Kids or no kids at my wedding?

debbiesmum

It's your wedding and therefore you can decide on this. I've been married now for almost 40 years and we didn't have kids at our wedding(very, very modest wedding compared to today's standards). A wedding tends to be almost an all day event. there's nothing worse when a young couple are taking their vows (which after all is the most important point of the day) to either have kids screaming or worse - running up and down the aisles. A reception with speeches is NOT a place for young kids - by that point in the proceedings they will be over tired and tetchy.

Remember - at the end of the day - it's you and your future husband's day.

duchy

Cimscate wrote: »

Having said that I think it is entirely up to the poster what she does at her wedding, as long as she explains the reasons are mainly financial not personal should be fine. Could you have an option that people can pay for their own kids if they really want to bring them? Good luck

That doesn't stop those who didn't think to/thought it would be rude to ask......feeling annoyed that other kids are there when their's weren't invited tho

jrb74

its your day so its your choice. i do agree that it has to be a blanket ban - all or non (apart from the bridal party)

although . . .
years ago when my sister-in-law got married she told us it was a 'no kids' wedding but that she wanted our daughter (almost 5yr) as flowergirl. that meant we couldnt take our younger 2 kids. there was 1 other flowergirl and through out the day others kept borrowing the girls to dance with. i wasnt offended - i actually enjoyed having a 'grown up' day!!!

kt_c

What age do you mean by kids? Would you class a 16 year old as a kid?

cashewnut

bazzyb wrote: »

All weddings are open to the general public, the venue is irrelevant. They may be 'private' venues but for the duration of the wedding ceremony they would need to allow access to anyone and everyone.

Our ceremony venue can fit a maximum of 60 guests and will likely be full with the people we've invited. If random strangers turned up they're the ones I'd want carted out, not our invited guests...and they certainly wouldn't be welcome to the drinks and canap!s we're paying for! :rotfl:

cashewnut

MSE_Jo_G wrote: »

Hi lizbec, we are planning a reception as we want to treat our friends and family to some nice food and music. We actually looked into the pub option, but living in London we were quoted min spend of £10k - madness! The wedding industry has gone crazy.
innit76 - I think we will try what you did.

You could get married at the Knights Templar pub on Chancery Lane... 3k all in. It IS a Wetherspoons but it's a very lovely one!

jillmarie

Not so bad if it goes for both sides of the family. I when to a wedding once when there were no kids invited from his family but it was ok for the kids from her family to come. It did not go down well.

cashewnut

Cimscate wrote: »

Having said that I think it is entirely up to the poster what she does at her wedding, as long as she explains the reasons are mainly financial not personal should be fine. Could you have an option that people can pay for their own kids if they really want to bring them? Good luck

Why should someone have to justify why they don't want children at the wedding? It's their wedding, their choice! I'm not having babies or children at my wedding for the following reasons in order of importance:


1. We want our wedding to be adults only. I don't want children crawling around or screaming the place down while I say my vows. Children can be massively noisy and irritating. We're having drinks, dinner, speeches and dancing; the places we are spending our day are not a creche.


2. I don't want to pay for children to come to my wedding. It's going to be expensive enough as it is. Children's meals can come in around £25 a head.


3. We just can't fit them in either our ceremony or reception venue!


We're making an exception to my younger half-brother, who will be 11. If we had nieces or nephews then I probably would also invite them too, but we don't have any. The children who are not invited are friends and cousins' children.

Goldiegirl

I was just wondering what is deemed to be the cut off point where a young person is deemed 'old enough' to go to these weddings, and not a child.

I remember when my mum's friend's daughter got married.

They were long standing friends, and I had known the daughter all my life.

It was decided that no children were to be allowed at the wedding, so I was excluded. As I was 14 at the time, I was quite affronted.

My mum and dad didn't really want to go without me, but in the end I persuaded them to go, as it was a good opportunity for me to be 'home alone' for the evening

forzaitalia

I think many parents would relish a lovely day without their children! I remember attending a wedding and having to help look after my 2 year old niece (my sister was a bridesmaid). It was such hard work, and to be honest my niece was bored and just didn't understand the formality if a wedding at her age.