Renovations and Repayments.

maman

AlexLK wrote: »

Today Mrs K has certainly won the parenting game. I'm pleased she wanted to spend the majority of the day with him (this is rare) and that both she and son had a really good time together.

Credit where it's due. :T to MrsK.
Good luck with the conversation with the parents tomorrow and hope you all enjoy the beef!

AlexLK

maman wrote: »

Credit where it's due. :T to MrsK.
Good luck with the conversation with the parents tomorrow and hope you all enjoy the beef!

Wife has once again excelled on the parenting front today and has decided that she's not going away next week. Though she's found someone to take her place, the trip she was meant to be going on has still cost us half the amount she paid. :mad: Clearly, she thinks I cannot handle this coming week by myself.

Sunday lunch was the usual affair, only now with dogs. Despite not being able to sleep last night in anticipation of the business conversation, it wasn't so bad. However, I have come to realise I need to move on and that my parents wish to retire properly whilst my father is still with us.

maman

AlexLK wrote: »

Wife has once again excelled on the parenting front today and has decided that she's not going away next week.


However, I have come to realise I need to move on and that my parents wish to retire properly whilst my father is still with us.

You can't have it both ways Alex. MrsK seems to have realised, albeit late in the day, that LittleK starting school is a big milestone (for you all). Don't look on it as failure on your part more that she's woken up to where her responsibilities lie.



Not sure how you're interpreting 'moving on'. If your parents retire properly will they sell all the BTLs or would you be taking full responsibility?


Some lovely bright days promised this week, why not make a plan to enjoy them?

edinburgher

Alex, has your wife ever had difficulties with the black dog or similar? She sounds a little bipolar as regards some of her dramatic changes of mind and some of the comments that you credit her with saying are sorely lacking in empathy.

AlexLK

maman wrote: »

You can't have it both ways Alex. MrsK seems to have realised, albeit late in the day, that LittleK starting school is a big milestone (for you all). Don't look on it as failure on your part more that she's woken up to where her responsibilities lie.

Not sure how you're interpreting 'moving on'. If your parents retire properly will they sell all the BTLs or would you be taking full responsibility?

Some lovely bright days promised this week, why not make a plan to enjoy them?

I'm really quite annoyed she's wasted money on a holiday that she's not even going on, to be honest. That and the fact I'll be left to deal with my son after she's done playing Mum. Son starting school is definitely a big milestone, one which I hope passes painlessly enough and he enjoys but I'm not pleased my wife has used this as an opportunity to play with his mind. You may be right about her waking up to where her responsibilities lie, though after a couple of days I do not feel like giving her the benefit of the doubt and my parents think I'd be better off without her.

Regarding moving on, I'm going to close the furniture business and take day to day responsibility of my parents' business interests, though this will take time to sort and I've quite a bit to learn.

Not really sure what I'm doing this week though it's a nice day today I've not done a lot. Can't say I'm looking forward to spending the coming days / weeks in my own company at all.

edinburgher wrote: »

Alex, has your wife ever had difficulties with the black dog or similar? She sounds a little bipolar as regards some of her dramatic changes of mind and some of the comments that you credit her with saying are sorely lacking in empathy.

Personally, I think she has but she'd never admit to it or see a doctor. Getting her to go to medical appointments when she was pregnant was bad enough, I've no desire to start asking she goes about herself, as I know what the answer will be. She's never been very empathetic and always done stupid things and later changed her mind. Thought all women did that, though?

maman

AlexLK wrote: »

.....and always done stupid things and later changed her mind. Thought all women did that, though?

:eek:


Where's the slap across the head smiley when you need it!!!:rotfl:


I've often thought you'd be better off without MrsK but you've always been adamant that you must do everything possible to make her stay even if it means her walking all over you. I'd like to see you digging your heels in far more often.

newgirly

Alex its a shame your parents voice their opinions on your wife, whatever the situation is between you both that really can't help matters hearing constant negativity. I can criticize my dh, but nobody else had better, family or not.

ourcornercottage

It's really difficult when you are not feeling well yourself for you to make a judgement on the situation.

Not all women are like that, very sexist comment there. It's just a trait of men or women who make the wrong decisions as they are impulsive/selfish/daft (for the want of a better word) who realise they have made a mistake and try to take it back, often when it's just a little too late.

Re parents, they are always going to be on your side, you are their son so no matter what deep down you can't take their judgement as unbiased even if they try to be. Saying that from what I read she's equally as lucky to have you as you are to have her.

Hope you are feeling a little better

edinburgher

Stop biting - Alex is clearly on the wind up with his comment re women

AlexLK

maman wrote: »

:eek:


Where's the slap across the head smiley when you need it!!!:rotfl:


I've often thought you'd be better off without MrsK but you've always been adamant that you must do everything possible to make her stay even if it means her walking all over you. I'd like to see you digging your heels in far more often.

:rotfl: You know I'm only joking, maman...

This is probably going to sound quite bad but after my conversation with my parents yesterday, they are concerned she could potentially asset strip my family in the future. I realise this sounds mercenary but my parents' point is that she will inherit nothing and likely not be happy with the equity in the house we've bought together should she leave me in a couple of years. However, I can't imagine life without her and cannot see a time when I would be the one to choose for us to go our separate ways.

newgirly wrote: »

Alex its a shame your parents voice their opinions on your wife, whatever the situation is between you both that really can't help matters hearing constant negativity. I can criticize my dh, but nobody else had better, family or not.

My parents were not being personal. They think I would be better not tied to her financially due to the potential harm she could cause if we were to split which would affect them and their vision for future generations.

ourcornercottage wrote: »

It's really difficult when you are not feeling well yourself for you to make a judgement on the situation.

Not all women are like that, very sexist comment there. It's just a trait of men or women who make the wrong decisions as they are impulsive/selfish/daft (for the want of a better word) who realise they have made a mistake and try to take it back, often when it's just a little too late.

Re parents, they are always going to be on your side, you are their son so no matter what deep down you can't take their judgement as unbiased even if they try to be. Saying that from what I read she's equally as lucky to have you as you are to have her.

Hope you are feeling a little better

I'm still not well at all but not given up hope which is at least one positive. If I'm still like this by Thursday I'll be once again visiting my GP.

At the risk of digging a deeper hole for me to crawl out of, I cannot understand why some women scream "sexism" over nothing. Yes, as Ed points out it was a joke, a wind up if you will. If I were "sexist", do you really think I'd let my wife do the things she does? Don't be so sensitive. However, apart from that your point makes a lot of sense, she can be impulsive and thinking about her patterns of behaviour, she does often try to take it back too late. I suppose we all do that sometimes, though.

As explained above my parents are looking at what they see as a potential risk to monies they have worked very hard to accrue over their lifetime. I suppose I should feel angry about that but due to how tempestuous my marriage has been in the past I can see their point, unfortunately.