A87 wrote: »

I think using someone's shower without asking might just be the most un-british thing I've ever heard of!!

Isn't it?! I was in someone's house last week and they made me a cup of tea (lovely ) There wasn't anywhere obvious to put the cup when I'd finished so I sat and held it for two hours unless I got up to leave :rotfl:. That's what British people do - not randomly shower in strangers' houses without asking! :eek:

Georgiegirl256

Claire_A87 wrote: »

I think using someone's shower without asking might just be the most un-british thing I've ever heard of!!

Maybe he neatly folded the towels afterwards?

It's strange though, it would creap me out. I mean if he can do that, what else would he do? :eek:

I remember your other threads OP. The one about someone stealing your food and the one about getting reported for drinking at your desk. Someone is not having a laugh at your expense are they? Or even worse, got a vendetta against you.

fivetide

Is he a baldy by the way? Did he nick the hair dryer and brushes or did he just brazenly sit there with a soggy unkempt bonce?