Online dating: Has this ever happened to you?

VfM4meplse

I agree with you about the lying being a bad start, OP. But you are a grown woman of 38 and tbh should have better things to worry about.

Find someone else you think you may be able to trust.

jen1301

Age is just a number. If you like him, meet up with him and see how it goes.

To be honest, the fact that he fessed up before meeting you in person is a good sign. He probably wanted to be completely honest with you before getting to know you any more.

I met my now Husband on a dating site, he was actually the first person who I met up with from the site. I guess I was very lucky to meet someone so perfect for me on the first go but I do understand what you mean about the dodgy characters on dating sites. I came across a few profiles that made me cringe!

If you really like this guy don't throw it all away.

Mileeta

I still haven't spoken to him, but I'm going to soon. Reading the replies regarding age, in all honesty it was a problem. The problem being what my siblings will think seeing me with a younger man. I spent most of my life focused on my career and other than once in university 15 years ago, I've not had a serious relationship. He's nice, I like him so if there is no more lies he has hidden, then I will give him another chance.

pebbles88

Mileeta wrote: »

I still haven't spoken to him, but I'm going to soon. Reading the replies regarding age, in all honesty it was a problem. The problem being what my siblings will think seeing me with a younger man. I spent most of my life focused on my career and other than once in university 15 years ago, I've not had a serious relationship. He's nice, I like him so if there is no more lies he has hidden, then I will give him another chance.

The age difference is barely anything. Stop worrying over what anyone else thinks, & be the adult that you are

Nodding_Donkey

To all the people saying "he only lied because he liked you" it looks like he lied before he'd even spoken to the OP.


Of course, adding six years to his age put him in the over 30 bracket so there is less chance of his wife finding him on there, after all she would be looking in the 25-30 range.

And the idea that a more expensive site won't attract chancers is laughable, even idiots can have money.

aileth

Yes, the lying is a bad start. However, chances are he lied for a completely legit reason rather than lying out of malice. There is a big difference.

If you think there's something there, continue it, but ask for honesty from now on.

Mav6215

Mileeta wrote: »

The problem being what my siblings will think seeing me with a younger man.

Jealous?

In all seriousness you shouldn't let what others may or may not think rule your decisions.

If you do finally meet let him know how much honesty means to you but I don't think asking if he has lied about anything else is a good idea. Just be a tad cautious and take it one day at a time.

Good luck whatever you choose to do.

duchy

Mileeta wrote: »

I still haven't spoken to him, but I'm going to soon. Reading the replies regarding age, in all honesty it was a problem. The problem being what my siblings will think seeing me with a younger man. I spent most of my life focused on my career and other than once in university 15 years ago, I've not had a serious relationship. He's nice, I like him so if there is no more lies he has hidden, then I will give him another chance.

I wouldn't leave it too long -Look at it from his point of view -The last time you spoke to him you told him you never wanted to speak to him again and your friendship was over. It's about BOTH of you being prepared to give the other another chance- not just you !

He may be chatting to other women by now -and if you leave it too long he may not want to give it another chance with someone who has sulked for days before "forgiving" him !

As for your siblings- I'm sure you don't think their choices of partner are perfect -but if they are happy together it doesn't matter....... the same applies in reverse.

burlington6

He might be in a similar situation.....he might not be sure about dating an older woman. Let's face it, men in general go for younger women.

FBaby

I agree he might have decided that if you er going to react so dramatically about it when he actually bothered to tell you before you actually met he might decide you are not who he thought you were. If it hasn't put him off then just go and see how it goes. You'll just need to be very honest with each other from the start about what you are looking for.