The Garden Fence - help and support in tough times

mardatha

Not been wet up here, it's been cold and sunny-ish.
I'm looking for a good easy nice recipe for leek & tattie soup ... if anybody has a tried and trusted one I'd be grateful (not the fancy stuff please). I've still not got energy to do much so I'm trying to keep myself motivated and busy - although I'm getting a wee bit stir crazy now.
Anybody else have a child who just never phones, or visits, even although they live quite near? I'm wondering how common that is. Just at this time of year you seem to feel more hurt by it somehow.

Floss

Mar, we have one who rarely gets in touch, he lives over an hour away & doesn't drive but he has a phone & email yet struggles to use them to contact his mother We've just gradually accepted that he is just not very good at this communication lark! His brother is completely the other way, so the characteristic was split unequally (same as the parents - I'm the communicator, their dad isn't ).

It is hard, but he now rings or texts me around his payday, usually when he's about to ring his grandparents

fuddle

Mar Hugh Fernley W has a recipe on the net somewhere using potato peelings in soup. I've made it a few times and have to say the peelings give the soup an extra bit of flavour. The colour is something to be desired mind but adding leeks will likely help

You're not allowed to be feel hurt Mar. They say sons stay to their mams and daughters fly off don't they? DH's mam has a daughter up in Scotland who only rings when she wants something, namely MIL to travel up to mind her child. They hardly ever come down here and when they do its done in secret so they don't have to visit everyone. It's hurtful but the way it is. She has a son who is never far away and checks in with her often and another daughter who lives in her pocket. Just can't fathom it really

Hard_Up_Hester

Mar, I have 4 children, and one rarely gets in touch, a while ago I emailed him and he replied to his sister, lol. I'm partly to blame as I don't want to be thought of as interfering and work on the theory that he will contact me if he needs something.
DD & I went to see an AM Dram performance of Bracken Moor last night, it was very well done and enjoyable, but it's not a cheerful play.

ivyleaf

OH always put off ringing his mother because he knew she'd complain how long it had been since the last time. He couldn't seem to equate cause and effect......

ETA: Come to think of it, neither of them could

mardatha

The RV does that lol, he's terrible. I am careful not to do it. But it doesn't make any difference. Not to worry, it is what it is!

Nargleblast

Today I bottled a batch of elderberry brandy, and had a part bottle left over for current use. It is absolutely gorgeous, never again will I buy port for Christmas!

Hard_Up_Hester

Fuddle, I always remember the rhyme your son is your son 'til he finds a wife, your daughter's your daughter for all of your life.
Actually I think it depends of the people involved.

monnagran

Mar: If it helps, my eldest only ever gets in touch when he has a financial crisis and needs bailing out. It has got so that when he rings my first question is, "How much?"
I have no doubt that he loves me, as I do him, but he has a difficult personality and at the age of 47 I think he is not going to change now.
He is not getting in touch with me at the moment because he feels guilty about letting me down yet again and I don't feel like letting him off the hook.
If I were ever in trouble he would be there for me in a flash. Human relationships are weird, aren't they?

I'm trying to get myself geared up for Christmas/selling the house/sort out the 'stuff' that has taken over my room/get my summer clothes packed up and my winter clothes out of their vacuum bag/find somewhere to hang the said winter clothes/write some of the letters that I owe just about everyone/catch up on this thread...........................

It's so much easier to wrap myself in a duvet and knit Christmas stockings.

x

monnagran

My blood runneth cold.

Pickle has been looking at toys on the Am*z*n web page on my tablet.

" Ah!, Sweet!" I thought.

I have just gone on to the page myself and noticed to my horror that 2 items have been added to my basket. A unicorn pendant necklace and some mysterious piece of 'frozen' tat.
Thank goodness she didn't avail herself of the 'one click' facility.

Are they conducting computer courses in the womb these days?