Renovations and Repayments.

newgirly

Hope tomorrow is a happier day for you

Former_E.ON_Company_Representative:_Malc

AlexLK wrote: »

Thanks again.

No worries AlexLK. Glad to help.

Malc

Watty1

Hope today is a better day

LadyGnome

AlexLK wrote: »

Had a really bad day today. Dark thoughts all day and feeling like a complete failure. What I'd like to achieve seems completely beyond me at the moment, very frustrating. I know I'm difficult to be around when I'm like this. Productivity has been almost non-existent and I should've had time to put a few items up for sale and do some work. :mad:

Alex, I know this is easier said than done, but try to remember that thoughts are just thoughts not reality. One of the things that the mindfulness can help with is learning not to follow the thread of your thoughts but just to let them drift by. What I mean is, say you feel useless you just let that thought go through your mind but don't engage with it and get into one of those awful downward spiral self critical internal dialogues.

ourcornercottage

Sending positive vibes.

A_Frayed_Knot

Today is a new day, and today is the start of a new Month.

I don't need to tell you how far you have came in such a short time. You have sold not 1 but 2 YES _ TWO cars, decluttered ...... and I could go on and on .... with what you have achieved.

In dark days, I really think (and hope I'm right) you just need 1 focus, a small little tiny one, like your music for your son's school - I would hope that would enlighten the darkest of anyone's moods.

Tomorrow is another day, as they say. Best Wishes.

slowlyfading

I hope that you are doing okay this evening

choccielover

Alex have you though about talking to someone.

Just to give you the tools to compartmentalise, process and deal with these thoughts however is most appropriate.

It's hard, and difficult to begin with but perhaps something to think of.

AlexLK

newgirly wrote: »

Hope tomorrow is a happier day for you

Watty1 wrote: »

Hope today is a better day

Thank you both. Today hasn't been great: rotten MGB, sat in a lot of traffic to see rotten MGB, was late picking son up from school. However, we did go for a drive this evening and have a nice fish supper.

Been thinking about my parents a lot today, wondering if I should just apologise and try to get things back to how they were. My wife thinks I ought not to and I think she's right in principle but my parents aren't getting any younger.

LadyGnome wrote: »

Alex, I know this is easier said than done, but try to remember that thoughts are just thoughts not reality. One of the things that the mindfulness can help with is learning not to follow the thread of your thoughts but just to let them drift by. What I mean is, say you feel useless you just let that thought go through your mind but don't engage with it and get into one of those awful downward spiral self critical internal dialogues.

Thanks LadyGnome.

My problem is I find myself deeply engaging with anything negative and being very weary of anything positive.

AlexLK

ourcornercottage wrote: »

Sending positive vibes.

Thank you, think I need some of those.

A_Frayed_Knot wrote: »

Today is a new day, and today is the start of a new Month.

I don't need to tell you how far you have came in such a short time. You have sold not 1 but 2 YES _ TWO cars, decluttered ...... and I could go on and on .... with what you have achieved.

In dark days, I really think (and hope I'm right) you just need 1 focus, a small little tiny one, like your music for your son's school - I would hope that would enlighten the darkest of anyone's moods.

Tomorrow is another day, as they say. Best Wishes.

Thank you, AFK.

I struggle to focus at all when my mind isn't in the right place. Was in a real downwards spiral early this evening and had convinced myself that my wife wouldn't come home until late despite promising otherwise. Guilt had crept in as I was late picking my son up from school; he was upset about that. Started to convince myself she doesn't really want to be married to me, that I've wrecked her life. 10 minutes later she comes home having not been out with her work colleagues, the guilt was awful.

slowlyfading wrote: »

I hope that you are doing okay this evening

I'm a bit better now, thank you.