Going on a blind date

VestanPance

While I'm the last person on here who can claim to have a wild sex life, somebody deciding to have sex on a first date doesn't mean they have no self respect. It more than likely means they just enjoy sex.

Your comment reeks of misogyny.

Attain_by_suprise

Blimey! If someone does not want to choose a partner who would !!!! on the first date that is his choice. If i wasn't married, and on the dating scene any woman who offered it on the first date would be rejected too. People like that are not people who commit to a long term relationship. With my wife, it was around 6 weeks after our first date before we first slept together.

Some people who have lambasted that guy need to wake up and smell the coffee.

FBaby

I don't think there is any rules, but having sex with someone you've only met for 1 hour? It's one thing when you've known each other as friends and then decide to go and a date because you like each other, but otherwise, well why even bother with the meal in the first place?

tea_lover

It's not your sexual preference that may have got people's backs up, but your judgement of others.

Not everyone who has sex on a first date is a committment-phobe with self esteem issues. They might just fancy a sh*g.

Fluff15

Furgitude wrote: »

You make it sound like i've committed a cardinal sin when all i've done is state my preference.

No, you haven't. You voiced your opinion then judged people who have a different opinion to you.

You could have said 'I'm not looking for a fling, so if they are more forward than me then I probably won't take it further'. Fine, perfectly acceptable.

Instead, you said 'any woman who puts out on the first date is not worth it' and 'how are you supposed to respect someone if they have no self respect' - you are the one judging somebody for their preference. You are the one with the problem.

Fluff15

Furgitude wrote: »

A whole essay tldr. You need to get out more

What a wonderful childish response. Maybe when you've matured slightly, you'll be ready for this date.

VestanPance

Maybe he should reflect on what he said. He's basically called out any woman who is willing to sleep with someone on a first date as a commitment phobe who lacks self respect!

If he can't see how that displays how he views women and that it's completely demeaning then I pity the poor woman who'll meet him for this date.

pendragon_arther

Her choosing an Italian restaurant would ring alarm bells with me. If she's Italian is her father a !!!!! Don?

By all means have a nice time but sit with your back to the wall.

itchyextremist

Fluff15 wrote: »

How do you know somebody has no self respect for themselves? That is something you cannot tell just because they've slept with somebody on the first date.

Sleeping with somebody on the first date makes you no more likely to catch something than on the 10th date, as long as safe sex is practised correctly.

You obviously put out on the first date. Good luck with that!

Fluff15

itchyextremist wrote: »

You obviously put out on the first date. Good luck with that!

Actually, I don't. But I believe everybody has the right to do what they want with their body without snidy little people like yourself judging them.