The KonMarie method

GreyQueen

You can use magazine holders to discipline baking trays either on the counter-top or within a cupboard. I have also seen a home-made rack for them, for inside a cupboard. It was wooden with uprights of dowling to make dividers for the baking trays to lean on.

Have just gone back into the kitchen to make a cuppa and just seen, among the detritus from the undersink cupboards, a couple of brand-new trad yellow dusters which could have gone with the donations. Don't know why I didn't 'see' them an hour ago.

Had a LBM; I don't use yellow dusters, which is why they are untouched. I dust with a damp microfibre cloth. These things will never be used here and as they're unsullied by dust, someone else might be glad of them. Now the next donation pile is starting to germinate.......

iQueen

jinny wrote: »

I'm afraid I have been disobeying our leader too and going off piste
I need to stockpile a bit cos I ain't going out when the snow comes

I'm with you there, Jinny! I don't go out in snow or gales, so I keep enough of most necessities to keep me going for a few emergency days!

Stood me in good stead last February, when we were without leccy for 49 hours. I got a bit sick of sandwiches and Ribena and missed my leccy blanket, but a neighbour with LPG boiled a kettle for my hot water bottle! :j

I really must do something with the 5 x 2litre bottles of water that I got in for a day without water!

jinny

iQueen wrote: »

I kondoed a very old friend a year ago, because she didn't 'bring me joy' - quite the reverse!

IQUEEN
I did exactly that a few years ago
I tried to do this by letting the contact dry up.

However, I had to just be blunt in the end and tell her the friendship was over. She knew why but tried to justify betraying me.
I just couldn't take the toxic remarks and two facedness any longer.
I gave her plenty of chances over the years but alas
She let me down big time once too much.

iQueen

jinny wrote: »

IQUEEN
I did exactly that a few years ago
I tried to do this by letting the contact dry up.

However, I had to just be blunt in the end and tell her the friendship was over. She knew why but tried to justify betraying me.
I just couldn't take the toxic remarks and two facedness any longer.
I gave her plenty of chances over the years but alas
She let me down big time once too much.

Well done, Jinny!

Kondoing 'people' is often the hardest thing to rid ourselves of.

My friend and I had been friends for 63 years, but I realised that she was constantly chipping away at my already damaged self-esteem, embarrassing me in front of people, snide remarks, and even making overt cruel remarks.

I had tried letting her know what she was doing and also told her bluntly, but she ignored me. Finally, I weighed up what I was getting from the relationship, together with what I was putting into it, and recognised that there was a serious imbalance. She was bolstering her own self-esteem at the expense of mine, but condemned psychology as 'rubbish', so it was a no-win situation.

Sadly, there are people in our lives, who really don't 'bring joy', but it takes courage to let them go.

lessonlearned

Thanks for all the tips re the baking trays and under the sink etc. well I have managed to find a better place for them, stacked on their sides so easy to get at and just wedged next to the basket of tea towels for the time being but yes I think I will go for the magazine holder idea, I can make something out of strong cardboard or maybe find something in £land.

Anyway some fab ideas. I have already recycled some old plastic containers for bits and bobs and I have plenty of baskets etc I can press gang into service.

Re Kondoing friends. I have done this too in the past few months, people who let me down really badly when my husband was ill and dying. I've just cut them out of my life. I feel no regret and don't miss them. They weren't true friends and they did not bring me joy. I can live quite happily without them......:D

jinny

lessonlearned wrote: »

Thanks for all the tips re the baking trays and under the sink etc. well I have managed to find a better place for them, stacked on their sides so easy to get at and just wedged next to the basket of tea towels for the time being but yes I think I will go for the magazine holder idea, I can make something out of strong cardboard or maybe find something in £land.

Anyway some fab ideas. I have already recycled some old plastic containers for bits and bobs and I have plenty of baskets etc I can press gang into service.

Re Kondoing friends. I have done this too in the past few months, people who let me down really badly when my husband was ill and dying. I've just cut them out of my life. I feel no regret and don't miss them. They weren't true friends and they did not bring me joy. I can live quite happily without them......:D

That is so sad just when you needed support
I developed a stock answer for people at work
First I used to say "can you repeat that remark? What are you meaning, please explain further"
At first your face will go crimson but you need to make them swirm
Keep it going by saying "please get your self esteem from somewhere else. This isn't a good place to get it from"
Repeat the questioning throughout the day
They will get fed up before you do
Offer to take their comment further to the management
And do that if you have to.

Some People take kindness and sensitivity for weakness I'm afraid.
You can't offload colleagues unfortunately

Anyhoo back to our new hobby
Just organised a handful of papers from the mountain of doom
I did this last year when I retired
For goodness sake I still had my appraisals why???
Binned
Think that's what started my toxic work mates comments
Deleted from mind...........now!

Igamogam

lilahloo wrote: »

Hi imagomam. Have a look at the links on post #203. She gets on to knickers after folding tops.

Thanks! Having now watched it, I have decided life is too short to fold a thong:rotfl: Just started reading about 'essentialism' and it's really not essential for me to have my underwear so regimented!

Vertical - top to bottom of a drawer/shelf. Horizontal - edge to edge of same, is my understanding of these axis. .....doesn't seem to mean the same when it comes to storage. Liking some of the other principles though which I am going to use.

Whole heartedly endorse not buying extra 'storage' solutions - it's never going to be the solution after all........Our problem is old rambling house with lots of nooks and crannies,hidden cupboards,spare rooms and out buildings.......so easy to say 'oh we will put that in such and such a place just for now' In fact 'just for now' solutions have become a standing joke in the family:D

Going to use the categories idea to start with and concentrate on books first. Had a bit of a clear out of clothes and kitchen stuff in the run up to Christmas. Most of my stuff goes on fr**cycle or Oxf*m

Newme2014

Started reading this thread last night and would love to start kondoing but as I'm living out of a suitcase in my parents spare room there's nothing to declutter, well there is, but it's not mine so though I would love to clear some of their hoard I better not. My mum has been samosaing her carrier bags a few months now but that's as far as they get. Maybe I should get the book for her to read.

lessonlearned

Well ladies - I am 2/3rds of the way through the kitchen, so really pleased with what I have achieved today but now I must rest - my poor old back is killing me. There is a nice casserole bubbling away so I can put my feet up for a while and maybe look at more folding websites.

I am well and truly hooked. .

Now Ive always liked the results of decluttering and always found it very therapeutic but who would have thought that folding and organising could be such fun.

I'm sure there are people out there who think we are nuts but just think once we have finished and we have neat, tidy and organised houses how easy they will be to maintain.

When summer comes I shall be out on my sun lounger - I need to buy one first of course - sipping iced teas (ok make that a gin and tonic), painting my toenails and reading to my hearts content.

After the traumas of last year - husband died in August - I intend to make the most of this summer. Just hope we have plenty of sunshine.

jinny

Igamoham

Oh to be thin enough to wear a thong!
They wouldn't be hidden in a drawer!

I could wear one but look more like a Sumo wrestler
Just to keep up with the Japanese theme