Does anyone ever feel like they don't fit in to this world?

Edwardia

taliwillow wrote: »

That title probably sounds a bit dramatic but I don't know how better to explain it.

Just a feeling that you are very much alone (despite being married with children) and that you really don't fit anywhere? That you don't really 'get' people. I sometimes dream of just taking my little family and living in a hut in the woods and never seeing the outside world again. Unfortunately I don't think that is the life they dream so I will keep plodding on, but I am just interested to know if this is something other people feel and how they deal with it?

It doesn't matter whether you fit in or not, the world will still turn. If you're doing your job if you have one, not causing anyone else any hurt, you shouldn't worry what other people think. If you aren't harming them and they give you grief, they are the ones with the problem. Their problems aren't your responsibility.

hgotsparkle

I often feel like I don't fit in with the rest of my generation, I should have been born about 15 years before. I'm too old for my time and always have been. I don't see the point in what most of my friends do.

Domayne

Yup, all the time!
But since I'm not much of a people person and can quite happily enjoy my own company without seeing another soul for weeks on end, I'm not bothered in the slightest anymore, I don't like the majority of people that I meet irl so why do I want to fit in with them?
'Fitting in' just feels like following the crowd and who wants to be a sheep anyhow ^_^

Birdie85

Kitty777 wrote: »

I feel the exact same. I often feel I am just living alongside other people and not really with them.

Terrifies me sometimes, especially when friends/my other half talk about the future....the idea of a house shared with friends? ew no! :P

hgotsparkle wrote: »

I often feel like I don't fit in with the rest of my generation, I should have been born about 15 years before. I'm too old for my time and always have been. I don't see the point in what most of my friends do.

Wow, these 2 statements just summed up my adolesence! I really struggled in school as I just didn't get everyone else, I couldn't figure out why kids would 'act up' to impress each other. What's clever or funny about pretending to be stupid? I managed to make a few friends by finding common ground (love for Harry Potter in some cases! ) and pretty much ignored everyone else. I get friend requests on FB from old schoolmates and I can't for the life of me remember them!

As I've gotten older I've learnt to embrace the fact that I'm different. I have a handful of friends that I see from time to time, I have no best friend and I'm happy with that as it looks too much like hard work anyway! I love my alone time and even though I'm happily married, I'm even happier that my DH works evenings so I don't have to spend all of my free time with him, and he's one of my favourite people (after my baby although on whingey days the balance shifts!) so it says a lot more about me than him!

I haven't even adapted to motherhood like 'normal' people...:o

lori64

xXMessedUpXx wrote: »

In my darker days, i do have a tendancy to feel like i just don;t belong in this world, that i was never supposed to have existed (and that i shouldn't exist now). I've never had clear plans for the future. Everyone else around me seems to have aims/goals/dreams. They want a career or a house or a family. Me? I just feel like i am plodding along, just existing by accident. People ask me "what do you want in life?" and the truth is, i have no idea. I found out (by accident) that i wasn't a planned baby, and this is always at the back of my mind (though my mum reassures me i was very much wanted). I feel guilty because if it wasn't for me she would have been able to have a clean break from my bio dad, instead she is tied to him by life through me, and there's been so much conflict that i blame myself for. I feel like i don't really fit into life. And i wonder what the point of me being here actually is.

Just popped back to this thread today.
I know exactly what you mean about existing by accident!
I feel like I have landed from another planet by accident, and not sure why I am here...what my life purpose is?
I'm an oddity for someone my age....I know nobody else that is reached 50 and has the same life as me.
Having said that, better this way, than being married to someone I loathe, in a job I hate, tied to a mortgage I never wanted, with kids I gave birth to because it was someone elses vision of "being normal"

crazycatlady1984

Dozey_crow wrote: »

Yep.. I understand this too. It comes and goes but it worse at Birthdays and New Year (which I loathe).

Yes, I definitely get this, the cabin in the woods fantasy is spot on, I think about that all the time


And re the above from dozey crow, I was in a *major* slump at NY and couldn't really put my finger on it, glad to know I'm not the only one that gets it!


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