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nursemaggie

Monna some of us were talking about our own mothers they can be just as bad.

Softstuff

nursemaggie wrote: »

Monna some of us were talking about our own mothers they can be just as bad.

My MIL is probably my best friend. She's lovely and we get along great. In fact my last MIL was pretty nice too :rotfl:

Floss

;)My ex-MiL gave both her son and DS2 a copy of the Nuts Joke Book for Christmas this year...but then again she acquired a pile of Penthouse magazines from a neighbour clearing out her brother's house after he died, thinking they were home d!cor,and also went to see the film Emmanuel because she thought it was religious... Oh, and she once gave me an ironing board and 3 tea towels - for my 30th birthday :eek:

camelot1001

My MIL re-arranged the living room not long after we were married whilst I was at work because 'It looks better like this'.

Jazee

My MILis lovely. Not perfect but lovely anyway and very thoughtful. I love it when she comes to stay. She's quite elderly and limited in what she can do these days but we have a great time ganging up on my DH and all his shortcomings. Great fun.

My mother on the other hand is a nasty piece of work and I finally gave up on her 5 years ago. There is only so much negativity you can take in your life and nearly 50 years of it was too much.

I'm not a MIL yet, but I do try to be nice to my children's partners. They're great people anyway.

Hard_Up_Hester

My 2nd MIL was lovely, though she did say 'Oh not again!' when my L&M told her we were getting married. That was because he's been married twice before. I just say it's the triumph of hope over experience, and despite what I wrote on my blog yesterday I still love him after 15 years, I also want to kill him occasionally, but I consider that normal.

VJsmum

camelot1001 wrote: »

My MIL re-arranged the living room not long after we were married whilst I was at work because 'It looks better like this'.

My sister's MiL was prone to doing this, infuriating. Her OH had to have a word...

The thing is, my mother was never like it (though she never got to the age my MiL is) but my dad isn't really like it either and he is the same age.

She keeps saying that she wished we had a granny flat so she could move in :eek: I have told my OH that if she moves in, I move out....

Though to be fair, he'd probably move first :rotfl:

mardatha

I think that bad mothers and MILs are here to teach us how to be different. I am a really good mum and I know it, Not soft or soppy but kind and always there to talk to, unlike my own mum.
I try so hard to be a good MIL that my kids sometimes fall out with me lol. But now I've given up on one of them, there's only so much I can take and I'm not falling out with my son over his choice of wife - it's his life not mine. I'm polite and sociable on the few times I meet her. Last time was a Saturday afternoon at 3pm, the house looked like a bomb hit it and she was still in bed after a "girls night out". Her xmas present to us was a box of plain biscuits - and she knows the RV is diabetic. But the birds will be happy cos they're getting them

monnagran

In contrast to my MIL, my stepMIL was wonderful. Unpredictable, demanding, borderline crazy, but the best fun imaginable.

She was French and came over here during the war to work with the Free French. She was a member of SOE, which was how she met FIL. During the war she was parachuted behind enemy lines and helped run an escape route through France and into Spain. What a character!

Unfortunately she was quite unliveable with. I had her staying with me for a month when FIL died and took to keeping a card in my pocket that just said "SORRY". This was held up behind her back to mollify people in shops, bars, banks etc who were being driven to distraction by her.

When she decided that she was going to leave France and come and live with me, I had to sell my house and buy the smallest cottage I could find to scupper that idea. Buying a flat nearby me was, apparently, not an option.

I will write that book one day.

x

ivyleaf

nursemaggie wrote: »

Two blue eyed parents can have a brown eyed baby. DS has brown eyes but both his father and I have blue eyes. DS looks like his paternal grandfather.

This is interesting. I have hazel/green eyes and OH's are blue-grey. We have three children; one has brown eyes (a smoky brown, as if there's grey mixed in), one has hazel just like her maternal grandfather's, and one has bright blue!