Revenge against a cheater!!!

Pollycat

itchyextremist wrote: »

It was the best revenge ever!! !!!!ed her life totally.

TBH, I would think she probably felt that even with thousands of £s of edebt, she'd be far better off without an idiot like you.

itchyextremist wrote: »

Maybe we should ask why he cheated. Maybe the girl isn't a nice person, or he wasn't getting any or she cheated on him too. I think it's always important to know all the details before judging this guy.

Maybe we should ask why your ex cheated on you.....
Maybe you're not a nice person.

j.e.j.

To be fair, in itchyextremist's case it does sound like six of one and half a dozen of the other.

She did the dirty on him, and he did on her, albeit in different ways.

Pollycat

j.e.j. wrote: »

To be fair, in itchyextremist's case it does sound like six of one and half a dozen of the other.

She did the dirty on him, and he did on her, albeit in different ways.

I don't think it sounds like six of one and half a dozen of the other at all.
I've not read anything into ichyextremist's posts on this thread that says his ex deserved to be left with thousands of £s of debt.

However - this is pretty interesting:

itchyextremist wrote: »

Nah, don't think that's it - she is seriously into me, I mean cheated on her a lot and she's still here.

Wouldn't it be lovely if this person found out about itchyextremist's cheating and saddled him with thousands of £s of debt.

Let's hope the saying 'what goes around comes around' comes true in this case.

Don't know who called troll on this poster in this thread but other people think the same on his other thread.

lulu_92

itchyextremist wrote: »

It was the best revenge ever!! !!!!ed her life totally.

Any debt she you left her with was probably a small price to pay to rid you from her life.

Jagraf

Rev wrote: »

I see a lot of people saying do nothing and keep your dignity. Is that genuinely how people see letting someone walk all over you and treat you like crap with zero consequences for that person? They see that as you keeping your dignity?

I've been cheated on and despite my above statement I did nothing. If it happened again I would also do nothing. But I don't feel like I've somehow walked away with my dignity in tact. Some scum bag treated me like crap, abused my trust and walked away Scott free. I didn't feel dignified in any way by allowing that to happen.


People also seem to say the best revenge is living your life. But that implies the cheater actual cares. They don't. They're just glad you've gone away and they can move onto the next affair. You haven't won anything by letting a cheater walk away with a smile and zero agro. They don't care or feel guilty. If they did they wouldn't have cheated in the first place. So thinking 'they can stew in their own guilt' etc is assuming they care enough to feel guilty. They don't.


My cousin is a serial lier and a cheat. He has no less than 7 kids to different women all conceived and usually born whilst he is still with the previous mother. He spends his life ruining other people's lives. All these woman 'take the high road' and do nothing. He has a laugh about (no exaggeration he actually finds it amusing) it and moves on to his next victim.


As I said, I personally wouldn't seek revenge, whilst I don't feel I've walked away with my dignity I know seeking revenge would make me feel even worse because I'm not that person. But I can't call out any woman who does so. Perhaps if some of the woman my cousin has cheated on had done so he may not be in a position to carry on ruining lives (he's already moved on to the next who is now pregnant).

I think you make some really good points here. I am happily remarried with a life of my own, happier than I ever was with my ex. However, as I look back I see more clearly what happened, and although I too won't retaliate I still hope karma catches up with him. I don't forgive easily and its been a really hard road I've had to travel.

KARO

Rev wrote: »

My cousin is a serial lier and a cheat. He has no less than 7 kids to different women all conceived and usually born whilst he is still with the previous mother. He spends his life ruining other people's lives. All these woman 'take the high road' and do nothing. He has a laugh about (no exaggeration he actually finds it amusing) it and moves on to his next victim.


As I said, I personally wouldn't seek revenge, whilst I don't feel I've walked away with my dignity I know seeking revenge would make me feel even worse because I'm not that person. But I can't call out any woman who does so. Perhaps if some of the woman my cousin has cheated on had done so he may not be in a position to carry on ruining lives (he's already moved on to the next who is now pregnant).

Did any of these women know about his other previous 5/6/7 children before allowing themselves to become pregnant by him?

If he kept it quiet and they only found out afterwards it is a strong argument for spreading the word about someone who behaves like that. Not so much out of revenge but out of concern for his future girlfriends!

Rev

KARO wrote: »

Did any of these women know about his other previous 5/6/7 children before allowing themselves to become pregnant by him?

If he kept it quiet and they only found out afterwards it is a strong argument for spreading the word about someone who behaves like that. Not so much out of revenge but out of concern for his future girlfriends!

Yes. They did. He seems to have this knack with woman and they just believe all his lies.


He was with one of my best friends and I told her over and over again what he was like but as with the others she was convinced he would change this time around. He of course didn't.


He also did the same to one of his best friends sisters. Obviously she knew exactly what he was like having known him most of her life. But again was convinced he would change.


I've no idea what or how he does it but the woman are all convinced they're the one he will change for. He'll be different this time around.


He never is, and the pattern repeats.

He's the complete opposite of his brother who is a lovely bloke. All his life he wanted nothing more than to settle down and have a family. But has been repeatedly screwed over by women.


It's a funny world we live in.

anotheruser

Rev wrote: »

But unfortunately we live in a world where nice guys finish last.

Amen to that!

But then women are attracted to a bad boy...
I wonder if it is because they see nice guys as boring, whereas bad guys would entice adventure?

itchyextremist

lulu_92 wrote: »

Any debt she you left her with was probably a small price to pay to rid you from her life.

I think saddling an ex with loads of debt is the best revenge possible. Nothing messes up someone's life better than screwing with their money. Will take years to pay off the debt, endless poverty, credit ruined - I mean what better revenge than that!


It's a great feeling when they're grovelling you to pay your half, but it's not legally enforceable. I pretend I'm going to pay, then just tell them to sod off. The best revenge is the one that you can keep using :-)

Indie_Kid

I find the whole thing quite pathetic tbh. I discovered the person I was seeing had a girlfriend (he was stupid enough to call her in front of me) and refused to meet up with him. Couldn't be arsed with revenge. That's the sort of thing kids do.