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candygirl

Hard_Up_Hester wrote: »

My MIL told her son that our baby couldn't be his as the baby had blue eyes, FIL had blue eyes too, so I'm not sure how she worked that one out.

My ex MIL did the same about my DD :mad: Funny how they're both tall n blonde innit grr :mad:

VJsmum

Two brown eyed parents can have a blue eyed child
But two blue eyed parents can not have a brown eyed child

nursemaggie

Two blue eyed parents can have a brown eyed baby. DS has brown eyes but both his father and I have blue eyes. DS looks like his paternal grandfather.

silvasava

The one good thing about having g a MiL from hell is that it makes us all aware of how not to be!! My first MiL invited herself, FiL, Brother and SiL with 3 kids to us for Christmas - we'd moved into our first home that year, would probably have been fine except I was 8 1/2 months pregnant! Did she help did she bu**ery. My SiL washed up and cleared away and made me have a nap for an hour (stil keep in touch with her) So glad next Mil didn't think the sun shone out of her DS bum!!

VJsmum

It seems that genetics has moved on since I did O level biology

http://genetics.thetech.org/how-blue-eyed-parents-can-have-brown-eyed-children

candygirl

Are babies not all born blue eyed to start with?

Hard_Up_Hester

Yep, and the baby was a week old when she announced this.

Softstuff

VJsmum wrote: »

Examples have been

"I don't suppose i will ever come here again"
"Tomorrow i have to go home and be all by myself again"
"I might be dead tomorrow"
"It's not home - it's that place where I live"

And the best, the BEST was after a relative (a cousin) had sadly died a while before and we had gone on holiday

"Isn't it sad that we are having so much fun and Keith is dead.."

:rotfl:

I am far too familiar with this VJsmum. From my mother and from my auntie in laws mum on Christmas Day.

My personal favourite this year from my mother was on Christmas morning, she told me of all her woes, how she had taken zero pleasure in anything festive this year (despite having been out many times with friends etc), after 20 minutes of this (she never once asked even how I was) she said "but don't let my misery put a dampener on your celebrations"...:rotfl:

I dread phoning her. I'm down to a couple of times a week now and it's too much. And the annual visit.... *shudder *

monnagran

Oh goody, goody. I'm up for a bit of MIL bashing.

My ex MIL had perfected the art of making remarks that were derogatory and seemingly approving at the same time.

"I don't care what everyone says about your new hairdo, I think it suits you."

This was reported to me soon after we were married..................
"They are living in the upstairs flat. They're not paying me any rent and I don't like to ask for it."
(I should think not indeed. It was our house and we were paying the mortgage. If anyone should be paying rent it was her, her brother and her aunt who were all living in the major part of the house.)

She was oh! so brave and oh! so martyred, and I was the daughter in law from hell who did heinous things like peg her knickers out on the clothesline where anyone could see them. The trollop.

Don't get me started!

x

karcher

monnagran wrote: »

Oh goody, goody. I'm up for a bit of MIL bashing.

My ex MIL had perfected the art of making remarks that were derogatory and seemingly approving at the same time.

"I don't care what everyone says about your new hairdo, I think it suits you."

This was reported to me soon after we were married..................
"They are living in the upstairs flat. They're not paying me any rent and I don't like to ask for it."
(I should think not indeed. It was our house and we were paying the mortgage. If anyone should be paying rent it was her, her brother and her aunt who were all living in the major part of the house.)

She was oh! so brave and oh! so martyred, and I was the daughter in law from hell who did heinous things like peg her knickers out on the clothesline where anyone could see them. The trollop.

Don't get me started!

x

And you said nothing?

All due respect to family etc when it is reciprocated, but you have to draw a line somewhere.

Not easy I know, but that would have been a real kick in the teeth for me.