What is the point of being married?

System

*~Zephyr~* wrote: »

7. Opportunity to visit the local registry office and be questioned by public officials - Arrrrggghhhhh!!!! Horrific thought!!
8. Reason to elope to Vegas! - Now THAT I could get on board with!!! Vegas baby!!
9. A formal way of announcing your long term commitment to the community (and I believe that is one of the main reasons behind weddings) - No. I have no desire to broadcast my love for him to the wider community. The wider community can mind it's own business!! We're far too private a couple for that.

Nothing wrong with a few basic questions.... after all they want to know your a real couple and not a sham marriage. Its all done pretty discreetly.

Elope to Vegas! What better excuse to go to Vegas.

Formal way of announcing your long term commitment to the community. Now I think your overthinking this. I see nothing wrong with just you, him, two witnesses and the official conducting the ceremony. Sod every man and his dog if that's what you want. Eloping to Etna Green sits favourably with me...

*~Zephyr~*

Judi wrote: »

Now I think your overthinking this...

It wouldn't be the first time.... I tend to overthink EVERYTHING!! :rotfl:

arbrighton

I think you need to look at the inheritance tax aspect more. OH and I will have been together almost 10 years when we get married in June and it will have (mostly positive) implications for our finances/ tax situations.
It's nothing to do with religion and we could have got married in Vegas, but he asked me a couple of days after we left there!

*~Zephyr~*

arbrighton wrote: »

I think you need to look at the inheritance tax aspect more. OH and I will have been together almost 10 years when we get married in June and it will have (mostly positive) implications for our finances/ tax situations.
It's nothing to do with religion and we could have got married in Vegas, but he asked me a couple of days after we left there!

Our modest little home and our combined assets are never going to be anywhere near £325k. If we win the lottery, then IHT will definitely become a factor, but a little house in Wales? Never going to be worth enough to worry about.

TonyMMM

*~Zephyr~* wrote: »

I'm going to watch this case with interest, because I think we'd be more likely to have a civil partnership than a marriage:

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-30586950

The most likely (and predicted) outcome of that case will be the removal of Civil Partnerships as an option for anyone - as marriage is now available to all CP is no longer needed.

*~Zephyr~*

TonyMMM wrote: »

The most likely (and predicted) outcome of that case will be the removal of Civil Partnerships as an option for anyone - as marriage is now available to all CP is no longer needed.

That would be a shame, because there IS a need for CPs. Holland and New Zealand have them for hetero couples, so I'm hopeful that we will follow suit.

dottymrsp

Mr P and I got married because he kept on forgetting we weren't and introducing me to everyone as his wife... so we had to get married so he didn't look like such an idiot...

I very strongly disagree with the idea of marriage for 'romantic' reasons... romance doesn't create a long lasting relationship... I've married the man I have because I'm fond of him, we get on really well, and our life goals, and plans for the future align nicely.

*~Zephyr~*

dottymrsp wrote: »

... so we had to get married so he didn't look like such an idiot...

Love it!! :rotfl:

AngelOfTheNorth

Mojisola wrote: »

I think it's about time that couples planning to marry had to sit down with an advisor beforehand and go through the legal implications, benefits and drawbacks(?) of getting married so that everyone knew what they are signing up to like we do with any other contract.

It would also mean that the differences between being married and living together would be better known.

Yes... but the same should also apply to couples wanting to remain unmarried too! After all, there are legal implications, benefits and drawbacks to that too.

And in answer to the question OP- romantically, depends entirely on the way you feel. Financially and legally, nothing to do with how you feel and everything to do with your assets, pensions, NOK wishes and insurance. If you're not sure, take expert advice. A couple of hundred quid for a solicitor will work out much cheaper than effing it up.

Rebel_Cause

*~Zephyr~* wrote: »

Also, I see so many couples who have been together, happy, for years and years, and then they marry and divorce within 2 years!

Yes, I have seen that many times too. I believe that if you have to work hard at a relationship, it is the wrong relationship to be in.