Renovations and Repayments.

AlexLK

Sue, I've no intention to parent in the way my father considers to "work".

Regarding my son not having things I did, it's my own guilt over the matter that's the issue. I take interest in his interests, teach him many skills and really enjoy being a Dad. It sounds like you've got some wonderful memories, can't say I've things like that to share about when I was young.

newgirly

Job wise I guess it depends on if you can afford to continue as you are and if you are happy?

Changing the subject, what car are you getting rid of?

gallygirl

AlexLK wrote: »

Wife did answer the 'phone this evening and told mother that her grandson will be visiting his other grandparents for Father's Day. :rotfl:

Way to go Mrs LK :T:T:T

ourcornercottage

I think you will find if push comes to shove your parents need you a lot more than you need them. Perhaps they need a little reminder of that.

I it was me I would explain clearly why I am upset and then keep away for a while.

YOU are totally right on this one. Don't be bullied.

smallholdingsister

My point was NOT a job to meet financial commitments but A JOB!

AlexLK

newgirly wrote: »

Job wise I guess it depends on if you can afford to continue as you are and if you are happy?

Changing the subject, what car are you getting rid of?

We can afford to continue as is. To be honest, I don't think things would work very well if both my wife and I were working full time. We aren't really organised enough for it and both think it wouldn't be good for our son to have to go some other place than home after school.

Sold my old LR Discovery. Next to go is going to be the TR6; we need to get on with having the roof replaced soon.

gallygirl wrote: »

Way to go Mrs LK :T:T:T

:rotfl:

You've no idea how many times my mother has called since then. How dare we etc. etc. :rotfl: It's almost been amusing when I forget I've got to visit the in-laws tomorrow. I can see my mother's point as the in-laws will have their three children and 6 grandchildren tomorrow. Sent a card and short letter to my father in the post, do feel quite bad for doing that, to be honest.

ourcornercottage wrote: »

I think you will find if push comes to shove your parents need you a lot more than you need them. Perhaps they need a little reminder of that.

I it was me I would explain clearly why I am upset and then keep away for a while.

YOU are totally right on this one. Don't be bullied.

Thanks.

I wish I felt confident that was the case re. them needing me more than I need them. However, I suppose this happening again has made me realise I need to put my wife and son first. Things are much better between my wife and I when my parents aren't involved. We've talked a lot and for the first time in a long time I think both of us want to make things work. In a lot of ways I wish I didn't have the obligations as I'm quite sure my marriage would be better.

I haven't been to my parents' house but did send a letter to them earlier this week which they've received. I suppose I'll have to face them at some point soon but I just can't face it at the moment.

AlexLK

smallholdingsister wrote: »

My point was NOT a job to meet financial commitments but A JOB!

??? I don't sit around doing nothing all day, smallholding! I'll admit there's a part of me that would like to start a new career as I think I'd enjoy the challenge but for the reasons I've outlined to NG, I don't see it working.

AlexLK

Had a good end to the week financially. Sold my old LR Discovery which has been sat doing nothing for a good few months now. Was sad to see it go as I've got a lot of good memories of that car but realise hoarding it for no reason is ridiculous. Better it goes to a new home. Next one to go will be the TR6. Found some motivation to sell some things we've come to the conclusion we no longer want or need.

Decluttering is going slowly but it is happening and getting rid of some of the "stuff" is actually rather pleasing. This likely sounds a bit "out there" but I'm feeling better for getting rid of things that held some memories of the past that I'd rather not be constantly reminded of. On the subject of the house, I slept well in Cornwall but don't here. Gally will have a field day with this but the bedroom in the cottage had some parcels of dried lavender. So, perhaps there's something there with the lavender idea, AFK.

Over these few days I've been thinking about Goldie's (and others) words on here. This is very pathetic but I suppose I just want to make my parents think I'm something other than simply a waste of time and money.

smallholdingsister

Sorry Alex, I didn't mean you were idle.

I think you need a job that you got by merit which is just about you. I think this will help with your self esteem.

newgirly

Morning Alex, hope you have a good Father's Day despite all the issues!

Well done selling stuff, you must being making a bit on the triumph selling it this time of year?