The KonMarie method

pennystretcher

mothershipton wrote: »

Well drum roll everyone. OH has finally after 10 years in this house put all the books in the study on the shelves. - - -
I had to go and buy new knickers yesterday as chucked loads of them out last week and I am now running out!
I may be giving kondoing up till after christmas as have kind of run out of enthusiasm as still having our ensuite refitted. It seems to be never ending and has put me off having any further work done.

Yay for books!!! :T

Nothing wrong having a break from kondoing - most likely you'll get the inspiration after you get the ensuite fitted and want to make sure everything will look nice when it's finished! (Good luck - hope it'll look fab when it's done!!!!!!)

loopychriss

Have had a really lazy couple of days, haven't felt too well so just slobbed around the house really. Did manage to find the final few items to finish my Mins Game off though.

Day 28 - 3 items

3 plates

Day 29 - 2 items

Pair of rubber gloves with holes in
Kitchen sponge cloth falling apart

Only one more thing to find tomorrow, can't believe it's the 30th! Never thought I'd find enough things in the house to do the Mins Game, surprising what you do find. I can't even remember what most of them were! Just goes to show, I didn't really need any of them - why oh why do I buy them in the first place?!!

PollyWollyDoodle

peaceandfreedom wrote: »

I'm wondering something though - does anyone else find themselves getting very introspective and nostalgic while doing this kind of clearing out? I was putting away some board games and it reminded me of lots of things.

I've been tormenting myself a lot lately, reminding myself of everything I've done wrong, any time I've been not-very-nice (there are a gazillion of those) and generally finding it hard to forgive myself for past behaviour. I don't think this is to do with decluttering, more to do with the menopause / hormones / that time of my life.

While we are all busy decluttering and clearing out our lives - any advice on decluttering the past and just concentrating on a better future? I seem to be carrying the past wrapped around me like a heavy shawl .

Yes, it's made me nostalgic - a lot of this is about letting go of the person I once thought I'd be (farewell Collected Works of Shelley and Teach Yourself Greek). But mostly I'm happy with who I am now - of course I've made mistakes in life, we all have, but they're what's made me what I am. It's a bit like the books, clothes etc - I thank those experiences for what they taught me and let them go. I have done some reflecting, especially when doing photos and letters, but I think the MK process has helped me to live in the present much more, something I haven't always done. Sorry, that's not much practical help to you in how to do it, it's just something I've gradually learned.

peaceandfreedom

PollyWollyDoodle wrote: »

Yes, it's made me nostalgic - a lot of this is about letting go of the person I once thought I'd be (farewell Collected Works of Shelley and Teach Yourself Greek). But mostly I'm happy with who I am now - of course I've made mistakes in life, we all have, but they're what's made me what I am. It's a bit like the books, clothes etc - I thank those experiences for what they taught me and let them go. I have done some reflecting, especially when doing photos and letters, but I think the MK process has helped me to live in the present much more, something I haven't always done. Sorry, that's not much practical help to you in how to do it, it's just something I've gradually learned.

Well, it does help actually, thank you. I am certainly happier with who I am now than who I used to me, which must be a good thing - I am definitely a nicer person now and concentrate much more on doing/saying the right thing (it doesn't come naturally ).

By the way, can I just say: Hello, my name is Inigo Montoya, you killed my father, prepare to die (your sig). Best film EVER .

PollyWollyDoodle

:rotfl: As you wish!

Siebrie

Rainy-Days wrote: »

I am in the habit now though of just hoofing things out as I go along. Had another 'cull' in the dressing table drawer although the cupboard in the en-suite has grown in it's contents which makes me conclude I have moved it from one area to another! Talk about trying to kid yourself .

Rainy-Days, you are not kidding yourself, this is all part of the process! I'm assuming that your dressing table drawer now only contains what you find joyful and useful, which means that all the other stuff is collecting elsewhere, on its way to its rightful position (which may be 'the bin':rotfl:), which you just haven't found yet. During the MK process, such lakes/mountains form, and will then disappear again, as you tackle the next category. It helps me to formulate the question of 'which of these items form a category, and where shall I store it?' and take a proper look at the items, and then close the door and let it stew in the back of my brain for a little while. Usually, within a week, I have my answer.

mrs-moneypenny

Morning all.
Been up since 5.30 back stitching the stocking for DGS first Christmas, I'm determined to get the back stitch part complete before Dec 1st so that's today taken care of.
Dh has suggested another CS run before Christmas so I'll be keeping an eye out for things I can kondo.
Hopefully pressies will all be wrapped this week that can leave the house and start being sent on their way.

Have a joyful day all.

silvasava

Thanks for the responses for other people's clothes. Reading back I've realised I'm guilty of doing what others are doing to me! Serves me right!!
Two bags went to a lady at the club and another lady who said she had a bag of jeans for me didn't turn up so a bit of a reprieve
GQ you are so right about the self interest as I've acquired a number of items that will be perfect for my spring holiday & won't have to buy anything
It's blowing a hooley today so off to clear the washing pile & clean upstairs. I'm sure there will be some more Kondoing along the way
Have a good day all x

VJsmum

Still doing a first pass over those 18 albums of photos.

I have been struck by two things.:

1 my crimes against fashion and hair styling are many and varied and I am torn between disposing of the evidence or keeping it as a punishment :rotfl:
2 when we are gone no one will care about most of them - even the kids. And the good stuff is so tied in with the dross that they are unlikely to be bothered to separate it. I just need to persuade the old man to agree with me.

mavvymoo

peaceandfreedom wrote: »

Hi everyone,

I read this thread often and contribute every now and again .

I have spent the last day or so doing the dining-room. It is not really a dining-room most of the time, more of a general dumping-ground. I've made a massive difference - there was stuff in piles and boxes everywhere, some of it dumped there from when I cleared out a shed.

Marie Kondo is absolutely right when she says that the house already has enough storage boxes and space. I got rid of quite a lot of things but sorted out and stored lots of others, and I still ended up with a lot of spare boxes and space. It's amazing.

I'm wondering something though - does anyone else find themselves getting very introspective and nostalgic while doing this kind of clearing out? I was putting away some board games and it reminded me of lots of things.

I've been tormenting myself a lot lately, reminding myself of everything I've done wrong, any time I've been not-very-nice (there are a gazillion of those) and generally finding it hard to forgive myself for past behaviour. I don't think this is to do with decluttering, more to do with the menopause / hormones / that time of my life.

While we are all busy decluttering and clearing out our lives - any advice on decluttering the past and just concentrating on a better future? I seem to be carrying the past wrapped around me like a heavy shawl .

Yeah Me I was the same as you and too a degree still am.
The process leaves you more open to think about the past mistakes or otherwise.
You do have to think about it as I think you do get to a point of knowing where it started or what happened to make you feel how you do now.
Like me and the clothes hoarding thing and I know that stems from that 16 year old me with no money and no clothes and being told unless I wore something else apart from that Purple Dress I would lose my job. So I spent my money on a new outfit and lived on tinned peas for a week.:(

But I have dealt with that now and know I am not that person anymore.You have to let it go as you let go of the clutter let the thoughts go as well. Why worry as there is b*gger all we can do about it now. All we can do is move on from it.

I give you permission to remove that shawl say thank you but you are history and I am moving on into the future and chuck the invisable shawl out of your front door and slam the door shut and dont let it back on your shoulders anytime soon

It will make you feel so much better.Think of the good things you have done in your life and if you really think about it they will make up for the bad I promise


Mav x