The single track road - life on a different path

MeandO

Hello all x

Well done on the clearing hummingbird, it's very cleansing isn't it. Tidy house, tidy mind and all that... Although I've not done any more since last week, need to get back on it as soon as I get chance.

I'm off work present as Ds has been really poorly with chickenpox.
Poor little thing has been suffering and we had to take him up to the out of hours emergency service twice on Saturday as he was writhing in agony. The blisters are absolutely everywhere. They seem to be going now, but he's do lethargic, not eating which I think is down to having some chickenpox in his mouth, and it's so heart-wrenching seeing him poorly.

I've not updated YNAB for a few days, but really need to one night this week. I've taken my eye off the budget, been spoiling people far too much as usual and forgotten the Childcare fees had yet to be taken out of the bank, so annoying when I have them the cheque weeks ago. I've had to switch some money round, but hoping I can transfer it back into the original pots before payday in 10 days time.

I did a load more work in the garden yesterday afternoon when ds was with his dad, so it is nearly really almost finished now. I just need to pick up a couple more lengths of decking as I was a bit short.

Him came home two days early last week, so spent time together which was nice. Didn't see him or his daughter at the weekend (which was a relief as apparently she was a nightmare!) due to the pox and me and Ds snuggling and staying sofa bound all weekend.
Had a bit of an upset with Him today over email/text which upset me, but hopefully sorted now. We're supposed to be going away this weekend from fri to mon, and boy, it's really needed, but I will see if Ds is better first.

I'm feeling rough with a throat bug too, so we're both in bed early tonight. Ds is dosed up with painkillers and will hopefully get a good night's sleep tonight, poor little thing is exhausted, as is his mummy.

Night all
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stepuptothepl8

Oh goodness, poor little one! DD got chickenpox just before the Olympics.. We had tickets to go see the dressage and I was praying that she'd be non-contagious by the time we had to go to London... Luckily she seemed to breeze through it. Two weeks later.. I got it :eek: and spent two weeks bedridden. The worst I have ever felt in my life so I have every sympathy.. Hope you both get a good nights sleep xxx

apple_muncher

Poor ds - hope he recovers soon. To my knowledge, dd hasn't had the pox, despite 4 waves of it through her school. Yet she managed to start y2 with ...shingles. Ow!

xx

MeandO

Thanks both, happy to report he's back at school today . Apparently 5 of his classmates have had it this past week! :eek:

Last night I updated YNAB as I had been neglecting it.
Result was not good shall we say, but it has made me see that I need to make some big changes next month. I'll continue to update it as I go, despite the results not being pretty, and will address next month's stricter budget on payday which is 8 days away.
I have two parcels ready to return which will put about £80 back into the account and £10 of items I need to take back locally, which will help, unfortunately I've had to drain most of my savings pots too just to stop me being overdrawn this month.

The business is doing well and there is money in that account but I need to pay out for lots of materials soon, and possibly membership to an anti-copying in design thing, so I can't draw on any of that at the moment.

This weekend I'm away, but need to keep it cheap! It shouldn't be too spend-worthy, just food to budget for and I already have some of that in.

My lovely parents sent me a £25 gift card for Tesco this week and a £10 B&Q voucher after a bit of a DIY disaster (long story:o:(), so they will both help. They also sent DS some spending money and treats, they are so lovely to us. My Dad is also going to fix the DIY disaster for me too so I don't have to spend £200+ getting it done. Although OH has said he will sort it next week, but as it was his handywork in the first place, I'm reluctant!

Trying to keep positive!

apple_muncher

If your savings have stopped you going overdrawn then I reckon that is a 'high-five' situation!

Glad ds is well enough for school.

You have lovely parents!

Sleep well xx

MeandO

Thanks Apple, I guess that's one way to look at it. I wish I had your positive outlook on life, I really do!


A busy evening tonight - a bit more finished in the garden, DS fed, watered, cuddled and now snoring in bed and then I set to work again and completed all but two orders (which can wait until next week as I've run out of toner). They're all wrapped and ready to go, and I almost had my mojo back for my little business for a while tonight. It will start to get busy now in the months running up to Christmas (and when I say busy, I mean working until late EVERY night, 7 day a week for 2 or 3 months). It is very hard work, especially after working a full day, but it is worth it and I need the money now for sure.


I've also sorted a few more bits for the charity shop bag tonight, so a little more cleared. Whilst looking for a birthday card, I came across some letters and cards from Ds's Dad when we first met. I didn't put myself through the pain of reading them, but have now got rid. No point holding onto things that will only make me feel sad eh. How I wish I could go back in time and change things though.


Him has really peed me off tonight too with a bad mood and attitude towards me from the moment he picked up the phone tonight. Haven't actually spoken to him in 2 days although he did text me a couple of times today. Apparently 'it's not my fault, he's just having a bad week'. Too bloody right it's not my fault Mr!!!!! Almost put the phone down on him, but didn't want an argument so did actually say goodbye first lol.


Men. (sorry to any male readers).
Where do I find a good one?? And one who isn't more like a brother (the ex!).
I'm on the verge of giving up tbh!


There'll be no extra payments to the debt this month I'm afraid, unless I suddenly come into money (not holding my breath). I'm hoping the business takings will soon enable me to start paying some of the debt off soon though, fingers crossed.


Urgh, Ds has just woken up crying and is really unsettled but doesn't know why. Looks like it's going to be a long night for me...


Sweet dreams all
x

MeandO

Just remembered (and double-checked), I should be getting £70 CB paid from quidco in the next day or two from a central heating cover policy I took out a while ago (and have since had to use when the boiler broke down!), so have probably more than recouped the cost of that this year.
Would've been nice to use the £70 as an extra payment this week, but unfortunately it'll have to go straight in the bank account to prop that up a bit.

hummingbird

^Great that you've got that cashback! I must see if I can get some on a similar product, as my central heating/boiler insurance is due for renewal at the end of august! I might not have thought about getting cashback and a better deal so thank you!!!:j:j

Levi-

hi Me&O
thanks for your updates, was really missing you, the place is dead quite without you and Liltster! Glad that O is feeling better from his 'pox - was he OK in the end after the dream, did you find out what was wrong?
don't give up on all the men folk, there are one or 2 decent ones lurking around at times, but i think nothing is ever always plain sailing unfortunately, and i hope you enjoy the weekend away with him and that he picks up his attitude, you deserve the best! don't accept less

wish you a great night and a wonderful time away if i don't cya before hand xxxxxxxxxxx

MeandO

Back from our weekend away, happy to report we had a really lovely and relaxing time. We had a talk and sorted a few things out that had been bothering me before we went as I didn't want to go away with that hanging over us and also had a good chat about the future whilst we were there one morning, (sitting out on a sunny bench in the beautiful cottage garden with lots of butterflies flittering all around ) and things are clearer for both of us now

Back to reality and Him is now away at work again, and I'm sat at my desk in a miserable mood.

I dropped Ds off at 'summer club' this morning, which is at his usual after school club but open to all and with different staff which I wasn't aware of. There were only a few other kids there and none that he knows, with staff he doesn't know very well, so he was really reluctant once we got there and I think there were tears when I was walking away which has made me feel awful. Thankfully he's only there today and tomorrow.

It's payday on Friday, tax credits in tomorrow. Spent more money than I anticipated at the weekend, but had the money available so not getting wound up about it.

Onto the next thing - I've decided I'm going to take a bit of a break from the diary.

I don't feel it's helping me at the moment, but instead, is causing me to dwell on things that I am working on, but cannot change overnight. I feel I need to just 'get on with life' at the moment, without documenting it.
I will pop back now and then to update, but won't be on here regularly, so thank you to all for your support so far, it has helped a great deal, I shall be rooting for you all in your different journeys and popping by to see how you're all doing, so please don't think I have abandoned you all, I just need to focus on 'real life' for now.

Lots of love
MeandO
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