Nice People Thread No. 14, all Nice and Proper

zagubov

kabayiri wrote: »

It's a river below the Amazon, only wider.

I was mistaken when I said longest, it's actually biggest in that it's wider.

But apparently, there are bigger rivers in the sky. They carry more water than any river on the surface.

You'd probably enjoy these podcasts.

Spirit_2

It is very quiet on here.


NP guidance for this rather bemused none-in-law would be welcome.

LydiaJ

Hope someone's along soon with something helpful for you Spirit, although I can't think of much to say except that it probably means different things to different people, and in your position I'd hope to be able to get my DD to tell me what she felt it meant to her, so as to know how to respond to it - whether she wants a big thing made of it or just business as usual, what she'd most like you to contribute, that sort of thing.

It would also be worth having a discussion about the finances. Of course, nobody wants to pour cold water on two people's happy plans for the future, but, for example, if one person pays the mortgage and the other person pays all the other bills, the non-mortgage payer may see none of the equity if and when they split up. The mother of one of DS's primary school friends was caught out by that one, IIRC, and was advising everyone she knew to watch out for such pitfalls.

Hope it all turns out brilliantly, anyway.

I am happy this evening. I had the director of studies observing my lesson today. The DoS is very nice personally, but has very high standards educationally (and rightly so), so is rather nerve-wracking to be observed by. I got the feedback by email - saying particularly affirming things about how well the class were paying attention, and including the magic words "I have no concerns". :D:D

Doozergirl

That's lovely news, Spirit.

Does the boyfriend own his house?

I'd make quite a big deal at Christmas of helping her furnish the place with nice pots and pans etc. But I'd keep your deposit safe until they discuss her going on the mortgage (if he has one) or they decide to buy elsewhere together.

I'm sure there are 'moving in' cards you can buy and yes, I would say it was a big deal to celebrate. Why not!

LydiaJ

PN

Over on the "working from home" thread, people are wondering if there are statistics out there to say what proportion of the UK workforce work in offices as opposed to other kinds of workplace. I've had a bit of a Google, but am getting nowhere, and need to go and teach DS now. You're our resident expert interweb-searcher - any chance you could come up with any data? Only if you've got time, of course.

ukmaggie45

Spirit, we are cheapskates.

DD1 we didn't give her anything (other than offered any furniture she wanted when my parents died) but a small something towards the wedding.

DD2 just coming up to 10th anniversary, they did all the wedding stuff, we gave them a tiny amount of cash to help a bit - since I haven't been able to work since I was 44 (now 67) we never had much cash. She moved in with her OH before marrying, but we didn't celebrate or anything like that, but we used to eat together when we all could.

Sorry if this sounds confused, the gas work outside has been mega loud today and has rather fried my brain, and OH's brain too! Currently waiting for gas to be switched back on again and appliances checked.

Basically we ignored moving in together, though acknowledging it as it had happened. No cash or presents for it. Any old furniture or appliances offered if and when. Told you we were cheapskates!

Still need to get Will changed to reflect DD1's marriage, and also something (not a lot) for the GrandKids. DD2 was already married when my parents died and suddenly we had stuff we needed to "leave" so she and her OH in it, DD1 in, but not her OH yet . Gotta get in touch with our solicitor! :eek:

Hugs to you, it sounds as if this is all a bit much for you to take in? Kind of odd when they go. But ours never really came back from Uni!

Just tell me to delete this if I've said too much.

hjd

Spirit
My DD sounds very like yours in character. She and her BF moved in together 6 months ago but to a rented place. We (just me actually..) got her a card and a nice bottle of champagne, plus a wooden duck (that one's complicated..)
They see it as a trial run and would like to make it more permanent and (we hope!) get married and maybe buy somewhere. In the event of them buying something she knows we would help them out but also that we would insist that a legal agreement was drawn up to safeguard "her" money if they split up. May sound mercenary but so many arguments are caused by money. It's nothing to do with the BF; this would apply to anyone she decided to join up with financially. That's a bit clumsy but I expect you get my meaning.
We have had the same conversation with DS who is considering buying a house together with some mates.

Nikkster

Exciting stuff, S!

I'd say a card and a nice bottle of something (if she drinks) as a housewarming present by way of marking the flight from the nest. Nothing more, esp if the house is furnished and the kitchen has stuff in it. Firstly, Miss. S. might want to go shopping to put her own stamp on the place, secondly with all the best will in the world it may not last so best not to unleash the deposit. Let Miss. S. find her feet herself.

Hope it all goes fabulously xx

chewmylegoff

LydiaJ wrote: »

Thanks for the recommendations of exam paper websites, people. I have got almost all of them now. Just need to check through to see which few I'm still missing. Will do that in a day or two when I get a moment...



Even though the slope would give you an extra 8cm at the front, I don't think you'd be 8cm better off overall. The boot would be further behind the rear wheels than it would be with the car horizontal.

That problem can be solved by reversing into the garage

kabayiri

If you want to know who employs the most office workers, look no further than over 5,000+ call centre firms nationwide employing more than 1.1m people.

1 in 25 employees work in call centres.

It would be difficult to move these people to home working, particularly inbound functions.