bit upset by MIL's careless comment

tanith

Grimbal wrote: »

They are very close, and no doubt she is somewhat over protective. I just don't appreciate her implication that I would leave her poorly son to struggle on

Look at it this way if its the worst thing she ever says about you, you're doing ok in the scheme of things...:) Its a bit hurtful but I would try to brush it off .

barbiedoll

Mothers-in-law eh, can't live with 'em.........


and that's why god invented shovels and patios.


(This is what my husband says to my mum on a regular basis! :rotfl:)


Just ignore her, your husband is her little soldier, always has been, always will be.
When my brother was ill once, my mum actually offered to do his washing...he's been living with his GF for almost 20 years. I don't think she meant anything by it, it's just her natural reaction to hearing that her little boy (48 years old) is unwell.

If you mostly get on well with her, you should honestly just ignore this, mothers never change their mindset about their sons. I'm sure that you're looking after your husband well enough!

PasturesNew

I think it's just a stock phrase that anybody would use. A half joke, a way to start a sentence. No more than that.

Grimbal

barbiedoll wrote: »

Mothers-in-law eh, can't live with 'em.........


and that's why god invented shovels and patios.


(This is what my husband says to my mum on a regular basis! :rotfl:)


Just ignore her, your husband is her little soldier, always has been, always will be.
When my brother was ill once, my mum actually offered to do his washing...he's been living with his GF for almost 20 years. I don't think she meant anything by it, it's just her natural reaction to hearing that her little boy (48 years old) is unwell.

If you mostly get on well with her, you should honestly just ignore this, mothers never change their mindset about their sons. I'm sure that you're looking after your husband well enough!

Thank you,I smiled at your post & hubby's joke with his MIL. I am no doubt being over sensitive. I have a lot of self doubt and feelings of inadequacy in general , so I am almost certainly looking for veiled implications when there probably weren't any. Its just that I always think before I speak, and generally don't drop clangers like these, whereas his family are notorious for inserting feet in mouths at regular intervals !

Tropez

I wouldn't think anything of it. Whenever my wife is poorly my mum asks me whether I'm looking after her, and when I'm poorly she asks whether my wife is looking after me. I think it's just a turn of phrase and don't really read anything much into it.

She knows I wouldn't dare not look after my wife if she was ill, because my wife will get better, and horrible things will happen to my nipples. Horrible things...

McKneff

Just playing devils advocate here but did you actually hear her say it or is it your OH relaying what she said....
(or maybe didn't)

Grimbal

Tropez wrote: »

She knows I wouldn't dare not look after my wife if she was ill, because my wife will get better, and horrible things will happen to my nipples. Horrible things...

Brilliant! Ive just snorted lemon cake up my nose

Grimbal

McKneff wrote: »

Just playing devils advocate here but did you actually hear her say it or is it your OH relaying what she said....
(or maybe didn't)

Yup, heard her loud and clear (phone receiver volume was on high)

74jax

I can't see anything wrong with it.

If mine had asked hubby that he'd probably reply he's looking after himself.

I'm off sick this week too, we thought it was a chest infection but now having lungs investigated, so a similar situation. If anyone asked hubby if he was looking after me he'd too probably say no.

I think it's just a way of saying is all ok.

*Robin*

Grimbal wrote: »

Brilliant! Ive just snorted lemon cake up my nose

..Can't see that catching on! :rotfl: