Marriage over/affair?? Advice pls!

Bluebell68

Morglin wrote: »

You may have "lived through' her MS with her, but trust me, you have no real idea of how a degenerative neurone disease can affect everything, including motivation :wall:

What with your apparent lack of empathy, tracking ideas, and hidden cameras etc., I am not surprised she has found friendship and support elsewhere.

Lin

I totally agree with you
he has no idea of the horrendous pain the feelings of being useless
the embarrassment when unfortunately sometimes don't get to the toilet in time
or you have to do the intimate things each month as maybe she is unable 1 mth that is EMBARESSING

the looks from people as you are limping dragging crap leg with you
using a stick very un balanced people think your weird or drunk

No you have NO Idea all you no is what you se you don't see how much we hide well I do from my family especially my sons and hubby

the pain intensifies
the Hugs we get stupid !!!!!!!g name its like being put in a vice and your torso is squeezing you so hard you cant breath except gasp for air
you take a Diaz as that is what is prescribed trouble is swallowing the tablet when you cant breath you cant move
so you hold on you gasp u wait till you can get a tablet or 1 is given to you

still it doesn't work right away the fear in your kids face 1st time it happens think their mum having a heart attack
I have go down the stairs on my backside a lot of the times as I cant always judge the next step

so I've been teaching my dog to help me

I ask NOBODY to do things for me i always try doing it for myself
i can not stand the sighs the shaking of his head if i need help
or i say something he thinks is stupid
so i don't bother any more

Walk 5 mins in my shoes when the pain is horrendous then tell me/us you understand you don't. An i hope you never will

But you do have deal with other side of It and i am sure it can be hard at times
can you both not just talk things out bit more do things together and do things separate
you seem such a lovely person
an i wish you all the very best
take care
x