Renovations and Repayments.

slowlyfading

AlexLK wrote: »

However, I've done a lot of decluttering, a lot of putting things up for sale and have been sensible with money. It's looking like we'll be able to make a £500 overpayment this month and add £1,500-£2,000 to the savings.

That's fantastic

AlexLK

slowlyfading wrote: »

That's fantastic

Thanks, SF.

We're doing alright on the money front for the moment. However, it seems we've no time to spend it. :rotfl:

Over this past week I've had a lot of music things to do and have been volunteering at another school during the quiet days. Summer holidays are close now and I'm absolutely sure we won't be quite so good with money next month.

DollyDee_2

Thanks for the update Alex - a lot of positives there. Hopefully, with time, the other things will get resolved.

Sorry about your wife's workload. I've been in that position and it is not nice, not the same type of work but the same situation. Money doesn't make it any easier but at least it would make you feel appreciated.



Dolly

maman

Thanks for the update Alex and good on FIL for making the effort to support LittleK.


I can only assume that the parents no-show and your father's silence are just them being stubborn at not getting their own way in getting you to capitulate. That's incredibly immature of them but well done you for sticking to your guns.


I'm afraid what's happening at MrsK's workplace is mirrored across the country. It's so-called 'natural wastage' which has to be better than redundancy. All I would say is that, unless she and her colleague were the only two in their role, I'd be questioning why she has all his workload transferred to her. It should be shared equally amongst remaining colleagues. Of course, there may be a lack of work so MrsK has some slack??


I'd expect the next few weeks to be more expensive as you'll be taking LittleK out on some adventures and picnics but at least you'll have made some money from decluttering to cover costs. One plus is that you won't feel obliged to be taking him constantly to visit your parents.

AlexLK

DollyDee wrote: »

Thanks for the update Alex - a lot of positives there. Hopefully, with time, the other things will get resolved.

Sorry about your wife's workload. I've been in that position and it is not nice, not the same type of work but the same situation. Money doesn't make it any easier but at least it would make you feel appreciated.

Dolly

Yes, I hope that will be the case. Things are going well financially because of the declutter sale. After that, I don't really know what the way forward is.

You're right about the money, it just seems they're expecting her to do a lot more work for no more pay when they've saved one full wage. It seems her work cannot see that it's making life very difficult for her. I know she won't say anything to them, though. Years ago I used to work similar hours to the amount she's working now, I think it's terribly unhealthy.

maman wrote: »

Thanks for the update Alex and good on FIL for making the effort to support LittleK.

I can only assume that the parents no-show and your father's silence are just them being stubborn at not getting their own way in getting you to capitulate. That's incredibly immature of them but well done you for sticking to your guns.

I'm afraid what's happening at MrsK's workplace is mirrored across the country. It's so-called 'natural wastage' which has to be better than redundancy. All I would say is that, unless she and her colleague were the only two in their role, I'd be questioning why she has all his workload transferred to her. It should be shared equally amongst remaining colleagues. Of course, there may be a lack of work so MrsK has some slack??

I'd expect the next few weeks to be more expensive as you'll be taking LittleK out on some adventures and picnics but at least you'll have made some money from decluttering to cover costs. One plus is that you won't feel obliged to be taking him constantly to visit your parents.

Hello maman! Where have you been hiding?! :rotfl:

I was pleasantly surprised re. my father-in-law. To be honest, I think my parents' no show got to me much more than it did my son but I suspect that was their intention. I've too many memories of them not making an effort. My father is refusing to speak to me and I'm becoming less inclined to apologise for something I'm not sorry about.

My wife works in a small company with only her and the recently left colleague doing the same job. There is a colleague at a more junior level but he doesn't deal with certain things yet. No idea if that makes any sense.

Having a really bad day today, so far I've had an argument with a utility supplier, another argument with a tenant, some bad news and a realisation we need to get on with having our roof replaced.

LadyGnome

I am sure your son was happy to a grandparent there, it probably didn't matter to him which one it was.

I hope your day improves and that the bad news isn't too bad. Lucky you have savings so you can get the roof replaced if you need to. It will save money in the long run as even a small amount of water getting in will do a fair bit of damage.

Your father might not be speaking to you (which is better than him arguing with you or criticising you in my view) but he was still happy for you to take him to his appointment. He needs you more than he is prepared to admit.

AlexLK

LadyGnome wrote: »

I am sure your son was happy to a grandparent there, it probably didn't matter to him which one it was.

I hope your day improves and that the bad news isn't too bad. Lucky you have savings so you can get the roof replaced if you need to. It will save money in the long run as even a small amount of water getting in will do a fair bit of damage.

Your father might not be speaking to you (which is better than him arguing with you or criticising you in my view) but he was still happy for you to take him to his appointment. He needs you more than he is prepared to admit.

He was pleased to have a grandparent there. I was there and filled in some information about my parents (the grandparents were "interviewed" by the children) but couldn't answer all the questions. I did feel I'd let my son down by not apologising to my parents that afternoon. Father-in-law has always disliked my parents and reckons we're better off without them. :eek: Historically I've never managed to get on with my father-in-law but he seems to have wanted to treat me as part of their family the past couple of times he's seen me. Hopefully that won't stop as I don't want my son to grow up seeing them making personal comments about me and me taking the bait.

Rest of the day has been terrible. Pleased to have my wife, I'm starting to hope that for some bizarre reason maybe she does like me enough to want to stay with me. The roof has been letting water in for years; there's a lot of issues with the house that we just live with. We both want to get the roof sorted this year as we're fed up fixing the damage / trying to patch it up ourselves only to find something else.

:rotfl: Re. my father. He likes me to take him to any medical appointments because my mother is inclined to ask his doctors a lot of questions if she takes him and he's also concerned about upsetting her.

AlexLK

Finances are looking good at the moment. We've not been too silly on a day to day basis and have a surplus of day to day money, which is good for us. Also, I've added £440 to the savings today.

Managed to spend a bit of time talking to Mrs K about moving forward and also making a deadline for finishing the house. Had a nice day doing some work on one of the cars with my wife and son, followed by a nice drive out and picnic this evening. Cheap day but a good one.

Can't believe I'm admitting to this on here but has anyone else downloaded the pokemon game? Currently, after we get back from dog walking (and wildlife spotting) we're driving into localish town centres for a walk around to catch pokemon. :rotfl: My son loves it.

newgirly

Ds2 was out all day yesterday catching them, it's like a zombie apocalypse round here with random people wandering alone in odd directions :rotfl:

smallholdingsister

Pokemon is huge at school.
Great positives around money and how you are relating to Mrs LK and your FIL.
What about a list of free/cheap summer holiday activities so you are prepared?