what do you do in the evening and weekends?

calleyw

if you don't like your own company you are bit stuffed. As that who you live with 24hrs a day.

I am a bit concerned that I am 42 years old. And the average woman lives until she is 82. I have a long time another 40yrs on my own

When I am at home and read etc I find times goes quickly, But find if I go out for a coffee on my own then time seems to drag!!!

Yours

Calley

purpleshoes_2

calleyw wrote: »

if you don't like your own company you are bit stuffed. As that who you live with 24hrs a day.

I am a bit concerned that I am 42 years old. And the average woman lives until she is 82. I have a long time another 40yrs on my own

When I am at home and read etc I find times goes quickly, But find if I go out for a coffee on my own then time seems to drag!!!

Yours

Calley

You dont know you will be on your own for another 40 years

Dont think like that

My gran was married at 20 and spent 35 years with her husband who then sadly died of cancer

She lived for another 30 years. My point is, we don't know what life is going to throw at us or where we will be in a year

Im 45, almost 46. Im not an old 46, Im just me. There are aspects of my life I like and aspects of my life I dont

But we all have the power to change things for ourselves, sometimes it just takes a bit of courage

In the meantime, if you are happy doing what you do, then keep on doing it

calleyw

purpleshoes wrote: »

You dont know you will be on your own for another 40 years

Dont think like that

My gran was married at 20 and spent 35 years with her husband who then sadly died of cancer

She lived for another 30 years. My point is, we don't know what life is going to throw at us or where we will be in a year

Im 45, almost 46. Im not an old 46, Im just me. There are aspects of my life I like and aspects of my life I dont

But we all have the power to change things for ourselves, sometimes it just takes a bit of courage

In the meantime, if you are happy doing what you do, then keep on doing it

I know we don't know what life will throw at us. My husband had a stroke at 44 years old. So am well aware of it.

I am not sure after really being single for 3 years now and a few attempts that never worked out. Just think I am not relationship material.

So going to leave that to one side for the time being. I am on dating sites and will go out meet but not going to put much effort in. Just means I get to meet new people once in a while.

Yours

Calley

purpleshoes_2

calleyw wrote: »

I know we don't know what life will throw at us. My husband had a stroke at 44 years old. So am well aware of it.

I am not sure after really being single for 3 years now and a few attempts that never worked out. Just think I am not relationship material.

So going to leave that to one side for the time being. I am on dating sites and will go out meet but not going to put much effort in. Just means I get to meet new people once in a while.

Yours

Calley

I know. I often think Im not relationship material either, more so because I have a magnet on my forehead that attracts the unhinged

But if I met someone I really liked who was decent, Id give it a go

As I said, we can all change things, sometimes it takes courage

My gran died of a stroke, I know how tough it is, after she died I raised a few thousand pounds for the stroke association, its a cause very close to my heart

I actually remember being upset about something really ridiculous after my gran died and my mum said, just be glad you are alive

She was right. Sometimes we get so focused in what we don't have, we dont always stop and think what we do have

You will get there and believe me, loads of people struggle at times, including me, just that its always easy to say, oh Im ok etc etc

The meet up group I used to run had 600 people in it. Thats 600 people who had gone through various stuff and needed to meet new people

It just doesnt always feel like that when you think its just you

calleyw

purpleshoes wrote: »

I know. I often think Im not relationship material either, more so because I have a magnet on my forehead that attracts the unhinged

But if I met someone I really liked who was decent, Id give it a go

I know the feeling I seem to attract messer, wasters and men with partners.

I thought I had and it went horrible wrong he was not ready.

Yours

Calley

purpleshoes_2

calleyw wrote: »

I know the feeling I seem to attract messer, wasters and men with partners.

I thought I had and it went horrible wrong he was not ready.

Yours

Calley

Listen. I know.

But dont let it put you off getting on with your life

And there are plenty of good guys out there as well

I just never meet any of them:rotfl:

As my mum always says just take every day as it comes. thats all we can do

purpleshoes_2

We could always have an MSE night out where folk meet somewhere in the middle. Its happened before on the boards.

RuthnJasper

onlyroz wrote: »

You can learn most things from books in the comfort of your own home. If you fancy learning how to use your camera I'm sure there are plenty of "teach yourself" books or websites that can help. As for writing - the way to get good at that is to get out your pen/pencil/laptop and actually write something. I've self-published a novel and I'm planning a second.

I think it's important to keep your mind occupied. Far too many people do nothing except veg out in-front of the TV. If you've not got kids to keep you constantly busy or exhausted then what's stopping you from learning something new or getting better at something you can already do?

Couldn't agree more! I LOVE reading, though I prefer history or biography books to fiction (people are endlessly fascinating...!). I haven't had a TV since 2009, initially because I couldn't afford a TV Licence, but now because I got used to not having one I realised I don't need one. I can catch up with news and the shows I DO like online via iPlayer (Dr. Who, Strictly, documentaries, etc.) after broadcasting time. Am a little bit addicted to Judge Judy - please don't tell anyone, hehe

Calley, you're not boring. You are normal. Us single girlies feel like this from time to time. It'll be ok.

If you like cross-stitch, tapestry or writing, look around for local competitions. Most are low-cost to enter and some offer appraisals of your work even if you are not a winner, which can help to hone your talents, which is a reward in itself.

I have won several awards for my blog, which has been running since August 2006 (found by clicking my 'homepage' link on the left, (somewhat halfhearted since Jasper was taken, but still we try)), as well as other writings and nominations for minor acting roles. Nothing truly worthy of note in the broad scheme of things, but valuable to me nonetheless.

Look out your local competitions/shows or more-widely-promoted competitions. You've only got the price of the stamp and/or entry to lose - you could be the next Maeve Binchy...;)

Basically you won't know if you don't try. Go on - have a crack at a competition this year - you never know...!

All the very best to you sweetie. xx

LostSoulForever

And here i was thinking i was the only one.

Thank you for starting this thread Calley, it's something i've been wanting to do but wasn't 100% sure about it.

I'm in a very similar situation - single, no family & no real friends to speak of, so it's just me, myself & i . Has been like that for many years & doesn't ever look like changing. I spent most of time just trying to find something of interest on the TV (though i have dish problems, so no TV since Friday) & browsing around the t'interweb.

I've tried alot of what has been suggested in this thread, groups, volunteering, courses etc & while they have been good at filling time it didn't result in meeting anyone or increasing my social life.

I used to go to gigs alot on my own but kinda got fed up with doing that & they are very few & far between now but do have one coming up in a couple of weeks in London if i can be bothered to go. Went to NY on my own a couple of times last year & off again in May & even that's a struggle to motivate myself to go but do have a reasonably nice time when there.

I can easily go weeks or months without speaking to anyone - i guess it's just the way it's become & i can't honestly see it changing. Yes it gets lonely & i would love to meet someone & start a relationship & yes it would be nice to make friends but most of time i feel like people of better off without me in their lives.

I've become kinda used to the isolation which is probably a bad thing as it's got to the point where i just can't seem to get motivated anymore..

Maybe us lonely folk should have our own sub-forum :eek:

Gloomendoom

calleyw wrote: »

I am curious what people do in the evenings at weekends.

At the moment, work.