How to handle very nosey (and quite pushy) friend

Errata

If you only socialise with them every 4 -5 weeks they're not friends, they're acquaintances.

onomatopoeia99

Errata wrote: »

If you only socialise with them every 4 -5 weeks they're not friends, they're acquaintances.

I have fewer than five people that I regard as friends and I can go months without seeing them, but they all know that they are still my friends and that I still trust them absolutely and would still do anything I could for any of them.

duchy

onomatopoeia99 wrote: »

I have fewer than five people that I regard as friends and I can go months without seeing them, but they all know that they are still my friends and that I still trust them absolutely and would still do anything I could for any of them.

I have some close friends like that -but I do agree that this couple aren't friends they are acquaintances -who want to become friends .

fierystormcloud

Errata wrote: »

If you only socialise with them every 4 -5 weeks they're not friends, they're acquaintances.

Nonsense.

Many people have friends they see 2-3 times a week, and many people have friends they see bi-monthly; it doesn't make the friendship any less valid.

Thanks to the people who have given good, constructive advice, about how I need to cut them more slack etc, and understand that people have different boundaries; I will start working on my attitude too, and have more tolerance and patience with them. After all, I am not perfect.

After all, they are not bad people and we do enjoy their company most of the time; it's just them (her mostly) crossing the line, and repeating things over and over that get to us. We saw them last night, and she asked AGAIN when we are going to new York. I said 'probably late June' and she said 'what date?' I said that I couldn't remember and changed the subject.

They were also trying to fish for who we voted for, but wouldn't tell us who they voted for! :rotfl:

We just said we prefer to keep it private. They said 'OK then.'

Apart from this, the night went OK, so maybe I need to just not stress about silly things that irk me about my friends. Like I said, I am not perfect either. I just wanted to have a bit of a rant and a moan. Is this not what this board is for after all?

So once again, thanks to the posters who gave constructive advise, and thanks for letting me rant. I am done on this thread now thank you. There isn't really anything else I can say.

Thanks again. Bye. :wave:

Primrose

When your friend asks a nosey question just hold up your hand and say "Pass!".
If she asks "what do you mean" just say politely "it's what I say when somebody asks me a question I don't want to answer".
And if she then asks Why? just smile and say "Pass" again.
She will soon get the message that there are some areas you don't want intruded on, and you're not prepared to go into details

Loz01

OP I know some people like this and I agree its mega irritating, they seem to want to know every aspect of your life. Im the complete opposite, never ask people nosey questions and I wouldn't dream of asking how much someone earns for their job.


Just cut back how much you see them if you're find it an annoyance! Friendship is supposed to be life enhancing, not a pain... if you're finding that its more of a negative, cut the ties!

pollypenny

I'd say if you don't want them in your home they're not real friends.

I have loads of people with whom I'm friendly, but the ones I call friends are the ones whose home I visit and who visit me.