what do you do in the evening and weekends?

melanzana

Sometimes I think some people are pressurised into being active, having loads of friends, and doing something every single day, or life is not worth living.

That is nonsense. There are a huge number of people who love their own company and are never lonely or feel isolated. Introverted people can be like this, and I am one of them.

I don't go out much in the Winter, and never worry about it. I do go for a walk every evening unless it's pelting down or snowing, just to get out for breath of air.

Otherwise, it's reading, cooking, doing DuoLingo French on the PC (addictive), and various odds and sods around the house. I do go out at the weekends though, but during the week, my home is my castle and I honestly never feel sad, lonely or isolated.

I think it depends on the type of person you are really. Some need lots of stimulation and people around them, others don't.

calleyw

I can go days with no contact with anyone. But some days I crave company.

I have a feeling that I will be on my own for a longish time. As I don't want to rush in to a relationship with anyone.

Yours

Calley

Kim_kim

calleyw wrote: »

I know but it's also a money thing. I don't have huge amounts of money.

I find it really difficult to walk in the door!!!

Yours

Calley

Living alone is very expensive isnt it.
I don't do much evenings, watch TV really. I'm exhausted after work.
Weekends I might catch up with my family one day & do chores/shopping/DIY/gardening the other day.

I'm exhausted through work, I don't have the energy for much else.

I do enjoy the peace in my downtime though, I like the solitariness of it.

calleyw

PasturesNew wrote: »

I'm the same as you, that's pretty much been my life story - except I'm maybe 20 years older than you and I don't temp, although thinking of registering for some.

I watch the telly.

I've not spoken to a person this year yet.

So you are in your early 60's?

Yours

Calley

Essex_Maid

A couple of suggestions hun

How about contacting Age Concern and see what volunteering positions they have, ie teaching people how to use PC, or visiting a house bound person desperate for company, or calling someone once a week.

Our local cat sanctuary are always looking for fosterers, they provide vet checks food and equipment and support etc until a home can be found, if you are not allergic! a cat is good company.

Areas where you are really helping others would give you a sense of wellbeing and shyness not really a problem and could fit in with your lifestyle and not put pressure on your finances. X

onlyroz

Do you fancy trying something creative? E.g. drawing, painting, writing, photography?

mandi

PasturesNew wrote: »

I've not spoken to a person this year yet.

That's very sad PasturesNew :kisses3:

calleyw

onlyroz wrote: »

Do you fancy trying something creative? E.g. drawing, painting, writing, photography?

I did do a creative writing course but really hated reading stuff out in class. I do have semi-decent camera but no idea on how to use it :rotfl:

Yours

Calley

purpleshoes_2

See if theres a meet up group near you. Ive been out once socially since the beginning of december. By choice. I live alone, I dont have tons of mates. I teach and do fitness classes. Thats what interests me. Sometimes you think that everyone's life is so more exciting than yours particularly if you are single and it seems like everyone else is in a couple.

Ive always volunteered. It didnt make me lots of new mates, although I acquired new skills.

If you are happy with your cross stitch, good. If you want to get out and about and meet new people, have a look at meet up.

Ive been out more socially in the last two years than I did in the previous ten, but Im still a bit of a hermit by nature and at the moment Im staying in until I can be bothered going out and in the meantime, Im not going to fret about it.

Ilona

Kim_kim wrote: »

Living alone is very expensive isn't it

Erm....no. I have lived alone for the whole of my life. Worked for 45 years, now own my house, and having a brilliant life on a pension.

I used to go out a lot when I was younger, been there, done that, but now I am in almost every night. Recently done a six week sewing course at college on a Tuesday night, and can't think of anything I want to go out for in the evenings. I sew, walk my dog, watch tele on the computer, and write a blog. My weekends last seven days, I go walking a lot, get out and about visiting family, day trips out, youth hosteling, city breaks. Life is wonderful, no more work. :j
Ilona