Benefits and children leaving home.

Poppie68

OP people appreciate its not easy when you are a single income household but you do have help in the form of HB,CTC and CB if all that combined with a fulltime+ income is not enough to provide for you and your child then it really is time to think like a grown up and put your head on right. Moving to a different area or part of the country could give you and your daughter a better standard of living, contact with her father can still be maintained and new friends can be made while keeping in touch with old ones.

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lighting_up_the_chalice wrote: »

Oh, I don't know. Maybe it was your post about her benefits and new car, taking her kids to school even though it was walking distance etc.

Here's a crazy idea that might just work. Try worrying about what happens in YOUR house, rather than what happens in everyone elses. Envy is a very destructive trait.

I can see you totally misunderstood me, I will try to explain and then go to sleep.
I think it is crazy that she drives to school when she can just walk. She complains about her own financial situation but is very picky about jobs and in fact is only worried about this now because the pressure is on.
I definitely not envy her benefits and wouldn't know what to do with myself if I didn't work.
I don't even drive, why would I envy her car?

lighting_up_the_chalice

Deleted_User wrote: »

I can see you totally misunderstood me, I will try to explain and then go to sleep.
I think it is crazy that she drives to school when she can just walk. She complains about her own financial situation but is very picky about jobs and in fact is only worried about this now because the pressure is on.
I definitely not envy her benefits and wouldn't know what to do with myself if I didn't work.
I don't even drive, why would I envy her car?

Here's a crazy idea that might just work. Try worrying about what happens in YOUR house, rather than what happens in everyone elses. Envy is a very destructive trait.

Poppie68

Deleted_User wrote: »

I struggle to find a LL who will accept me as a tenant despite my clean credit and glowing references.
I can afford but here they have a NO DSS rule and so many applicants to chose from, they won't risk to rent to a single mother in receipt of HB.
So I would need a local authority property when bailiffs come and I still have no where to go because I haven't been accepted, not because I can't afford.

I have a viewing schedule for tomorrow and already asked the LL if he is looking for a long term tenant. If he accepts me, I can move anytime as I have the deposit and rent in advance saved.

Did you get a list of LL from your LA who take on HB tenants?

marleyboy

Originally Posted by Deleted_User
She complains about her own financial situation but is very picky about jobs and in fact is only worried about this now because the pressure is on.
I definitely not envy her benefits and wouldn't know what to do with myself if I didn't work.
I don't even drive, why would I envy her car?

Why so transfixed on HER, does she live with you? Is it relevant to your case?

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Vickimichelle wrote: »

I'm pretty sure your daughter won't be able to afford to move out at 18 due to expensive rents either. Surely when she get's a job she'll be able to help you out with the rent & bills.

Thank you.

But despite the direction the thread took this is not all about me. I am juts puzzled about people out there. I wonder if they have a plan for when their children are adults.

Yep should be worried about my own problems. But nothing wrong with wondering…

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Poppie68 wrote: »

Did you get a list of LL from your LA who take on HB tenants?

Yes, a list with some agencies in the area (and others on the other side of the city), no websites, no one answer the phones and I couldn't go to their addresses yet because you know, I am busy working..

marleyboy

Hopefully when my Son is mature enough he will be living in his own pad, or paying his dues. Regardless, the Mortgage will still have to get paid each Month.

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marleyboy wrote: »

Why so transfixed on HER, does she live with you? Is it relevant to your case?

No she is totally irrelevant to my case. Just used her as an example.
I don't understand why people turn so nasty on me?

Seriously, I would appreciate some very honest feedback here because my daily face to face interactions with real people seem to be OK. Unless my perceptions are all wrong.

Poppie68

Well as your housing need is about to become critical when you get evicted maybe taking a couple of days off work would of been the sensible thing to do......and I'm pretty sure they do answer phones as otherwise their businesses would be in trouble...
Try paying them visits on a Saturday....anything because you may end up jobless as well as homeless when the LA move you out of the area into a homeless B&B....
You have the means to secure another property without subjecting your young daughter to living in a grotty B&B , they are scarey places for children and she will find herself isolated from friends and chances are she may have to change school....why on earth are you not making every conceivable effort to search for your own place?