Mutual friend (24) interfering with me (25) and my boyfriend's relationship (25)

lovinituk

One time, at band camp...!

Mattygroves2

Ignore her - she is just expressing her opinions which she is perfectly entitled to do. Have you never had a gossip about one of the other relationships in your group and expressed your opinion ?

Your mutual friends will judge your relationship on what they see when you are all out together ie. how you and your OH react to each other.

Over time she'll get used to you being together.

fluffnutter

Is it you that 'demands' a date night each Wednesday or is that Lucy's word for it. Because, yeah, 'demanding' does sound a bit controlling. Just saying. Other than that, kitty_kins has summed it up - Lucy has lost her top girl status and her nose is out of joint. Ignore her, but don't make an enemy of her. Boyfriend doesn't want to feel torn between defending girlfriend and flatmate. He lives with her, he's known her 10 years, I expect he cares about her a lot.

Sometimes close male/female friendships fall by the wayside a little when one finds a partner, understandably so really. In time it might be the case that it doesn't feel right any more for him to be living with Lucy. But after four short months you've not really got the right to be expecting that.

fluffnutter

kitty_kins wrote: »

Most girls I know would pick living with another girl/on their own rather than sharing with a male friend.

I'd rather live with a fella than another woman. They're much more straightforward.

dandelionclock30

Date night and implementing written plans regarding getting work done, all sounds very rigid to me. I'm not surprised really that shes making comments and stirring it as its just sounds so odd. If your boyfriend is a grown man and not a teenager or a vulnerable person does he really need a written plan?.
People talk, theres not much you can do.
Also he might be moaning to her you don't know and she will probably see him more than you do.

74jax

kitty_kins wrote: »

Calm down tykesi - I was just saying it was weird to me.

Most girls I know would pick living with another girl/on their own rather than sharing with a male friend. Therefore, I find her living situation PLUS how weird she's acting to be a bit odd.

I think if I had the choice if rather live with a friend than alone, male or female friend, Never been in that position tho, but I think I would.

Makes no difference to me if my friends are female or male, I just see them as friends.

LandyAndy

Yet another new poster who logs in, starts a slightly contentious thread and logs out again. They haven't logged in since.


Why am I not taking this seriously?

fluffnutter

Probably too busy knocking up a spreadsheet for boyf to follow.

fluffnutter

The more I think about it, the more I sympathise with Lucy. She's living with her mate, mooching along in life, then his new bird pitches up with her spreadsheets, date schedules and written plans like someone let loose with their first clipboard.

No wonder she's poking a bit of fun at it all. I would. In fact, I am.

Ivrytwr3

Fix Lucy up and she won't have any time to interfere. Just a suggestion, but you can pm me her number?