Renovations and Repayments.

AlexLK

A_Frayed_Knot wrote: »

This is what I tell myself every time an o/p is made


And, is it just me, as on reading your most recent posts, I do feel you are coming over as a much lighter "you" as if a weight has been lifted off your shoulders with a touch of wicked sense of humour in there too :rotfl:
Keep up the good work

Managed to list a couple of things despite a bad morning / start to the afternoon.

I've not been well recently, so not sure about being more lighthearted. :rotfl::rotfl: this morning was particularly bad. Though I am trying to not dwell on it so much, perhaps that's what it is.

newgirly wrote: »

Glad your day went well yesterday Alex.

As someone who started their family very young, I take offence at your dads comments your behalf! Being a good parent has nothing to do with age, there are as many good reasons to start younger as there are to start later in life.

Why do some parents feel like they have a right to voice option on every decision their adult offspring make? I try not to ever do that and mine are only in there teens still (plus at there stage in life they might be contrary just to annoy me anyway :rotfl:).

Well done decluttering, please come and sort out my kids room when you are done, thanks

Wife and I weren't exactly teenagers.:rotfl: to be honest, I think you're right and at least I won't have people referring to my son as my grandson!:rotfl:

Mine always need to have the last word on everything. It's always been like that.

Erm, no thanks re. Sorting your kids bedrooms.

gallygirl wrote: »

"Woo" and "woo woo" are joke terms used on the KonMari thread to describe the feelings you experience when you let 'stuff' go - physically and metaphorically. Joke terms - but the feelings are very real and I'm very glad you're experiencing them :T.


Well said NG, I wouldn't dream of telling my children how to raise their offspring. Though so far that's only a grandcat, two grandbunnies and three grandchickens :rotfl:. It might be a different matter if proper little people were involved .

To be honest Alex your in-laws sound much better people to be around Little LK than your parents .

Are you planning another trip to see the ospreys?

Yes, I'm afraid to say the "woo" is real! Seriously, my house is a real mess and I'm only just starting to realise it. Going to be a very long process I think. For years my wife has not wanted to have friends around because it's so bad and I'm starting to see what she sees now.:o

Got to admit my in-laws are good with children. Even if their methods aren't mine, I can appreciate the grandchildren do have fun with them. I suppose I used to be quite dismissive of how they entertain their grandchildren but I'm not sure it's so bad as a treat once in a while. My parents hate my son behaving like a five year old does, I suppose the in-laws understand it because they're around children more. Saw my parents today but not apologised, father is furious with me. Was quite glad to tell them I was going home and won't be back until we need to talk about business again. The whole thing made me rather ill but I can't sincerely apologise to them as I still think they're wrong.

We've been to see the Ospreys once this year. We may go to the family day over summer though. Quite a few days out planned for summer already, just hoping the weather improves.

AlexLK

LadyGnome wrote: »

I think that clutter does weigh on you psychologically. It reminds you of unfinished business and jobs to do, so you can never relax when you know its there.


Mind you decluttering an entire LR is pretty good going!

Can't believe I'm saying this but I think you're right!

newgirly

Stay strong, sometimes we need to back down and be gracious for the sake of keeping the peace, but not when it's an issue so important

AlexLK

newgirly wrote: »

Stay strong, sometimes we need to back down and be gracious for the sake of keeping the peace, but not when it's an issue so important

Thanks, NG.

Feel a lot better tonight, had some of my nicer music pupils who've made good progress over this week and spoken to my wife about what she thinks I ought to do re. parents. My son doesn't want to see his grandfather at the moment at all. I find that very sad and I know my father is rather upset about it.

Today my mother said she's surprised I'm keeping myself involved in the business and she expected me to leave her to it. She wasn't pleased when I told them it's clear they don't think a lot of me but whether they choose to let me take a salary or not, I still have the position I have. I did wind them up by saying I could take a salary if I wished being named as a director and having access to accounts. I wouldn't give them the satisfaction but I've no doubt they'll be obsessively checking their banking over the next few days. :rotfl:

On the subject of finances, I've managed to get a few things up for sale and have managed to save an extra £30 this week. Savings are looking much more healthy and I ought to update my "saved in 2016" on here. Spreadsheets are still alive and well. Not calling Mrs K out for her personal spending yet but it's significantly lower than it has been because we've been away on holiday and since we've been back everything has been allocated.

gallygirl

AlexLK wrote: »

I did wind them up by saying I could take a salary if I wished being named as a director and having access to accounts. I wouldn't give them the satisfaction but I've no doubt they'll be obsessively checking their banking over the next few days. :rotfl:

The whole situation is very sad Alex, but :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:to the above!!!!

A_Frayed_Knot

AlexLK wrote: »

Today my mother said she's surprised I'm keeping myself involved in the business and she expected me to leave her to it.

Admission of guilt ?

AlexLK

gallygirl wrote: »

The whole situation is very sad Alex, but :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:to the above!!!!

My parents are very easy to wind up, Gally. :rotfl:

A_Frayed_Knot wrote: »

Admission of guilt ?

I doubt it. To be honest, I'm thinking about trying to come to some kind of a solution with them. I don't want to apologise because I don't think I have anything to apologise for but I've not been well. Last night I had no sleep at all and couldn't stop thinking about the fact I wouldn't be able to forgive myself if my father fell ill.

AlexLK

Managed to spend a bit of time on prepping the 5 Series to go up for sale. Also getting ready to let the Triumph go. In some ways I'll be glad to be back to a more manageable amount of cars after the BMW, TR and Triumph Saloon are sold. We are considering getting the roof and bathroom sorted with the money we'll raise. Unfortunately, it does feel a bit like "dead money" as we aren't going to see it back but it will make the house a much nicer place to live.

Going to save a bit extra this week as my wife has decided she doesn't want to go out with her work colleagues this Friday evening. If the weather is good we'll have a fish supper and take the dog for a long walk. Rather looking forward to that.

Conversed with an old school friend today, I ended up thinking I'm the worst parent around. His wife had their first child about 6 months ago and they've already got their daughter's first school sorted. She's started nursery three days per week and he had to tell me that was a more stimulating environment than being at home all the time (my son stayed at home until nearly three). Take her swimming and to a ballet (no not sure how that works either) class. Told him my son attends our local village school and his response was "what about his future?"

LadyGnome

You might get away with the very British approach of pretending nothing happened. Say to your Mum, as she seems more reasonable, that you won't apologise but you don't expect your Father to apologise either (because you know for a fact he won't). However, you are willing to put it behind you providing they don't bring it up again or repeat the behaviour that caused the problem.

LadyGnome

AlexLK wrote: »

Conversed with an old school friend today, I ended up thinking I'm the worst parent around. His wife had their first child about 6 months ago and they've already got their daughter's first school sorted. She's started nursery three days per week and he had to tell me that was a more stimulating environment than being at home all the time (my son stayed at home until nearly three). Take her swimming and to a ballet (no not sure how that works either) class. Told him my son attends our local village school and his response was "what about his future?"

We cross posted so I didn't pick this up in my previous post. You will find a lot of parents validate their parenting choices by challenging anyone who does something different. You often see this is state v private debates e.g. I decided not to send little Esme private because I want her to mix with all types and anyone who sends their child private does it out of snobbery versus all state school children are feral that is why we are right to shell out £xxxx per year for private. Neither are balanced or rational, its more a form of self justification.


I think the best answer is "its the right choice for him at the moment we will keep things under review". You know your child better than anyone and if he is happy and learning (not just school stuff) then he is fine.