Revenge against a cheater!!!

thorsoak

Personally, my take on this whole problem is - I wouldn't have a problem, because I wouldn't even consider a relationship with someone who has a history of cheating/wife/g/f "not understanding" . That would be a no-no for me!

Hermia

Rev wrote: »

People also seem to say the best revenge is living your life. But that implies the cheater actual cares. They don't. They're just glad you've gone away and they can move onto the next affair. You haven't won anything by letting a cheater walk away with a smile and zero agro. They don't care or feel guilty. If they did they wouldn't have cheated in the first place. So thinking 'they can stew in their own guilt' etc is assuming they care enough to feel guilty. They don't.

And that is why you walk away with dignity. The way I see it is if the person does regret the affair then seeing their partner walk away and get on with their life is a form of revenge. But, if the cheater has happily moved on then it's even more important to just walk away. Constantly contacting them or getting revenge on them when they couldn't give a toss about you will ultimately hurt you more than them. If they have moved on emotionally nothing will touch them so it's pointless.

I know when I have been hurt I have felt better by just getting out there and doing something for myself. I can see damaging someone's property etc might give a quick thrill, but I know I would end up feeling like I had sunk to the guy's level.

I also think you do have to be more careful now with social media. Before if you did something crazy it would just be your friends wo found out. Now you could so easily end up being portrayed as some bunny boiler (or whatever the male version is!) online.

System

It's hard to imagine why anyone would want to play their life out on the internet, but it does seem to be the norm for anyone under the age of about 25.

Rev

Hermia wrote: »

And that is why you walk away with dignity. The way I see it is if the person does regret the affair then seeing their partner walk away and get on with their life is a form of revenge. But, if the cheater has happily moved on then it's even more important to just walk away. Constantly contacting them or getting revenge on them when they couldn't give a toss about you will ultimately hurt you more than them. If they have moved on emotionally nothing will touch them so it's pointless.

I know when I have been hurt I have felt better by just getting out there and doing something for myself. I can see damaging someone's property etc might give a quick thrill, but I know I would end up feeling like I had sunk to the guy's level.

I also think you do have to be more careful now with social media. Before if you did something crazy it would just be your friends wo found out. Now you could so easily end up being portrayed as some bunny boiler (or whatever the male version is!) online.

Yeah it's an interesting topic. And as I said I wouldn't never stoop to acting out some form of revenge as tempting as it may be. The reason I wouldn't is because I know if have to look at myself in the mirror after. And whatever joy I may have derived from that revenge wouldn't be worth knowing I'd lowered myself to their level.


But when I've been cheated on. Walking away and doing nothing about it, the last thing I felt was dignified.

meritaten

the best revenge is to live happily.

System

meritaten wrote: »

the best revenge is to live happily.

I have to second (or third/forth, think a few people have mentioned it) this

When my ex chated on me it pretty much broke me. There were things i could have done as revenge (such as informing the woman he left me for of the things he'd done, seemingly whilst they;d been together). What stopped me mainly was the fact he got her pregnant and i felt however i felt towards him, and as much as i could pretty much destroy his new relationship, there was an innocent child involved and i didn't want to stoop to his level (as it happens he cheated on her whilst she was pregnant anyway).

The best revenge i've had was rebuilding my life and being happy.

marleyboy

The ultimate revenge for a victim of cheating, is to meet someone ten times as good and thank the culprit for doing you a favour, as life has never been so good since the day they left. You would have to mean it though

Rev

anotheruser wrote: »

If that is the way he chooses then that is his choice.

However, I suspect when he is old and has no family that cares about him, only then will he realise he is alone.

I would suggest this is where the "revenge" will come in.

But unfortunately we live in a world where nice guys finish last.


My best friends dad is the same. Spent his life going from one affair to the next leaving a trail of heart breaks behind him. His daughter now has no communication with him because of this but he still has s string of woman and wether he feels 'lonely' or not he absolutely doesn't appear to be in any way.


As I said I wouldn't get revenge and don't condone it but I absolutely understand why some do seek it.

itchyextremist

Pollycat wrote: »

You think that is funny?

Do you think that saddling somebody with thousands of £ of debt was a fair revenge?
You are one sad individual.

It was the best revenge ever!! !!!!ed her life totally.

RuthnJasper

itchyextremist wrote: »

It was the best revenge ever!! !!!!ed her life totally.

How do you even sleep at night?! Presumably under a bridge, as I suspect you are a troll.