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tea_lover

Birdie85 wrote: »

Well done Tea! :T Glad you're feeling better today

Today is brought to you by the power of "fake it till you make it" :rotfl:.

Pyxis

Yey! Go Tea! :j :j :j




7DW, I think what would keep me going is the continuing thought that if all else fails, if it really, really becomes too much, at the end of the day... I don't have to do it!
Just allowing yourself that 'freedom' makes it a lot easier.

jobbingmusician

quick dash in.

I won't be around much cos it's Cheltenham. Biggest time of the year for match bettors! See you after Friday!

Love to all xxxx

seven-day-weekend

Pyxis wrote: »

Yey! Go Tea! :j :j :j




7DW, I think what would keep me going is the continuing thought that if all else fails, if it really, really becomes too much, at the end of the day... I don't have to do it!
Just allowing yourself that 'freedom' makes it a lot easier.

Yes, you are right and I actually thought that last week It is indeed a great help to know that I don't have to do it to put food on the table.

Although I would feel that I had let myself, and others, down. But yes, the get-out clause is always there.

mumps

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

Thanks for your kind words. xx

The thing is, I signed up to actually be a Job Coach. I had to have a formal interview and three day's training at CAP HQ in Bradford, it wasn't just something to do with our church where I said 'can I help' and they said OK, it's actually a formal position for CAP, although it is voluntary. We are not allowed to coach unless we have been trained by CAP. We already have people to do the welcoming and see to the refreshments, we even have some 'specialists' like someone who used to work for the Jobcentre and knows how that works, and someone who is a CV writing specialist. So if I don't coach, there is not much else for me to do, and it is trained coaches that we need.

And I do think I can do it. It's just that it is out of my comfort zone and when I'm not feeling on top I lose all my confidence, I have to work at it. And I want to do it, I felt inspired when I first heard about the Job Club and knew straight away that it is what I should be doing.

I value being able to express my fears on here, and thank you once again for your kindness. Hope I have clarified.


(CAP = Christians Against Poverty, an international charity)

I hope it gets easier, at least you know you will get a tremendous buzz from overcoming your feelings. I am off to school in a minute, the children are lovely and their teacher is so appreciative of the help, I feel like I should pay them for the enjoyment.

whitewing

7DW, they wouldn't have let you train if they weren't convinced you can do it.

It always takes me about 6 weeks to feel comfortable in a new role, and I have my wobbles even after that,

Errata

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

Thanks for your kind words. xx

The thing is, I signed up to actually be a Job Coach. I had to have a formal interview and three day's training at CAP HQ in Bradford, it wasn't just something to do with our church where I said 'can I help' and they said OK, it's actually a formal position for CAP, although it is voluntary. We are not allowed to coach unless we have been trained by CAP. We already have people to do the welcoming and see to the refreshments, we even have some 'specialists' like someone who used to work for the Jobcentre and knows how that works, and someone who is a CV writing specialist. So if I don't coach, there is not much else for me to do, and it is trained coaches that we need.

And I do think I can do it. It's just that it is out of my comfort zone and when I'm not feeling on top I lose all my confidence, I have to work at it. And I want to do it, I felt inspired when I first heard about the Job Club and knew straight away that it is what I should be doing.

I value being able to express my fears on here, and thank you once again for your kindness. Hope I have clarified.


(CAP = Christians Against Poverty, an international charity)

TBH the job would be way outside my comfort zone if I was only given 3 days training, and I worked as a trainer for a few years. Sharing your fears on here is probably quite helpful for you, but I'm wondering how frequently you have a formal supervision session, because that's the opportunity to say 'this/that/the other isn't going well for me just now' enabling your and your supervisor to draw up an action plan.

seven-day-weekend

whitewing wrote: »

7DW, they wouldn't have let you train if they weren't convinced you can do it.

It always takes me about 6 weeks to feel comfortable in a new role, and I have my wobbles even after that,

I've been doing it since last May, in ten-week blocks, but it is only once a week, (plus one-to-one coaching)so in a way it is still new, we are all still learning.

For example, the Job Club recently bought a load of memory sticks for participants, some can't afford their own and some don't know how to use them so don't have one. We realised that it was something Job Club could help with. We also have a fund to help with things like bus fare for interviews or interview clothes; we have bought one participant a bus pass so that he can get to the casual work that is preparing him for full-time work.

The Refreshments Team have invested in a toaster so that the participants can have some breakfast, the team feel it is something that goes the extra mile.

(The Club gets some funding from the church, the rest our manager gets from various charities; also several individuals including myself put money into it).

All these things we have had to learn as we have gone along - as you can see it is very much a learning curve (as well as a labour of love).

Thanks all for your encouragement, it has really, really helped xxx

seven-day-weekend

Errata wrote: »

TBH the job would be way outside my comfort zone if I was only given 3 days training, and I worked as a trainer for a few years. Sharing your fears on here is probably quite helpful for you, but I'm wondering how frequently you have a formal supervision session, because that's the opportunity to say 'this/that/the other isn't going well for me just now' enabling your and your supervisor to draw up an action plan.

I have one per session, so three a a year, with the manager, who does similar work in his paid job. I am also able to approach him at any time and request a meeting for advice and guidance, and also, seeing as this is a Christian ministry, prayer. He has been really empathetic and encouraging.

I'm taking part in an interview, along with the manager, for a new volunteer at the end of this month, to start in the new session in April. I've already taken part (unplanned!) in the 'sacking' of an unsuitable volunteer. This is also all new to me, but I actually find this easier than the coaching! I think it is because it is not so 'open', there are more rigid rules. Being a bit Aspie-ish, I like rules and scripts

Thanks all again xx

seven-day-weekend

tea_lover wrote: »

Today is brought to you by the power of "fake it till you make it" :rotfl:.

That is actually a good motto for me