The KonMarie method

Karmacat

PollyWollyDoodle wrote: »

I'm grateful for the photos of my great-grandparents - I'd have no idea what they looked like otherwise. They probably only had one or two photos in their entire lifetime - no wonder they were preserved carefully. Up until about the 1940s, there are probably fewer than thirty photos of my mum, because cameras were expensive, not many people owned one and so on. I've now got 4000+ photos on my computer covering the last ten years ... yet were still treating them as if they are rare and precious items.

Oh I love this! Linking up my family photos and my kondo efforts! I have a picture of one set of great grandparents on their wedding day - they look *exactly* like photos of Butch Cassidy and Etta Place :j He was dead in a work accident only ten years later, but there are lots of photos of her as an elderly lady in the 1950s holding a great grandchild ... that's precious too. But yes, the photos I've taken since I went digital, thousands and thousands, not just one or two ... does make you think.

MMF007

OK, blowing the Kondo trumpet today.
Had loads of domestic admin, what passes for a beauty regime and another portion of the room of doom to tackle today. Mostly time crucial so no good putting them off!
I made a 'to do' list, to keep focussed and, yes, so I could tick off acheivements Somehow this mattered, I think because DH came home on Sunday and asked me what I had been up to all day. I had barely sat down for 10 minutes but felt like I had to account for myself.... so today I have the ticked-off list as '!!!!!!'!

so, grey hair kondo'd
other beauty regime attended to while hair stewing (ok, legs and manicure, simply not enough time to do all that was needed darlings :rotfl:)
On-line quote beat home ins renewal so rang to canc expensive one and then paid for replacement policy :money:
checked out travel ins while on the general subject, 'bout the same as current policy, probably let that renew.
Did a darks wash, currently hanging in bathroom as no chance of drying outside.
tackled another bit if room of doom - real progress made! Various tetris moves meant 2 whole cupboards feed up for some relocating of other items, loads of outdoor games to CS, most of DIY stuff in sparkly new placcy box for loft storage (couldn't quite finish sorting the basket of doom, have saved that pleasure to weekend!).
Wrapped final 2 pressies (family party at weekend means need them done!).

as I write this I was going to state that I was getting really stressed about how much still to do but, do you know what? i am begininng to wonder if it is just an adrenilin surge?? This slightly panicky feeling?

I have made serious progress today. Still much more to do, but I bet everyone has a moment where they are realising this is achievable, and oh, what a buzz that is. Maybe like my friend last week who burst into tears? Mavymoo you said something similar, i think. And a few people have reported feeling very emotional, even when not dealing with the more obvious categories such as photos.

right, a cup of tea ,then it's time to get ready for our date night* :eek:

M.
* got a call from friends we are supposed to be dining out with tonight, one not well, agreed with DH that we 2 should go anyway! :j I rang restaurant to let them know incase they need to reorganise the table reservations.

PollyWollyDoodle

Fear and excitement both produce adrenalin, and sometimes it's easy to confuse the two. Well, that's what someone once told me ('You're not scared, you're excited') and I've repeated that to myself from time to time and found it helpful.

Shopping was great - the place wasn't too busy and I got everything I needed. A couple more online orders and I'm sorted. And it was lovely to catch up with my sister.

While I was focusing on photos, which took a week or so of evenings, the place has got a bit untidy BUT I know it won't take long to clear up because everything has a place! Once I've tidied up and cleaned .... *drum roll* ... I'm going to put up the decorations! Kondoing them as I go, of course.

mavvymoo

MMF007 Yes that was me in floods of tears for no reason really but thinking back on it.I think I was also on the 'What could have been train' to some degree.

Also I felt exposed when the 'stuff' went and knew I had to get to the bottom of the issues I had.

It is so hard to explain but I kondoed in double quick time and then it was done. And its almost like well what now ? You have far more time and have to learn what to do with it :rotfl:and it really doesnt come easy.Thinking about it I would think like a retirement type feeling. When you have worked all your life and then you have been so looking forward to it and it gets to that first day and you think well what should I do then :rotfl:

But in a way kondo never finishes as you find you are always drawn back to a certain thing which you know is not quite as joyful as you would like
It might be a bowl in the kitchen cupboard which is in the wrong place or a jumper which doesnt hang perfectly.

Its a strange one the old kondo factor but it makes life much more simple. You expect less and want less. But the bonus for me is I really dont care now what people think.

I carry in my head the best words in the world for me :T
'Does it really matter' and no 9 times out of 10 no it damn well doesnt.;)


Mav x

mrs-moneypenny

Had the most joyful day today, this morning I volunteered to go into work as it was decoration day so spent the morning making Santa hug mugs with a class of children and some parents, then this afternoon. My lovely friend who I job share with was taken ill so I was asked to stay in paid and cover her shift. I didn't mind, just hope she's feeling better soon.
I took the two bags of stockings I'd made for the two classes I work with and the choc cons I'll fill them with before they are taken home.
Got the name of the person I'm buying for in the works secret Santa, I've thought of an idea that won't clutter but will be fun. Just need to keep it secret. I've asked if a bag can be put in school a coupe of days before so no one sees who's pressie is delivered by who.

Have a joyful evening all, we've got free tix to a film preview then going for a drink.

peaceandfreedom

mavvymoo wrote: »

You are on the rollercoster which is 'kondo' all depends if you wanna stay on really I hope you do as you will get to the end it will just take a while but remember we are all on it with you no matter how 'together' we appear on screen


Mav x


Re read your post ....... The 'What could have been' train has come to the end of the line and you need to haul yourself off ! Get on another train in another direction it doesnt matter what destination you pick but get off that train.xxx

Mav, thanks so much for all your wise words. I will try to remember them .

Getting to the nitty-gritty of the problem is one thing but I think I am avoiding it because I know that action will be required and I am not courageous enough to take that action, at least not at the moment.

But I will continue to Kondo, with some trepidation, and see what happens.

(Jumps off the 'what could have been' train ........)

peaceandfreedom

VJsmum wrote: »

Agree - I don't think Parties like you see in adverts ever really exist. Maybe the odd swish office work do.....

I don't think they exist either - the parties I go to have people mainly dotted about the kitchen and dining-room, dressed nicely but not lavishly and plenty just wearing jeans and t-shirt.

Like so many adverts, the 'party clothes' ones try to make us covet a lifestyle that doesn't actually exist in real life. I don't know anyone who gives a hoot what their guests wear to their parties.

peaceandfreedom

silvasava wrote: »

Many years ago I was on a work course & the instructor was also NLP trained. She said something that really resonates with me and still does about the little voice on your shoulder who always tells you what you did wrong/didn't do/should have done etc but is never there when you achieve anything & never congratulates you. Don't listen to that nasty jealous voice that never does anything but demoralise and depress. You have the power to choose how you feel.

Thanks silvasava, I'll try not to listen to it - that voice can be so vile sometimes. Often, it's almost a physical feeling, I can feel my stomach plummet and my spirits along with it.

I'm going to have to shut it up somehow .

mavvymoo

peaceandfreedom wrote: »

Mav, thanks so much for all your wise words. I will try to remember them .

Getting to the nitty-gritty of the problem is one thing but I think I am avoiding it because I know that action will be required and I am not courageous enough to take that action, at least not at the moment.

But I will continue to Kondo, with some trepidation, and see what happens.

(Jumps off the 'what could have been' train ........)

Keep kondoing you will have the courage to deal with what ever it is you have to deal with. You will get to point and nothing will spoil your joy and you will just do it

You will be come stronger and you will see things much more clearly when the carp has gone.

A lot of us kondoites have made very big changes in our lives which we never thought we would make

My lovely iTwin kondoed a 'friend' of 60 years :eek:

I hope you are getting better iQueen we could do with your wise words and imput on this thread at the moment if you can manage as we all miss you and would all like to know how you are doing with your illness ?

Good luck to everybody and lets have some joy today No matter how small lets look for it


Mav x

Karmacat

mavvymoo wrote: »

Keep kondoing you will have the courage to deal with what ever it is you have to deal with. You will get to point and nothing will spoil your joy and you will just do it

You will be come stronger and you will see things much more clearly when the carp has gone.

A lot of us kondoites have made very big changes in our lives which we never thought we would make

My lovely iTwin kondoed a 'friend' of 60 years :eek:

Good luck to everybody and lets have some joy today No matter how small lets look for it

Lovely sentiment, mav! Thank you.




ETA - I do love the thing about the seagull and the chip