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  • codemonkey
    codemonkey Posts: 6,534 Forumite
    Thanks Stoodles. I am such a people pleaser that I get really anxious about letting people down. I'm also panicking that they'll want to retire me on medical grounds and I can't afford that. My anxiety is sky high right now.
    Eu não sou uma tartaruga. Eu sou um codigopombo.
  • seven-day-weekend
    seven-day-weekend Posts: 36,755 Forumite
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    Well done on baking a cake Pauline! I can't believe you've never made one before! Hope it turns out nice. :)

    I used to do loads of baking but haven't for ages.

    Big hugs Calley. Sounds like you've really been through it lately. :(

    I am 65 years old, been married 44 years this year and have never in my entire life baked anything, not even drop scones or fairy cakes :o:o
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  • Indie_Kid
    Indie_Kid Posts: 23,097 Forumite
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    I must admit i HATE getting my eyes tested, i hate the way they have to lean in really close to you! Feels like they are invading my personal space :o

    I hate getting my eyes tested too. But because of the way my eyes developed, (or didn't) they do some horrible tests on me. I really hate the one where they look at the back of my eyes - it involves bright lights which are quite painful.:(

    Just been to the chemist and been given a bottle of tablets with a childproof cap, which I can't open. :o Much easier when the tablets are in blister packs.
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  • calleyw
    calleyw Posts: 9,896 Forumite
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    Cor you lot could talk for england LOL :rotfl:

    Today is not such a good day. Did not get out of bed until nearly 10.30 and only because I had a parcel arriving. Slept well so no idea whats going on.

    Bought 4 things from Amazon and they are coming in two parcels. One courier company gave me a hours window the other well who knows when it will turn. I need to go out. As need to go to the bank, library, charity shop to drop some stuff off and pick up the stuff for my counseling session for tomorrow that I left at my husbands.

    Will walk as not keen on driving today. I did drive yesterday but being a bank holiday fewer people around. So it was ok. I am convinced I am going to do some damage to either a person or a thing at the moment.

    Have a great day flying the birds. That is something I need to put on my list to do. I know that my husband would love it too. So maybe I will see how much for both of us to do it.

    Anyway need to get my backside in to gear and get some trainers on and hope that it does not rain :rotfl:

    Catch you all laters

    Yours

    Calley
    Hope for everything and expect nothing!!!

    Good enough is almost always good enough -Prof Barry Schwartz

    If it scares you, it might be a good thing to try -Seth Godin
  • tea_lover
    tea_lover Posts: 8,261 Forumite
    Code - I work in Occ Health (for the next 13.5 days lol) and it really is there to help. As for what your colleagues may or not be thinking - one thing that I've found quite liberating is to realise that I have no control over that. All you can do is get on with things to the best of your ability (and that absolutely does not mean struggling into work when you're not up to it). I really do think people are quite good at knowing when someone maybe needs a bit of support, and when they're taking the p. In most workplaces you get someone who may be turning up each day but does nothing while they're there - they tend to be the ones that get others backs up, not the people who do the best they can to work around conditions that make life more difficult.

    Apologies for the non-sensical sentences lol.... lots of lovely opiates!
  • Pyxis
    Pyxis Posts: 46,077 Forumite
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    edited 5 May 2015 at 11:36AM
    Errata wrote: »
    I remember him and can't help wondering why he's got in touch with you out of the blue. Why does he think you'll be interested in his love life? You don't have to respond to his message, it's simply a bit of news; turn over the page and get on with your life.
    codemonkey wrote: »
    MU - do not respond to him. It's nothing to do with you and the fact he's made a point of telling you is just weird.

    MessedUp, I agree with Errata and Codemonkey.
    I think it could be one of two reasons:
    He's either fishing to see if you are still the remotest bit interested, and possibly thereby hedging his bets a bit, OR, trying to 'tell' you that, 'see, even if you don't want me, there is someone who does.'

    If you are quite happy to have finished with him, and quite happy with Swain, then ignore the message, don't reply and leave him to it! :A

    codemonkey wrote: »
    Happy bird-day to WaS. Happy bird-day to WaS. Our WaS has gone birding.... (someone else complete please)
    .............Happy bird-day to WaS! :D
    (Assuming it's sung to the tune of Happy Birthday!) :D


    Indiekid, you can ask the pharmacist to switch them to a non-childproof container, and they should be happy to do that for you!
    (I just lurve spiders!)
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  • tea_lover
    tea_lover Posts: 8,261 Forumite
    Another day, another moan about things with FOH...

    He's got the keys for his new place (finally!) and went there yesterday to decorate. Was there all day and got one room partly painted. Apparently he spent the first couple of hours there just sitting feeling sorry for himself about it all.

    I said (jokingly) he was just going to miss the cat and getting his washing done, not me. He was all "no, that's not true.....blah, blah". As I said to him, he's had at least two years to sort his act out, bit late now. That sounds like it was a harsh exchange but it honestly was a friendly conversation!

    Am trying to get him to say what furniture etc. he's taking but he refuses to talk about it. At this rate I'll come home one day and not have a sofa or kettle anymore. Told him he needed to get his @rse into gear with packing as he's supposed to be moving this week. At that point he went upstairs to sulk so I left him to it and watched the snooker.

    He hasn't sorted council tax, broadband, utilities or anything like that. He really doesn't think this is actually happening - even though he said it was what he wanted. It's a shame he now thinks he's changed his mind.
  • seven-day-weekend
    seven-day-weekend Posts: 36,755 Forumite
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    Anyone who remembers Beau (well ex Beau) he;s just texted me telling me he;s going to try and make a go of things again with his ex (before me). I can't help but think its because he's feeling lonely and hating being single. I know i shouldn't care, but i'm the kind of person who doesn't want to see bad things happen to people even if they are a part of my past. Plus in my experience people are exes for a reason. I know there was some stuff he said after we split up that was unacceptable but i still don;t want to see him get hurt. I don;t have feeling for him. I just have doubts and don't know if i should reply to his message. And i dont think he;s messaged me to be malicious or anything, i've told him in the past i want to see him happy and he knows i'm with someone else.

    Maybe it will work? I mean she was the one who was accepted by his family, where as i had to be kept a secret. So i guess they won;t have that barrier.
    I don't quite understand why he is texting you with this information and don't think you should reply.
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  • Pyxis
    Pyxis Posts: 46,077 Forumite
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    edited 5 May 2015 at 12:02PM
    Tea, regarding the bills' change of name, I think you also have to contact them, to get the name changed to yours.
    However, I wouldn't do it until he actually has gone, or the day he goes, anyway.

    Also, it may sound harsh, but once he has gone, I would recommend changing the locks on any outside doors, even if he hands you his keys back. I hope that doesn't sound too horrid. :A
    (I just lurve spiders!)
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  • Georgiegirl256
    Georgiegirl256 Posts: 7,005 Forumite
    I am 65 years old, been married 44 years this year and have never in my entire life baked anything, not even drop scones or fairy cakes :o:o

    :eek: .... Only joking! :p

    Mmm drop scone, haven't had them in ages! I feel like baking now, but not a good idea when I'm trying to cut out all the crap!
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