Miserly friends

Jagraf

People posting things without a stamp on !!

People stealing dishwasher tablets from the office kitchen.

Jagraf

NobodysChild wrote: »

:D:D It did amuse me and DH greatly. There was no way we were coughing up for them! They had pulled similar tricks with people before (including us once!) They managed to get us to pay them into Alton Towers a couple of years ago. They said they'd buy the meals in there and get us a photo or two of us on the rides. And it should balance out. They took us unawares, and we (stupidly) said OK.

We had two 2 for one tickets, and it's approx £40 to get in, so we paid nearly £80, (when we should have only paid £40 for the two of us.) Then they spent a tenner on us for our food, and a tenner for 2 photos for us. So they spent £20 on us, but we spent £40 on them, so they ended up spending £40 that day, (on their food ours, and a couple of photos, for us and them,) and we spent £80! Sly sausages! :rotfl:

It must be such a headache for them trying to be so calculated. It's difficult enough to budget, let alone budgeting in someone else's generousity.

NobodysChild

dottymrsp wrote: »

LMAO Nobody's child - that's the funniest story I've ever heard :-D

Browneyedbazzi - I have no problem with people paying for exactly what they've ordered, it's something we usually do within our group of friends because we all earn different amounts - it's the rounding down and not paying a tip that gets to me! Even when the service has been phenomenal!

:D:D It did amuse me and DH greatly. There was no way we were coughing up for them! They had pulled similar tricks with people before (including us once!) They managed to get us to pay them into Alton Towers a couple of years ago. They said they'd buy the meals in there and get us a photo or two of us on the rides. And it should balance out. They took us unawares, and we (stupidly) said OK.

We had two 2 for one tickets, and it's approx £40 to get in, so we paid nearly £80, (when we should have only paid £40 for the two of us.) Then they spent a tenner on us for our food, and a tenner for 2 photos for us. So they spent £20 on us, but we spent £40 on them, so they ended up spending £40 that day, (on their food and ours, and a couple of photos, for us and them,) and we spent £80! Sly sausages! :rotfl:

NobodysChild

Jagraf wrote: »

It must be such a headache for them trying to be so calculated. It's difficult enough to budget, let alone budgeting in someone else's generousity.

Sorry Jagraf, I accidently deleted my post, (that you quoted,) whilst trying to edit it, and had to repost it! :rotfl:

Marisco

Shame a tightwad doesn't come on here, and try and justify why they are so miserly Judging by the posts, there must be hundreds of them about!! :eek: I must be very fortunate in my choice of friends, as none of mine are like that. Or maybe they are not like that with me, because they know they'd be told in no uncertain terms the score!!

The only one who comes close is oh's brother, and it drives me nuts! His house is like a hovel as he won't spend anything on it, he's not got CH, he's only got a 19" TV, and has thousands, if not hundreds of thousands in the bank!! :mad: What the hell is wrong with these people?

purpleshoes_2

browneyedbazzi wrote: »

I have to admit that I will usually keep a mental tally of the costs of what I've ordered at a restaurant and pay for what I've had rather than simply dividing the bill by the number of people - I've been out too many times where various people around the table have a blow out ordering fillet steak, bottles of wine, three courses plus sides etc, when I've had a salad or something small (either because it's all I wanted or because I was being careful with money) then when the bill arrives the others say 'shall we just split it - £50 each' when what I've ordered adds up to about £15. I will add on some 'tip' money to the value of what I've ordered (usually 15% if service was decent), but I won't subsidise everyone else's extravagance.

I go out to eat with groups and we often pay for our own, restaurants don't generally mind giving people individual bills and then I'll add on a tip. I dont have enough spare cash to subsidise other people's food and drink choices. Particularly as more often than not I don't drink alcohol when Im out for a meal.

If its not individual bills, then when the bill comes round people just add up what they ate/drank and pay for it. I think so many people have to watch the pennies these days, its acceptable to pay for your own and then leave a tip rather than split the bill between everyone.

JimmyTheWig

Marisco wrote: »

The only one who comes close is oh's brother, and it drives me nuts! His house is like a hovel as he won't spend anything on it, he's not got CH, he's only got a 19" TV, and has thousands, if not hundreds of thousands in the bank!! :mad: What the hell is wrong with these people?

Looking forward to an early retirement, maybe?
It's up to him how much he spends on his own house. That's a completely different question to conning stuff out of other people.

Jagraf

NobodysChild wrote: »

Sorry Jagraf, I accidently deleted my post, (that you quoted,) whilst trying to edit it, and had to repost it! :rotfl:

I wouldn't have even noticed lol

dandelionclock30

If you just pay for yourself all the time and don't take from others then the chances of getting ripped off by people who call themselves friends is minimal.
With eating out unless I'm with a good friend or partner where we take it in turns or it doesn't matter, I just pay for what I've had.The worst I've seen for people taking advantage is big works dos where they just expect to split the bill. I've not gone in the past because even if you have something for a £5er they will expect you to pay upwards of £30.00 and that includes contributing to the wine when you have only had 1/2 of coke.
Im surprised you are still friends with those people Nobodyschild, especially after pulling the move with the purse. People like that should be left to it and not entertained further.
I've known really tight people in the past and that's where they remain as I cant be doing with people trying it on.

purpleshoes_2

I think there's a fine line between being frugal and being tight. I don't have much spare cash and sometimes my mum will take myself and my brother out for a meal and she'll pay, but I'll buy her back, generally groupon lunches or meals which she doesn't mind at all. We've been out 3 times since December and I've paid for those. There are so many ways people can have friendships even with different incomes and budgets, there's just no need for people to take advantage. There is no way in a million years I would ever try and con someone to pay me into something or to dodge paying for a round of drinks. If I couldn't afford to be somewhere in the first place I wouldn't go and if I ever were sitting in a pub with £150 in my pocket trying to get someone else to pay for my drinks Id be ashamed of myself.

Ive never worked in huge offices and Im self employed now so the whole birthday, put into lots of collections hasn't really happened to me.

I wouldn't be friends with someone who was tight either. Sometimes its not just being tight, its being really flaky or simply not caring about anyone except yourself. I remember lending £15 to a mate years ago and the I'll pay you back soon line just kept coming, never saw my money. I had another friend back in the day when I was at uni and skint and she was still at school but had a part time job and was better off that I was, she was always trying to get me to lend her money and when she eventually !!!!!!ed off to find someone else to take advantage off, she had clothes of mine that I never saw again and told people I was always borrowing from her and taking her clothes, ridiculous.

Oh I had an ex bf whos family are worth quite a bit of money, Id say a few million anyway, are market gardeners and there's been wealth in the family and extended family for several generations.

At that time when folk were at uni, it was still grants and assessed on your income and depending on that, your parents had to pay some parental contribution, his dad refused to pay his. He told me that his dad would also count up the cans of cola in the cupboard and the kids were forbidden from taking too many.

My mum in comparison didn't have much but he was welcome in our house (I wasn't in theirs and it was the same for the rest of the kids bfs/gfs they didn't like incomers as they saw it), he was treated like one of the family and bought meals/gifts by my mum. I was actually banned from their house by his dad as soon as we got together because they were convinced we were sleeping together (we weren't at that time) and that I would get pregnant (we had been together I think 2 weeks at that time) and when they went away on holiday to butlins I think, he was left at home with strict instructions not to have me there when they were gone.
I don't think I met his dad once in the couple of years we were together. His extended family also used to have birthday parties and gfs/bfs wouldn't be invited. Its making me laugh now I'm typing this, but at the time, I just thought it was really strange (being banned from someones house).

They also built a house to retire in, his parents, which I think they've sold to family, but as my ex bf had been working away as part of a uni course, his placement year, there was no room built for him, he had to kip in the living room when he was home.

I think some people are just miserable full stop, you would have to be to have all that money and still walking around grumbling about every penny you eventually part with.