We all need to be heard for a little while.

codemonkey

Pyxis wrote: »

Illya Kuryakin....viz. David McCallum

Nope...not for me.

Indie_Kid

codemonkey wrote: »

Well one made me suicidal so I needed to stop that one. And the contraceptive pill made me fat and weepy. But its maybe worth trying anyway with instructions to my DH that he alert me if I start being weIrd. My rage manifests itself in uncontrollable crying anyway.

Yes, I think your DH needs to know. They changed mine recently (I think it was the coating that was different) and I spent 2 weeks just wanting to throw up. Horrible.:( I was warned it's one I'm either going to love or hate and there are a lot of side effects.

Pyxis

codemonkey wrote: »

Nope...not for me.

I was barely a teenager at the time, and he had a lovely 'Russian' accent!

Pyxis

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Pyxis wrote: »

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Waves_and_Smiles

Another long sleep! I had a very good dream though remembering my wages when I was little.

From the age of 4 when I started school my dad used to give me wages everyday because we both went out to 'work'. Every morning he would leave 2p in a matchbox on the mantelpiece. I had a choice that I could either spend my 14p a week on sweets or save it and go to a jumble sale with my dad at the end of every month and choose a toy. He would match the amount of money I had saved. If the toy was more expensive than our joint money I would have to do 'overtime' to make up the difference. This could be reading aloud to my dad, doing science experiments or working out simple sums with him. Sometimes the matchbox would have a new word to learn the meaning of or a sum to do inside of it and I would have to put the answer on a piece of paper back in the matchbox. If I got this right, and even if I didn't (he would then leave the correct answer with my wages) I would get double wages next day!

By the time I was 10 this was 25p a day and I could afford to go to proper toy shops. He would always match my pocket money and never minded if it went over providing it wasn't by a ridiculous amount, I just did more 'overtime'. He kept this going until he died by which time I was earning 50p a day and buying clothes and pretty pens with my wages. He never forgot my matchbox.

I just wanted to share a sweet memory, he was a good dad.

Pyxis

Oh WaS, that's just lovely! Quite made me cry a little! In a nice way!
What a lovely Dad, and what a lovely memory! :A
(((((((WaS)))))))

Waves_and_Smiles

He was a lovely dad and it was a sneaky way to get me to learn things! I loved getting words and sums to learn in my matchbox because it felt like a game, not like I was being educated. He also taught me how to save without me being aware that he was doing it and gave me a work ethic by never calling it pocket money, it was always my wages because I was going out to work just like him. By the time I was 5 I realised that earning money meant going to work even if you didn't want to, and I felt all grown up because I got my wages just like dad did!

mellymoo74

Georgiegirl256

codemonkey wrote: »

Errm... . Me and my friend used to hang net curtains on our heads and take turns to be Charlene and we'd walk up the 'aisle' or pavement to the lamp post that was 'Jason Donovan', while the other sang 'Suddenly'.

I might have done something similar myself!

Pyxis wrote: »

Georgie, previously in the thread we had some discussions about the worrying mentality and different schools of thought about it. There's one school that reckons that worriers are survivors, they anticipate problems before they happen and so are prepared. Worriers are the ones who would have escaped the sabre-toothed tigers!

Another school classes worriers as realists, because things are seen as they are, warts and all., no brushing them aside.

So, don't worry about worrying!
We also decided that we're not worriers, we're warriors!!! :T


(By the way, the thought about the cat was based on fact, so you weren't worrying, you were being a realist! Probably a coincidence, though!)

I like that! Not worriers but warriors!

Re the cat, I'd read about this cat in a nursing home, and well I won't go into detail, but it freaked me out abit!

Georgiegirl256

WaS, that is beautiful! So heartwarming. A fun and clever man by the sounds of it.

Melly, he's such a cutie!