New Alcohol self help

lewt

Folks i have been abit off key in the last couple of days and i have been intolerant and inconsidarate to some of you this i regret and apoligise for, if i can help you with anything i will.

Sometimes i find i can become obsisive with what others are doing and try and change what they are thinking. which is an impossible task which i sometimes dont think is. Sorry.

I'm going to be moving over the next few days so i maybe wont be online for a bit. enjoy your weekend everybody

lewt

not moved yet get the keys tomorrow, is it wrong to be scared of physiczl labour ? got some mates helping..... they will laugh when they see the box i packed today, full of shoes........ mine

feelinggood_2

Hehe, hope the move goes well Lewt.

I might be off to a meeting tonight, thinking about it at least.

gentlepurr

i just wanted to say thanks to mariauk and annapantscat for bringing some sanity back to this thread.

last year my son was involved in cadets, and the officer there was a trained counselor. he hadnt got a clue about supporting people, and couldnt understand why nobody looked to him for help....

have to dash, loads to do, but i will be back here

:grouphug: gentlepurr

lewt

feelinggood wrote: »

Hehe, hope the move goes well Lewt.

I might be off to a meeting tonight, thinking about it at least.

Good stuff feelie, its all growth init, your thinking about doing things only a few days ago were a no no.... im pleased for you...

Have you called the helpline or are you just gunna go ?

gentlepurr

mariauk wrote: »

Yes Lewt, I did report your post because there was a comment in it that mentioned 2 people that you had dragged into your "discussion" and who had absolutely nothing to do with the conversation. Personnal comments about people who cannot reply isn`t very considerate is it? Anyhoo, life goes on!

i wish i could thank you 10 times there maria, just for showing someone some common decency

gentlepurr

To those that dont already know, i was a regular contributor to this thread from the start, and i would like to explain a few things from my point of view.

I came to this thread as the wife of a man with a drink problem. i was shown and given SUPPORT from the start, made to feel welcome, and offered the hand of friendship by many who used to post on here. That SUPPORT HELPED me. You see, the people that posted on here understood that we all had our different problems, and coping strategies. Because those people realised that, they were able to offer help in a NON BIASED way, and understood that what works for one doesnt necessarily work for another. to me, this is one of the most basic and fundamental attributes of a "people person", ie a human being that is able to understand that we are not all the same, we are more than a race of dancing robots.

without the support freely given to me on here, my life would have been very different last year, and had my problems have risen their head this year, there is no way on gods earth that i could have felt comfortable comming here and baring my soul, only to be told AA or Al-Anon (who, by the way, were very abrupt and did not offer me one iota of help.)

so, you see, this thread is about SUPPORT, and BEING THERE, and not being judgemental and not treating everyone who plucks up the courage to post on here as another robot to send off to the AA factory to be "repaired"

I REST MY CASE.

gentlepurr

i was going to pm this, but decided against it, as i am female, and im told its not wise.

so, lewt, it was really below the belt to post what you did about previous posters from this thread. none of us know the whole picture of anything in this life, so i suggest you keep your council

lewt

Anyway, hope you get on ok at the meeting feelie....

let us know how you get on...

lewt

gentlepurr wrote: »

so, you see, this thread is about SUPPORT, and BEING THERE, and not being judgemental

gentlepurr wrote: »

so, lewt, it was really below the belt to post what you did about previous posters from this thread.

So Is that not judgemental then ?

If you don't like the way i post on here then can i suggest you spend a bit more time here too helping/supporting people in the way you were ? to counter act what you don't like me saying. i don't wish to continue this disscussion over and over.

i take on board what has been said about everyone being different and have apoligised for my part in it. So im thinking i know what helped me and i'll speak about that, you know what helped you so you speak about that...... or what ever else you wanna speak about i don't mind.

As long as i'm feeling allright i have no need/reason to make what you or anyone else say wrong. i do have off days im not perfect however i can see in hindsight if i have one over the top and try and set matters straight if i can. this is the beatuy of the program i have in my life, i love my life today so sometimes i can come across a bit pushy as i'd like everyone to find what i have. i can only live and learn with this which i will if i keep doing what ive been shown/given.

I'm off to the meetinf i started back in dec now. so i hope everyone has a nice evening and i may be on later if im not too late back.. god bless;)