Revenge against a cheater!!!

scooby088

The best revenge is getting on with your life why sink to their level.

SandC

It's very painful to go through and the worst thing is that when you stay silent and just walk away you can't help but thinking that you've made it easy for the other party....

However, inevitably it is the best way... karma often does its thing but also the best thing about that is, if you move on then you won't even care if they 'get theirs', in fact you won't even wish it.

Time is the best healer, it's true. Meanwhile, lean on your friends and family but my advice is keep it off social media. :-)

RuthnJasper

FBaby wrote: »

Never recover from people seeing him crying and begging his partner to take him back despite cheating? Clearly if he did all this, it's because he showed some remorse. Pity he thought of her after he had done it, but I think that is much less embarassing for him that if she had poster him being horrible to her when confronted.

I find it very sad that people have so low self-esteem and their lives revolving around social media that they could be traumatised for life for something like this being posted, which most likely no body really cared about long term and have probably already forgotten about.

It's not the posting per se, in my opinion, it's others' reactions as a result. Things get shared and duplicated beyond control sometimes.

supersaver2

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

You can kind of see why he cheated on her in the first place....what a bunny boiler.

Wow! So she deserved to be cheated on? No excuses for a cheat, none whatsoever. Plus some need to check the origins of the saying 'bunny boiler.'

Of course holding your head high and acting with dignity is the best way forward, but at times when emotions and feelings are running so high we don't always think our actions through. We are fallible humans, not robots.

Rev

I see a lot of people saying do nothing and keep your dignity. Is that genuinely how people see letting someone walk all over you and treat you like crap with zero consequences for that person? They see that as you keeping your dignity?

I've been cheated on and despite my above statement I did nothing. If it happened again I would also do nothing. But I don't feel like I've somehow walked away with my dignity in tact. Some scum bag treated me like crap, abused my trust and walked away Scott free. I didn't feel dignified in any way by allowing that to happen.


People also seem to say the best revenge is living your life. But that implies the cheater actual cares. They don't. They're just glad you've gone away and they can move onto the next affair. You haven't won anything by letting a cheater walk away with a smile and zero agro. They don't care or feel guilty. If they did they wouldn't have cheated in the first place. So thinking 'they can stew in their own guilt' etc is assuming they care enough to feel guilty. They don't.


My cousin is a serial lier and a cheat. He has no less than 7 kids to different women all conceived and usually born whilst he is still with the previous mother. He spends his life ruining other people's lives. All these woman 'take the high road' and do nothing. He has a laugh about (no exaggeration he actually finds it amusing) it and moves on to his next victim.


As I said, I personally wouldn't seek revenge, whilst I don't feel I've walked away with my dignity I know seeking revenge would make me feel even worse because I'm not that person. But I can't call out any woman who does so. Perhaps if some of the woman my cousin has cheated on had done so he may not be in a position to carry on ruining lives (he's already moved on to the next who is now pregnant).

lulu_92

Pollycat wrote: »

He cheated and she decided it was a good idea to have him in her mouth?

Yuk!

If I'd done something as sordid as that, I wouldn't even have shared it with my priest (if I were remotely religious), let alone tell a friend about it.

Oh I agree. My ex cheated on me and I've never touched him since for that reason!

To be fair she was quite young, I don't think she'd do that now.

anotheruser

duchy wrote: »

Frankly only losers cheat - normal people just leave a relationship and don't need to have someone else willing to shag them as a fallback before they have the guts to end the relationship.

Isn't Friends with Benefits just another form of cheating? While both parties know their "partners" bodies are being used by someone else, I find it fascinating that those said parties find it acceptable at one point in life but not at another.

anotheruser

Rev wrote: »

People also seem to say the best revenge is living your life. But that implies the cheater actual cares. They don't. They're just glad you've gone away and they can move onto the next affair.

My cousin is a serial lier and a cheat. He has no less than 7 kids to different women all conceived and usually born whilst he is still with the previous mother. He spends his life ruining other people's lives. All these woman 'take the high road' and do nothing. He has a laugh about (no exaggeration he actually finds it amusing) it and moves on to his next victim.

If that is the way he chooses then that is his choice.

However, I suspect when he is old and has no family that cares about him, only then will he realise he is alone.

I would suggest this is where the "revenge" will come in.

Indie_Kid

anotheruser wrote: »

Isn't Friends with Benefits just another form of cheating? While both parties know their "partners" bodies are being used by someone else, I find it fascinating that those said parties find it acceptable at one point in life but not at another.

But many people in that form of relationship is single.

anotheruser

So you can be in a relationship AND be single at the same time?
Hmm, I personally don't think so.

Friends with Benefits is simply a modern term used to make those who are in that stage of life, feel they can "leave" the other person at any time, guilt free and of course, is a licence to shag around with any number of people and it be okay.

Yet, those that get a little heartbroken when their "friend" then enters a proper relationship is very high...