The Garden Fence - help and support in tough times

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pollyanna_26 wrote: »

Kittie Some years ago we faced a similar situation . Both physically and emotionally it was too difficult . After much heart searching we visited their favourite place of all which was a cathedral . y

Thank you all for your very considered, helpful and sensitive responses. I have gone back to basics and am discussing it with my siblings, who are saying the above. One neighbour has suggested writing individual letters to the two daughters, when we get the funeral date. All of them are so understanding, the day is about my sil and her immediate family, not me and my loss. I know that last year, a couple of more immediate family could not come and they did some sort of `service` at home, candles and flowers in a stream. I was perfectly accepting and understanding and it was lovely to know that this was going on elsewhere

There now, writing this down has made me rest easy and I know what to do

Some of you, on the toughies thread, have been through various traumas in the last months. So very exhausting. Physically and mentally takes it out of you, even starting from a healthy situation. Life is never a smooth path. Just now I am feeling drained and so are my brothers and sisters but it is natural, just have to listen to our bodies and cut corners to try and re-coup energy, it will come back

edit: Thanks to a nudge from fuddle, I am back to listening to my intuition. I have made my decision and honestly it is like a heavy weight has lifted. I still feel tired but can feel my energy coming back, it was blocked :kisses: I love it when I turn a corner. Can`t say enough thanks

ivyleaf

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

Quick question for the day - and wondering if anyone knows the answer to it please:

I'm not a great tv watcher - so go through the weekly TV Guide and decide on any that take my fancy at the beginning of the week.....and then it often doesn't work out when I dial up the channel concerned (ie that's not the programme that is actually playing). Reason being - my tv guide is a national one and I'm now in Wales and sometimes the channel shows a different programme here to the one advertised.

I know that to get Channel 4 I just input for Channel 8 on my Freeview set-up instead. As inputting "4" will give me the Welsh tv channel instead. I shall be getting a new tv soon - so presume I can just get the tv guy to change that so I automatically get "Channel 4" when I put in "4".

I've not figured what to do about the others though. Two nights in a row I've decided to watch something on BBC2 and got an alternative programme coming up that the Welsh BBC2 is having instead (which often seems to be a sport one - and I don't have the slightest interest in sport). Yesterday's "Sea Cities" on from 7-8pm turned out to be a snooker programme here for instance.

I've got round that to date by watching any programmes I particularly wanted to see the following day on I-player on my computer. Obviously - I'd rather watch the programme I've decided on at the time though. So - is there a number I can input on my Freeview set-up that will give me the "standard" BBC2 programmes instead of the Welsh BBC2 programmes iyswim?

OH says you need to look at the programme guide on your Freeview box, and that will list all the channels available to you so that you can see what you've actually got and what numbers they are on. He says there should be a button on your remote control labelled "Guide" or similar.

He says it's very unlikely that the chap who installs your new TV will be able to change the numbers you need to input, because the numbers have nothing to do with the actual TV set IYSWIM.

HTH.

ivyleaf

kittie I'm so glad for you xx

silvasava

DGD has just been round to collect her card and pressy (cash!) as her boyfriend is taking her to London in the morning for the weekend. He's not been on the London Eye and she wanted to go to the Dungeon. Helpful Nan has sourced them 2for1 deals. She's also told me they are both going to open Help to Buy ISA's so I'm sure we'll be having some discussions about that in the next couple of weeks! ( with input from Martin ) Weather here has turned cold and the rain is sweeping in so Fish & Chip supper for us tonight. Hope e eryone has a good evening

monnagran

Kittie: well done you. To make decisions of any colour when you are in a dreadfully emotional state of mind is incredibly difficult. You are obviously very close to your family and this is wonderful. You have all of us lighting candles, thinking and praying for you because we really care about you. Just relax and rest in all the love and support that surrounds you.

FUDDLE : Such a wise and empathetic head on such young shoulders, - you take my breath away sometimes, flower.

Moneyistooshort: sorry I can't help on tech problems but I do know how irritating it is not to be able to watch the programmes you want to. Good luck with finding a solution.

Silvasava: fish and chips at home sounds very appealing. My DIL is going out to dinner tonight with half a dozen of her friends, finishing at the local village pub where they have a live music evening. They have kindly asked me to join them for dinner but even more kindly said that I can miss the rowdy drinking session that will follow. They know me so well!
It is persisting down at the moment and the wind is getting up. The thought of getting togged up and trekking off to a restaurant for an evening of eating more than i want to and being sociable makes me feel very tired. What IS tempting is the thought of cheese on toast followed by bed with a hot water bottle and my book. Sometimes I really feel my age, which is very, very old.

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camelot1001

So glad you have made your decision kitty, you will be able to have clearer thoughts now. It's so good that all your friends on here have been able to give pros and cons that has enabled you to make your choice.

money - That happens a lot here too, just when you settle to watch something blumin scottish football is on! Your 'guide' button should point you in the right direction. Usually the programme that has been substituted is shown at some at a later date but usually the middle of the night!

monna - hope you enjoy your meal, sometimes these evenings turn out to be good fun.

Really miserable weather here, just finished the housework so will have a nice relaxing evening.

Hard_Up_Hester

Just to lower the tone of the thread as I am wont to do.
I was in the kitchen yesterday when my eight year old granddaughter wandered in and said 'Nana, what's phone sex?'
Eventually after a few stunned moments of waffling and babbling I asked 'Why do you want to know, you don't have a phone.'
DGD looked puzzled, held up a blue bottle and said 'It's written on the bottle'
It was a bottle of PhosEx, we use it in the fish tank to improve the water.
That'll teach me to put my hearing aids in when the DGC are visiting!

pollyanna_26

Kittie I am so pleased you have found a solution to your dilemma . There is no right or wrong way in these situations as long as there is no intention of hurting others . I always trust that inner voice which has been with mankind since we began .
I hope that you will have a restful and restorative sleep tonight . It is the weighing up of pros and cons which saps us mentally and physically and I am glad you have made your own decision without too much delay .
take care polly

pollyanna_26

So I come on here to catch up and after writing to Kittie , I start to read back and thank posts . First post Hester . You really crease me up That's one for the the posts you didn't expect . Dig the hearing aids out or I dread future posts .:rotfl:
Monna I'll join you and have a rarebit , saves me thinking what to eat .
In this weather flannelette sheets , a hot water bottle and a good book are my idea of luxury . I shall watch Shetland and head to a cosy warm bed . Remember Monna Forever Young !

Softstuff

Monna, I'm with you at avoiding a drinking session, but for a different reason. I seem to have developed an intolerance to alcohol :eek: The last time I had a few drinks a few weeks ago I felt rough as all hell, so have abstained. Last night I had a glass and a bit of wine and today I feel positively green. Soft drinks it is for me, !!!!!!, I need to find a new vice. No Hester, not that, I already have that one