is my husband hiding money?

mumof4littleguys

Just checked some of his wages and some say net is £1354 some say £1340 etc.
But march and aprils this year both have over £1500 net?

thorsoak

It all depends upon what you want to do - are you happy in your marriage in spite of this inequality of finances? You cannot make your OH change - only he can do that.

So, if you are not happy with the situation - what do you think you can do about it? Would you want to split up with him? In which case, you should start to look at how you would deal with finances on your own.

As you are the person paying the rent - is the tenancy in your name? In that case, you could ask him to leave. He would have to pay maintenance for the children of about 25% of his net income; you would be able to claim the CTC, and if you up your hours to 16, you could get WTC - and as the little one is coming up to 3, you'd be able to get some nursery hours, wouldn't you?

Put some figures into Turn2us.org - you might be surprised.

mumof4littleguys

Ive just found his p60 too.
not sure if im looking at tge right part but it says 'total for year- pay £23307, tax deducted £2659.'

mumof4littleguys

No im not happy in tge relationship. Its awful. But my children are so happy and settled and would be devastated. I think im prepared to live this life for them.

fierystormcloud

mumof4littleguys wrote: »

No im not happy in the relationship. Its awful. But my children are so happy and settled and would be devastated. I think im prepared to live this life for them.

That is a very bad idea hun.

Staying in a bad relationship 'for the children' is not the way to go...

Kids aren't daft. They will pick up that things are not right. It will give them a warped and skewed view of relationships, and may make it hard for them to form relationships themselves later on in life.

thorsoak

Actually take-home pay on the figures Gross £23,307, tax £2659 gives a net monthly figure of £1,720 - or a weekly figure of £397.

Guest101

thorsoak wrote: »

Actually take-home pay on the figures Gross £23,307, tax £2659 gives a net monthly figure of £1,720 - or a weekly figure of £397.

Take home of £1566 (remember NI deductions too)

mumof4littleguys

He has constantly blamedme for the ctc rreduction because I decided to go to work. Therefore im the one that should suffer I guess.

But surely the reduction has something to do with his earnings too?

Whats happened with the ctc is not affecting him in any way.

Goldiegirl

OP, aren't you able to talk to your husband at all about this?

If not, and you are as unhappy as you say you are about the situation, are you willing to spend the rest of your life like this?

mumof4littleguys

fierystormcloud wrote: »

That is a very bad idea hun.

Staying in a bad relationship 'for the children' is not the way to go...

Kids aren't daft. They will pick up that things are not right. It will give them a warped and skewed view of relationships, and may make it hard for them to form relationships themselves later on in life.

I understand what your saying but we dont argue all the time or anything and other than all this money business we get on ok so its not a miserable household. We are just like mates living together to be honest. But surely thats better than splitting?

Besides, I wouldn't be able to afford to move and he would never ever go