levi: la vida loca

apple_muncher

Just a thought: I think you mentioned early on about the time required to get LL to school and then for you to get to work. Will the potential move increase or decrease your commute? xx

Levi-

All views are more than welcome and appreciated, what more would I expect of my amazing team of MSE cheerleaders:)

I think I'd be hard pushed to find a better person to share with, we have been friends for several years, she knew my wife, she knows all the stuff that's gone on, very open minded, LL loves her like an aunty, animal lover.. stable job, level headed, already in a relationship which means she is away quite a lot of the time at his house but has no plans to relinquish this house even if she didn't live in it, she would continue to rent it out. So we could work that out along the way.

I am not entirely happy with my flat. It has a lot of bad memories. And is full of junk that I don't even own as it came furnished. I don't feel great in it. I don't feel zen. The only thing putting me off is LL settling into his room and don't want that from scratch again. He may be fine. My friend has said we can have the two smaller rooms which are side by side.. she has a master with bathroom, and we'd have the other bathroom too. The rest would be shared. LL would get to have all the stuff he is attached to from his room now. And I could make it positive for him in lots of other ways.. such as planting things in the garden, a big living room, a bigger kitchen, some parks near by, and keeping the other changes to a minimal like school and our routine.

MessyBetty

P.S. The God of lodgers shone on me the day my lodger came to stay, my daughter's friend, trustworthy, lovely, works ridiculous hours, works shifts, rarely seen, pays rent on time and clears any mess as I have never seen any. Lucky me I know it's not always like this xx

Levi-

Apple. it would add about 10 mins on I reckon, we'd take a slightly different route in (more motorway) but wouldn't lose much time.

Levi-

I'm so taken by the idea of being able to pay an extra £200-£300 per month to my debt!

hummingbird

Levi- wrote: »

All views are more than welcome and appreciated, what more would I expect of my amazing team of MSE cheerleaders:)

I think I'd be hard pushed to find a better person to share with, we have been friends for several years, she knew my wife, she knows all the stuff that's gone on, very open minded, LL loves her like an aunty, animal lover.. stable job, level headed, already in a relationship which means she is away quite a lot of the time at his house but has no plans to relinquish this house even if she didn't live in it, she would continue to rent it out. So we could work that out along the way.

I am not entirely happy with my flat. It has a lot of bad memories. And is full of junk that I don't even own as it came furnished. I don't feel great in it. I don't feel zen. The only thing putting me off is LL settling into his room and don't want that from scratch again. He may be fine. My friend has said we can have the two smaller rooms which are side by side.. she has a master with bathroom, and we'd have the other bathroom too. The rest would be shared. LL would get to have all the stuff he is attached to from his room now. And I could make it positive for him in lots of other ways.. such as planting things in the garden, a big living room, a bigger kitchen, some parks near by, and keeping the other changes to a minimal like school and our routine.

Well that's answered just about all of my questions then hasn't it??!!!!!:rotfl:

Love & hugs xxx

stepuptothepl8

Hi Levi (& cheerleading team!)
The potential new house sounds very tempting indeed... Hummingbird listed the pros and cons very well. I think ground rules would need to be in place .. But otherwise I think it's serendipity, and worth considering very seriously.

You sound SO much more positive today. Hurrah!!!! Much love xx

MessyBetty

Levi- wrote: »

. The only thing putting me off is LL settling into his room and don't want that from scratch again. He may be fine. My friend has said we can have the two smaller rooms which are side by side.. she has a master with bathroom, and we'd have the other bathroom too. The rest would be shared. LL would get to have all the stuff he is attached to from his room now. And I could make it positive for him in lots of other ways.. such as planting things in the garden, a big living room, a bigger kitchen, some parks near by, and keeping the other changes to a minimal like school and our routine.

It seems to me that a fresh start will be the making of you Levi. I know what it is like to rent and I know what it is like to be somewhere with deep relationship memories. Moving on was the best feeling ever. LL will soon settle again as children are resilient and you have so much to gain, he will respond to your positivity and strength.

Sorry I'm going on and on tonight MB xx

MessyBetty

Levi- wrote: »

I'm so taken by the idea of being able to pay an extra £200-£300 per month to my debt!

Please don't let this be your only motivation, I'm sure it's not as there are so many more plusses but be honest with yourself xx

Bobarella

I'd be tempted I think. It does sound like there are a lot of pluses. Would it also free up your current deposit or would you still need to pay one to your friend?

Personally I found moving when my son was 3 quite easy. He didn't mind our new house and we've now been here 3 years so some good stability in any case. I think there is always a reason why not to try something new same as there is to go for it.