My absolutely changing my life, body, bank & brain diary!!! arrgh help!

missymoo81

Thegreenone! thank you so much for taking the time to write such a detailed, lengthy post! I really appreciate the comments. I am just looking for the slow cooker thread on here now, as i really think it will help me, thanks mummytogirls for suggesting it. I love the quick pasta sauce recipe, the green one , I really should do that, my kids love pasta and anything that goes with it.

And with regards to the garden, I really hear you, I have been toying with the idea, of getting a student or someone similar to sort the drive way, I can do all the planting etc, or my nan would gladly, but the moving of all the wood and sand out the front would take me a good couple of weeks, I have a bad back which flares up whenever I do anything like moving and lifting things, and only having a few hours a day to do it too, but would take a young fit lad, a day. will look into it. Although hubby could in theory do it when he's home but he'll have better things to do as always, it will be on his list, but waaaaaay down, he doesn't care if the front drive looks horrific!!

Grrr best go and sort out littlies, they're wrecking the lounge whilst watching planes, they're getting out all of OH's PS4 extras, May has just run through with a controller thing pretending its a microphone!!!!!!

it never ends

missymoo81

Ok dinner was about 70% successful, I really liked it, although ate far too many dumplings!!! Roo ate half a dumpling and declared he didn't like the rest!!! And May ate half of hers.... sigh.. how I hate all this wasted food!!

But they are now sat watching the night garden and I have cleared away the dinner things and wiped the worktops. It is a lot easier having dinner all together.

Oh I forgot to mention earlier, along with my only time to do things being in the evenings, it is also the only time I can talk to OH, he is only online to I-message from 6.30 -9, which is the time between him finishing work and him going to sleep!!!

Trying to think of a plan of action for this evening, having had about 4.5 hours sleep, I'm not sure I am up to much. Fully intend on being in bed asleep by 10 tonight. I think I will try and clear the toys up, hang some more washing and tidy my bedroom which is covered in children's toys.

I'm actually missing the company of OH this evening, as sunday nights are usually really nice and chilled, all full up from sunday dinner.

missymoo81

OK spoke too soon, OH has just annoyed me, by texting and asking if I've checked the flowers out the front and when am I going to plant the rest of the seeds!!! As if I haven't been busy enough!!!!!! It really frustrates me, I'm sure he thinks I do nothing all day!!1 Grrrr, sorry rant over!

thegreenone

Oh dear re OH. Did you tell him where he could stick his seeds! Only the plants that like shade of course!!!!


Sorry I waffled earlier. re the garden, don't forget there will be lots of uni. Students looking for work, odd jobs, soon. Postcard in the newsagents window? Freecycle to get rid of the sand and tyres? I would.

missymoo81

Thanks thegreenone. Just had a rather long rather cross making text conversation as to him not understanding why I'm cross and overwhelmed and me getting more and more frustrated with him. Even when I reeled off a ridiculously long list of things I need to do next week!!!! Just told him I'm goIng to bed. Don't get me wrong, I love him dearly but Christ he annoys me sometimes!!!! Grrrr and breath. Am actually in bed, I appreciate its only 8.15, but I'm going to lay here and read and try not to think about the mess surrounding me. It's a new day tomorrow, and I'll get my bum in gear!

nannytomany

missymoo81 wrote: »

Hellooooo,

I used to write a diary years ago, but completely lost my way, but now I'm back, and now its me, with two toddlers (affectionally known as Roo and May) and a husband who works away a month at a time. I work 2 days a week, and have a big not quite finished, very messy house and garden. I'm struggling with my weight, through boredom eating, have put on a stone since last september! Debts, I have a £3000 CC bill I need to clear asap as I'm not very sure how secure my job is, and my brain is going crazy all of the time, I'm so stressed through the littlies driving me mad, and being tired from them waking me up stupid early, and working being so busy, I feel like I'm not coping. And my house well, the mess and stuff is ludicrous, there is not one tidy room!

Trouble is I want things to happen now, so I'm going to have to come up with a plan, and set a date for things to be done/put into action by.


Things I need to change:
Diet
Reason; oh goodness where do I start, My teeth are falling to bits and I'm only in my early 30's due to my horrendous sweet tooth! My skin and hair are awful through not eating the right foods and consequently not getting the right vitamins. None of my clothes fit, as I'm only short and the extra stone makes a huge difference. I've in the past tried every diet and only kept to it for 3 days, I have even paid a nutritionalist/personal trainer a lot of money but was unable to follow it through lack of time and motivation and not wanting to eat huge dinners. And I want to make nutritious meals for Roo and May, which I do mostly, but I know I could do better.

exercise
Reason: (I currently do none) at all which is crazy as I feel like a new person once I've done some, even 45 minutes is enough. But after running around after the kiddies and then cooking dinner and trying to clean up and then putting the kiddies to bed, I've had enough by the evening and am half asleep as they wake me up at 5.30 every day. And I'm just so lazy and unmotivated!!!!!

My pit of a house
Reason: It's awful, well the house itself is lovely, but its unfinished, no skirtings or door surrounds and the driveway looks like a dumping ground! Honestly I'm embarrassed by it. And the fact we just have so much stuff, I can't keep it tidy. I started reading the KonMarie thread on here and have tried to make a start on making my house a place where I want to be that makes me happy, so far I have done the bedroom, which is currently covered in biscuit crumbs and toys as the toddlers trashed it this morning. And I've done the kitchen more or less, well sorting, its a daily mess though, with just stuff from breakfast and cooking etc everywhere. I want to get it into a state where I can only spend a short time cleaning and tidying as everything will have its space and I can do a little every day.

stress levels at home
Reason: Being on my own with two very active and opinionated toddlers, I'm finding quite hard work, to say the least, they're generally well behaved but they really wind each other and me up, wanting what the other has all the time, screaming and shouting, I know it is just general toddler behaviour, but on my own with two is driving me crazy!!! But I desperately want to be a better mum and enjoy spending time with them.

stress levels at work
Reason: I don't really know why, I have a good job, that's quite well paid and I can come and go as I please, but I'm learning as I go and its quite brain heavy, but mistakes mean big fines, need to sort out what I'm doing with my career.

Credit Card
Reason: This has just got completely out of hand, I've raked up a huge bill of around £3000 with pretty much nothing to show for it. fI only work 2 part time days a week, after paying nursery fees etc, I'm not left with huge amounts, but I really need to pay it off, I can't afford not to, I feel its a big weight around my shoulders weighing me down all the time.

Bringing the house bills down (this is a different account from CC)
Reason:
I would love OH to be home more and work less, my thought is that if I can make the bills come down, he wouldn't need to work as much.


Ok Now that is off my chest, I now need to make a plan of action!!!

Right going to put Roo and May down for a sleep as we were out at families until late ast night and they are exhausted. Then I'm going to make a cuppa and make a plan of action!!

See you shortly

Much love

Missy

Wow you have a lot going on, good luck with it all, re the housework try Flylady, I find I do some of it and it really helps, for instance when I came home from work today (i worked all weekend) the house was a tip nothing done, so I washed and wiped up (which didn't take long even after a sunday dinner) and quickly hoovered and the place seemed so much better now I am sitting with a glass of wine looking at the diary's little things can make a difference, give it a try x

thegreenone

You've brought back the memories of Mr tgo being away for months.
Single (but not single ) parenthood is a whole new world. Mr tgo was away for months in the Middle East when the boys were young and I/we never knew when he would be home. Have a big hug from me and get some sleep. Don't dream about seeds and where you're going to put them!!!!!!

Bobarella

Hi Missy
have just subscribed to your diary. Gosh good luck with all your plans. I only have one child of 6 but expecting another in October. I find it hard enough trying to keep on top of one child's clutter although do have an OH who is very hands on so for that I am grateful. I applaud you mums who have partners away for weeks on end. It must be very hard.
You sound so swamped. I just want to come round and help you!
Of all the things you've said I think having a daily plan is key. I know that if I didn't follow mine the world would end (for me) I try to never leave the house in a mess in the mornings, the house isn't spotless but it's organised. Then as soon as we walk in at night I follow my evening routine. I unpack my son's school bag. Repack his lunchbox. Check he has clean uniform for the morning. Open any mail. File anything important at least in the relevant in tray and put any junk mail straight into the recycling. I make his tea plan ours and then sit down for an hour to do my business admin ( I own a shop so it's the first time I get all day to go online and check banking) he watches TV and eats. Then I run bathes, & start the bedtime routine off.
So long as I follow these basics the world doesn't end. I normally put on a washing load whilst cooking dinner and hang it out before bed.
My routine won't work for you but having one of your own that gives you time to fight daily clutter will make you feel so much better.

Look forward to reading your diary.

Bob

mumstheword***

I've subscribed too! I'm a mum of two - both girls, one 6 and the other 15 months! I work full time and struggle with my weight - and wine ;-)
And life is permanently a crazy juggling firefighting exercise!!!

missymoo81

Hello!

So many lovely people posting, thank you!

Thegreenone - I did actually sleep well! Roo only woke me up once, think he'd had a bad dream, and despite both littlies waking me up at 5.30, I don't feel too bad!

NAnnytomany - I'm going to nip off and join Flylady now, I often read it and feel motivated to do something!

Bobarella - you're right, a daily routine would definitely help! I find a lot of my time is wasted, waiting for things to be done. I'm going to see how organised I can be, and go from there.

mumstheword - thank you for subscribing, it's comforting to know I'm not alone, and also motivating as I know I shouldn't be whinging, I should be pulling my socks up as I'm not the only one dealing with kids and daily life!!

Right so first day - and a step in the direction I want to go in. Have just had an email back from an organic fruit wholesaler and they will deliver. Need to figure out what the cheapest options are.

I've just been downstairs and made everyone a hot drink, picked up cups and a random pear?! From the living room and have put them in the DW, I have made up the sofa so it looks pretty and I've put the washing machine on so that I can put it on the line whilst the littlies have breakfast. I know I'm supposed to be waiting for the solar panels but until I'm organised, I'm going to have to work on the little things.

Right going to go over to Flylady and join, drink my coffee and then start a list or two!