Mother expecting me to move back in, help!

Gingernutty

How is she getting so little?

Housing Benefit and even a single person's Job Seekers Allowance should be more than that.

If she's disabled, then she should be getting more.

I think she might be telling you porkies to tug on your heartstrings.

I'm another voter for No, don't go back.

*max*

Wouldn't she get a lot more housing benefit if she no longer gets the child benefit and only receives JSA? No idea, just asking...

meer53

Don't go back, your Mum is being really selfish to say those things to you. And i'm a single mum too, my son is 27 years old. I would never say those sort of things to my children, it's really not fair.

You can help her in other ways. Don't let her bully you into going back.

Peter333

*max* wrote: »

Wouldn't she get a lot more housing benefit if she no longer gets the child benefit and only receives JSA? No idea, just asking...

Good point.

When the child benefit and child tax credits cease, surely her money will be made up somehow? I have been fortunate enough to have never been on benefits, so don't know exactly what happens to someone's benefits when the children leave home.

She needs to see CAB or Stepchange or someone. Trying to blackmail her adult children into staying at home to support her financially is not the way to go.

Brighton_belle

Can I also point out that your mother is presumably still only in her 40's: now I know at 21 that seems old, lol but believe me that is really incredibly young. And certainly way too young to be dependent on your children for your welfare.
She is certainly young enough to be finding her own independent solutions to her life's difficulties. Speaking as someone older than her, it seems astonishing that she wouldn't automatically be independent and encourage her children to go out and make their own lives. Many of us her age and older don't get to live in 3 bedroom houses, and expect to cut our cloth to suit our circumstance and that includes where we live. No it isn't always easy to make those changes, but that's life and sorting your own life out brings its own reward.


Please don't let her emotionally blackmail you: it will ruin your life and make future relationships, hopes and reams of your own very difficult to achieve. And they are legitimate aspirations for you to have.

StuckStudent

I'm afraid I don't know anything about benefits, what she's entitled to, what is worth what - it's not something I intend to ever have to deal with :c

And @Brighton, she's 56

Brighton_belle

StuckStudent wrote: »

I'm afraid I don't know anything about benefits, what she's entitled to, what is worth what - it's not something I intend to ever have to deal with :c

And @Brighton, she's 56

Still only middle aged and not 'old'.

Hermia

PasturesNew wrote: »

If you want to get out of it, find out how much she's "short" of paying the rent each week/month and send it to her. Stay where you are.

I would be wary of doing that. The mum will come to rely on the money which will cause problems if the OP wants to save up for a house or start a family etc at some point.

PasturesNew

As a regular, single person, living alone - ignoring any other issues, as she's over 35 she'd get the 1 bedroom LHA rate paid to her towards her rent. If her rent is so low, it's possible that it might be enough to cover her whole rent. You can find out how much the 1-bed rate is by typing the postcode into https://lha-direct.voa.gov.uk/Secure/Search.aspx

There's some rule about kids going to Uni and being able to hold onto their room for the purposes of LHA, for an amount of time - look into that. That is assuming that your brother is going away. If he's staying at home, then his grants/loans will be enough for him to pay rent wherever he is living, so if he's living at home he can stump up some cash for his rent/food/bills at home.

Now, for benefits, the regular JSA amount for a single person of your mum's age is over £70/week, so over £300/month.

Then there are council tax benefits that might pay all/most of that too.

She's pulling the wool over your eyes really. Those are the minimums she'd get - and if she's too ill to work etc she'd get another fistful of cash on top of that.

She's got used to receiving the generous "has kids" benefits and wants them to continue rolling in even though you've all left. It doesn't work like that. Being single and unemployed's a meagre existence.

themull1

Put her details into a benefits entitlement website to see what she would get.