Benefits and children leaving home.

[Deleted User]

Poppie68 wrote: »

As LA places are in such short supply they might just source her another private rental anyway which would put her back to square one after all her efforts of trying to make sure she is offered a LA property...

I am not trying to make sure I am offered a LA property.

NYM

Deleted_User wrote: »

You really think you'll get a glowing reference from your current LL if he has to wait for the Bailiffs to get you out ?


I have a glowing reference right now.

You also said you had a good credit rating, but only last year you posted a thread desperately worried you would be going to jail.

I'm more and more convinced you are an attention seeker..

shegirl

Deleted_User wrote: »

Thanks but for the last time: with all that combined I can afford.

Also, I don't know anyone anywhere else.
How would I find somewhere to rent from a distance without a viewing etc, move and just go to a totally strange place with a child in tow? How about finding a school and a job? Should I just spend all my savings going back and forth trying to put the pieces together until is time to leave here and get there?
Honestly!

What do you think other people do? You find a school and a job the same way everyone else does,no matter whether they are moving or not. Viewings can be arranged and train tickets or coach tickets can be sorted,get a weekend viewing and make it a nice trip for you and your daughter, you can look at what is around there aswell then.


If you current landlord is having to resort to bailiffs it isn't going to go down too well with other landlords, potentially. What is the reason for the eviction?

[Deleted User]

Because you couldn't help but mention her shiny car (not just a car, a shiny car) The car was bought after her separation, so I am not sure how she managed that since she claims she doesn't receive maintenance and think she got a 'good deal' because her landlord hasn't put her rent up since her husband left her. Good deal as in the rent she pays compared to the rent in the area. She has been living there for about 7 years with no increase in rent.


Personally though, I wouldn't say someone who has been left as a single parent is 'getting a good deal' Totally out of context. The good deal comment was about the cheap rent.


If she keeps asking you for your 'secret', instead of whinging about her why not share with her and help her? She clearly has some interest in working and bettering her income! I explained my secret to her and others who keep asking: I have never been out of work, completed many courses and training sessions, I work hard and don't complain and I behave professionally. My current job didn't happen overnight. The whole process started in 2009 when I got my first job in the field. But her (and other people who keep asking me, want it NOW with minimal effort.

[Deleted User]

NYM wrote: »

You also said you had a good credit rating, but only last year you posted a thread desperately worried you would be going to jail.

I'm more and more convinced you are an attention seeker..

My credit is perfect. My exH's not so much. He is a mess.

[Deleted User]

shegirl wrote: »

What do you think other people do? You find a school and a job the same way everyone else does,no matter whether they are moving or not. Viewings can be arranged and train tickets or coach tickets can be sorted,get a weekend viewing and make it a nice trip for you and your daughter, you can look at what is around there aswell then.


If you current landlord is having to resort to bailiffs it isn't going to go down too well with other landlords, potentially. What is the reason for the eviction?

He says he needs to moving back in but I don't believe. He is either selling and needs vacant possession because the mortgage provider doesn't know he is letting or something to that effect. The council will do a big refurbishment to the block and if he is "living" in the property he pays instalments. If not, he pays the full service charge in advance. This was worrying him some time ago. Maybe he wants to pretend he is living here. Maybe he wants to rent to some friends or family coming from his own country. I don't know. For whatever reason, it is not my fault as I always paid rent in full and on time.

[Deleted User]

Why is everything red now?
I am tired and I need to sleep you know, to wake up early tomorrow and got to work again.

I feel sad I am misunderstood most of the time here. Not blaming you, must be something in me, maybe it is my crap English, I probably don't come across very well when I write.

My next goal and target to work on. Improve my communication skills.

Cheers.

shegirl

Deleted_User wrote: »

Because you couldn't help but mention her shiny car (not just a car, a shiny car) The car was bought after her separation, so I am not sure how she managed that since she claims she doesn't receive maintenance and think she got a 'good deal' because her landlord hasn't put her rent up since her husband left her. Good deal as in the rent she pays compared to the rent in the area. She has been living there for about 7 years with no increase in rent.


Personally though, I wouldn't say someone who has been left as a single parent is 'getting a good deal' Totally out of context. The good deal comment was about the cheap rent.


If she keeps asking you for your 'secret', instead of whinging about her why not share with her and help her? She clearly has some interest in working and bettering her income! I explained my secret to her and others who keep asking: I have never been out of work, completed many courses and training sessions, I work hard and don't complain and I behave professionally. My current job didn't happen overnight. The whole process started in 2009 when I got my first job in the field. But her (and other people who keep asking me, want it NOW with minimal effort.

Maybe somebody else bought the car for her? Maybe she somehow managed to get it on credit? Maybe, given she got a shiny new car while on benefits and drives the kids to school when it's just down the road, it's a mobility car? You're assuming and judging somebody you don't know much about purely on the basis of her having a 'shiny car'.


Everyone would like things fast, how about instead of going on about the 'whole process' as such, you offer suggestions, recommendations etc. Maybe that's what she wants?


I also don't understand how apparently there are several people asking you for your great 'secret' to not being able to manage without benefits, being on the verge of eviction and wondering how you will manage when your benefits stop when your child I 18. It's hardly something to aspire to so maybe they think you have more than you do have and don't realise just how reliant on state back up you are?

helping_hand2014

jaylee3 wrote: »

When the child tax credits and child benefit stops, then that's because the youngest has hit 18, so why on EARTH would the parent(s) not get a job at that point? Why would someone expect the state to keep forking out for them to sit at home all day, watching daytime TV indefinitely?!

Some people are fed these benefits for years and years, and are utterly aghast when the handouts stop, and they have to actually go out and earn some money themselves.

But YES that is the answer; drag yourself away from the tv and start looking for work. Oh, and get some board and lodgings off your kids still living at home too. They can't live there for nothing!!!

assumptions oh dearly me

Podge52

Move up north, were a much nicer bunch of people.