The Garden Fence - help and support in tough times

Floss

Monna I can only echo everybody else, and also Phil & Kirsty, by saying go and look in person - perfect homes on t'interweb or EA particulars can so easily be complete turkeys, and vice versa. It is on a bus route so you would be able to gad about the Island and beyond, and by having your own apartment you could lock your own door any time you wish, stay in your jimjams all day or even install a toy-boy if you want to!

silvasava

OK gals - it's Greenbee, Mrs L and me ( and any other s who want to join us) over to Monna to make sure she gets the best option for her.
Seriously though Monna - can perfectly understand your feelings at the moment so check the place out as others have said before making your mind up. Your DS and DiL do love and appreciate you which is very evident in how they want the very best for you too - even if it seems you are not in control of your own destiny at the moment.
Putting a word in with the big man for you too xxxx

monnagran

How did you all get to be so wise and sensible? I feel very silly now. I think that I have just got through the last dark 18 months by fixing my hopes and dreams on my bungalow, my friends and my independent life on my own!
In my 78 years I have never lived on my own and the thought of not having to fit in with anyone else's life or even consider anyone else's wishes and foibles seems strangely attractive.

Greenbee and mar, I rather like the idea of of the late night parties and loud music. Do you reckon that I should aim for an ASBO?

Pollyanna. This business of putting yourself first is a tricky one, isn't it? I guess that 99% of the posters here have been brought up to put everybody's well being and interests before their own. I have never before been in any position to please myself about anything before and thus feel extremely selfish when I start telling people that
I want this, or I'm not having that.

Floss. I get you about EA's details. when I was buying this house there was another one that I liked the look of. The front garden looked huge with a drive that would have housed at least 4 or 5 cars. We fixed up a viewing and drove past the house 3 times before we realised which one it was. The front garden was tiny and the drive managed to contain one very small car. We drive past it every time we leave the village and still haven't worked out the angle that the photograph was taken from, or the camera lens used.

OK then. Silvasava will ferry all interested parties over for viewing expeditions. She will be cheaper than Wightlink and Red funnel but I'm not sure if she provides tea, coffee, and cooked breakfasts. Ask her.

I am going to hire all you lovely peeps out to the Samaritans. I feel so much better now.

Mind you, its all academic for now. We have to sell this place and if it's true that you don't sell a house, you sell a lifestyle we have a snowball's chance in hell of doing that.

Remember Steptoe's house?

x

greenbee

Monna - a few things to consider:

1. Go and look at the house ON YOUR OWN (or with a friend, but NOT with DS & DiL). You can go with them later. But first time on your own

2. It's on a bus route. You can get a bus to my house and house sit for me when I'm away for work.

3. If DS and DiL are keen it may make them put some effort into selling.

Floss

Maybe renting a storage unit for all the surplus stuff is a possible stopgap for the selling process? Then when you all move, hand them the keys and shut your door on your own clutter

BTW, you can get a bus to Blackpool on your way to perform house-sitting duties!

Hard_Up_Hester

Nurse Maggie, I'm so sorry I really hope you can find a a way to get to Malta.
I hope it all works out Monna, but you don't like the annex, don't agree to the move.
We are moored up for the night, we are through Banbury, where we stocked up with supplies for the next leg of our journey. We are making good time and hopefully will be home by next week.

silvasava

I'm definitely cheaper than the ferries and I can do tea, coffee and a mean bacon sarnie Monna. If you're up for house sitting I've got a prima Donna cat who loves a cuddle too.

greenbee

Can you nip to the antiques warehouse in Banbury while you're there Hester and see whether they have any nice wardrobes? If they do, I'm sure you can put one on the roof... I'll meet you in Newbury

Sounds like Monna doesn't need a house... just a big suitcase

pollyanna_26

Monna The suggestion from Greenbee is a good one . Someone who really knows and understands you would be an ideal companion to go with you to a solo viewing .
I did not mean putting yourself first in a selfish sense - poor choice of words - I meant know yourself best . You are the only one who knows the life you pictured when you had picked yourself up again following your swift and deeply upsetting return to the island .
I may have misread your posts in the time since then but there seemed to be an indication that although you clearly love and cherish your family , you still crave the personal space to process the events you never got to work your way through and find again the sort of life you had before leaving .
I wonder if although you would have your own front door in an annexe situation it wouldn't be what you need . I know how you've yearned to be reunited with your belongings in your own space and perhaps it would still be worth looking for that elusive home . I would look at this property but with an insight into what would bring you joy .

Nurse Maggie That's a very tight window for the holiday but I hope you manage to do it . So sorry you were so upset and hope things will sort themselves .

Lovely to see FPK popping in . I think of you often and so glad things are progressing well for you both .

Take care all . I've just been thinking if many more here take to boats we could raise an Armada !

polly x

nursemaggie

Exactly Polly I had booked them all around my holiday which has been booked since the first week in November. I have had my 17th May appointment booked for a year so I can't very well change it. The others were difficult to fit because I thought the holiday was a certainty.

Too be honest the first thing I thought when I got the email was "What if the treatment is not working and I can't get to visit before I get too ill. When you are not well you take things hard.

There will be lots of people who have booked accommodation and can only go on the exact dates. I had hoped to go twice if I was well enough.

They are staying another year in Malta the Uni have asked him to stay on an extra year. I think he quite likes teaching there. Not everyone is teaching the same subject as him like their usual collages.