The guilt of making your kids revise

bizzybee

This was me last year with my dear Stroppy Spice. Putting the timetable together was the easy part, making sure she stuck to it was what caused the strops.

My tips that come to mind:

Take the phone away while she's revising, let her have it during the breaks.

Do use the science revision videos on YouTube, especially the AQA ones if that's the syllabus she's doing.

Make sure she gets good sleep at night.

Don't over-revise one area of a subject and neglect the rest of the syllabus!

If she really wants to do medicine she needs to start doing something as soon as possible that is related to the subject - volunteering at a hospital, helping the elderly, etc. I cannot stress enough that this is just as important as the grades when you apply to universities because they'll have hundreds of candidates with the required string of As so you need to show how committed you are.

Flugelhorn

I have never got involved with my kids revision - they have just got on with it themselves. they know full well that if they don't work hard they might end up as doctors like their parents and that freaks them out. So they work very hard. 14A* 5A GCSEs between them so far.

misspickle_2

Buzzybee90 wrote: »

You are aware it's her taking the exams, not you? Would have driven me mad if my parents got involved.

And exactly how helpful was that comment?

Clearly your parents DIDNT get involved. Hence .........

Either find something constructive to say or leave this good mother alone.

Buzzybee90

misspickle wrote: »

And exactly how helpful was that comment?

Clearly your parents DIDNT get involved. Hence .........

Either find something constructive to say or leave this good mother alone.

I think it's more productive to let children take charge of their own life.

I got straight A results, it's irrelevant now as little attention is paid to GCSE results, as long as you're ok in maths and English.

Buzzybee90

Jagraf wrote: »

That's fair enough too. I don't think I'm overpowering her though.

That's ok, I just think sometimes children knowing it's in their hands (as opposed to something their parents tell them they need to do) can be more of an incentive.

misspickle_2

Buzzybee90 wrote: »

I think it's more productive to let children take charge of their own life.

I got straight A results, it's irrelevant now as little attention is paid to GCSE results, as long as you're ok in maths and English.

Now this I get!
I think it was the delivery on your last post that threw me

This post of yours does make a good point though.

I was an A student too. I loved school. Thick as two short planks now though as I've spent the last 20 odd years in horses and dogs. But that was through choice. I wouldn't change anything.

Buzzybee90

misspickle wrote: »

Now this I get!
I think it was the delivery on your last post that threw me

This post of yours does make a good point though.

I was an A student too. I loved school. Thick as two short planks now though as I've spent the last 20 odd years in horses and dogs. But that was through choice. I wouldn't change anything.

I do that, sorry.

I'm sure you're not, sounds like a good life to me!

misspickle_2

Buzzybee90 wrote: »

I do that, sorry.

I'm sure you're not, sounds like a good life to me!

Life is what you make it.

GoldenShadow

Why don't you book fun things for her to do (with you?) so that she has things on the calendar to look forward to. Like a whole Sunday off doing something really fun. If she starts now and is prepared you can carry on doing stuff in the run up to exams. All her friends will be boarded up revising and she can have a nice day/afternoon off because she's organised and started months ago.

I'm 23 and exams still haven't stopped! I did GCSEs, A Levels, Uni and all the exams/coursework that go with that and now I'm on a grad scheme which is full time work and studying for an accountancy qualification. I quit like the peaks and troughs of stress to the point I'm really bored and a bit down in the troughs at times. I think having good intentions is a big thing. I know a lot of people who never even cared. If you have good intentions and let yourself down, at least you have those good intentions to build on next time around.

misspickle_2

Jag is losing her thread. The point of it was why is jag feeling guilt?
And how does she get rid of it?

Correct me if I'm wrong jag.

But know if you do I will never speak to you again.

:rotfl:

Just kidding. :iloveyou: