The Garden Fence - help and support in tough times

Knit_Witch

Sorry to hear your news Silvasava

My OH once went out for paracetamol and came back with a deep fat fryer (and the paracetamol :rotfl:)

ivyleaf

Thank you CRANKY (really nice to "see" you btw )

Wishing your ankle well very soon Jazee!

Softstuff

Camelot :rotfl:

Was hearing a tale yesterday about some German tourists that visited our lovely area. After 12 hours they had to leave. They were entirely freaked out by the quantity of wildlife. Bearing in mind by that point they'd only seen a few scrub turkeys, lorikeets, a goanna and some geckos. If they'd have seen the side plate sized spider, paper wasps, moth with wings as big as your hands and snakes that we've had here, they'd have made it back to Germany under their own steam :rotfl:

mardatha

This is why I never wanted to emigrate to Oz :eek::eek:
Am reading one of the old Bony books now softstuff, love them but that's as close as I want to get.
Sorry for skim reading the forum and running.
Been feeling a lot better the last 2 weeks, now on a higher dose of steroids, more like my ratty wee self. Now working on a walk round the village every day (10 mins lol) to get some fitness back and stop my heart hammering like mad at the least wee exertion. Starting to eye up the garden and the amount of work that needs done - but that can wait until it thaws out.

Jazee

Morning fencers. Hope you're all ok today.

We have heat (at the moment) but the water is currently off. I have stocked up on bottled water and already filled my tea flask.

Camelot, your post made me laugh.

Have a great day everyone.

VJsmum

My OH went out to buy a barbecue and came back saying he'd seen a car we should buy. 10 mins later we did :eek:

15 years on We still have the car, but never did get the BBQ

mardatha

My RV went to Saltire Suzuki to buy a mirror for his bike and came home with a new bike! He got slagged by the sons, asking him if the mirror came with a bike attached ..

mrssnowy_2

Many years ago I went on a shopping trip with friends,and thought I would buy shoes for work.
Bought 2 sofas!
They were in a sale, returned items because the customer didn't like them and the nap was wrong way round on one arm. Wonderful bargain,although silly money and pale yellow,they were originally over£2k,but I got another £400 off them so I bought both for £900-with delivery.
They had been dirt proofed ,which was just as well as DD1 spilled a glass of red wine on her first visit after they arrived.
10 years on and 6 grandchildren later they still look lovely.

Hugs and bin bags to all who need them.

mrss

nursemaggie

I think we must have all done it. I went out to look for my eldest son. There was a garage at the top of the street. The car my husband was looking for, right make, right model, right year, Wrong colour, for sale. I had a good look all over it even got down on the ground and looked underneath. It had a really expensive underseal and the milage was very low.

I put a holding deposit on it. Then held my breath. Either he would love it and forgive the colour or he would not speak to me for months other than to belittle me.

He loved that car though I never got any thanks. I would not have been surprised if he had still got it but for someone running into the back of it, on a garage forecourt and writing it off. It was a delivery lorry.

Having rubber chicken today. I got an organic, free range, chicken, YS, just before Christmas. Price was £10.57 I got it for £1.49. It's quite big so I think I may be putting a few chicken curries in the freezer. It won't keep as long as it will last.

candygirl

greent wrote: »

I disagree - mental abuse can be just as devastating as physical - you question yourself constantly and even dismiss it as abuse because there was no physical harm - therefore surely you're just confused and must have got it wrong - so is it all your fault then...? - thoughts which you can have - assuming you even recognise it's abuse - it can be so sly and insidious that before you know it you are no longer the person you were - it can destroy self confidence, belief in oneself - you question yourself and feel powerless, as nothing you do is right. As a result you can become timid and overly passive and don't draw attention to yourself even if the abuser is abusing someone else (eg a child) as you don't want it turned on you. You can be all over the place with emotions - super high and ultra low and take your anger/ frustration/ sadness (even if you don't realise it) out on others. All of this can lead to sleep issues, depression, lack of trust of others and even suicidal tendencies or substance abuse as a crutch.

Emotional abuse can be just as devastating as physical - and can be easily dismissed as someone just being a bit daft/ under pressure - people can see bruises (admittedly they are usually hidden - but evidence is there) - it's hard to see the evidence of a slow burn mental abuse.

Both are awful. However, if you are in an abusive relationship of any sort it is easy to see it as *normal* as your thinking becomes twisted and there is often shame and guilt involved

*gets off soapbox now! *

Totally agree I still have scars from both physical n emotional abuse, and in my case they were both as damaging