Nice People Thread No. 14, all Nice and Proper

kabayiri

PasturesNew wrote: »

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Quite frankly, in 1960s-thinking-mode, if he can't make an honest woman of her then the world's a shabby place!

In a Lesbian marriage, is one partner more honest than the other?

Do they fight it out to work out who is made an honest woman?

vivatifosi

Re the earlier question...

I think I would say something along the lines of:

"Your dad and I have always had some money put aside to help when you leave home. As you're moving in, would you like that towards new furniture or would you rather have the money to buy something for yourself?"

I wasn't in that situation, but I can hear my mum saying something like that if I was.

Spirit_2

Thanks all.

The Christmas household stuff is a good idea, and I will suggest to OH we give a card and something consumable ( she does not drink) when the great day arrives. Bf has a mortgage. So her long term wellfare is still our priority for her deposit on the otherhand we could blow it on a motorhome and stuff for us!

We have not asked anything about joint financial plans, I have a great regard for her privacy and also feel that any question raised would go down like a rat sandwich. I will put a tin hat on before opening my mouth.

Maggie, not cheapskates just working with the hand you have been dealt. We had been saving for a deposit for her, my early retirement meant that we could use some of the lump sum rather than saving from income.

chewmylegoff

My parents gave me a substantial amount of help when we bought last year. I had been renting with OH for about six years by then and it was a nice surprise to get some help - they told us after we had started to look for a place to buy and it meant we could increase our budget and buy a nicer place.

Your DD's situation is different as he already has a mortgage but whatever arrangement they have decided on then i expect now is not the time to present some cash. Perhaps if they move house and buy somewhere together that would be a good time to make the gift.

Generali

Took Mrs Generali to see the preview of Spectre last night. That was fun .

SPOILER ALERT:
James Bond is put into perilous positions several times but survives.

Nikkster

Generali wrote: »

Took Mrs Generali to see the preview of Spectre last night. That was fun .

SPOILER ALERT:
James Bond is put into perilous positions several times but survives.

I've still not managed to see Spectre. I'm not hugely familiar with all the old Bond films but I out of the recent ones Daniel Craig is definitely my favorite. I think the films have generally been better than in the Brosnan era too.

CKhalvashi

chewmylegoff wrote: »

That problem can be solved by reversing into the garage

Or into a bollard in Waitrose car park tonight :o

ETA: I didn't, OH did....in my car!

CKhalvashi

PasturesNew wrote: »

No data.... it's a fraudlent environment, covering everything from people doing Avon to people running a million pound empire.

Stats etc are meaningless. People bandy about the common terms without them having any set meaning.

I can work in an office, in my car, in a clients living room (occasionally) or anywhere inbetween.

Laptops and iPads and the various other electronic gadgets I keep with me make it so easy to work anywhere.

silvercar

I agree, keep your money until they buy together. A nice present should be enough for now.

LydiaJ

chewmylegoff wrote: »

That problem can be solved by reversing into the garage

:rotfl::rotfl: