Does anyone ever feel like they don't fit in to this world?

kacie

Yep, but excepting that I'm an introvert and that I don't need to try and change that helps.

Carmina-Piranha_2

Yes, I've always felt like that. My eldest child (18) does too. My husband and youngest are more outgoing, but we all get on well together. I feel lucky that my husband and I are happy together, and I love the holidays when he gets days off work with us (I work term time, but he's had to work some over Christmas).

My ideal week would be the four of us not seeing anyone else!

I like work, but I often feel out of tune with colleagues. They are nice, but I just don't 'get' what most people are interested in. I'm rubbish at being female.

missindecisive

Yes I feel like that as well. Outwardly you might think I'm confident and outgoing.you might even think I'm the life and soul of the party!

The reality is I am only truly comfortable with my own close family. I feel like I have nothing in common with work colleagues, the thought of a night out with them full of small talk fills me with dread. I'm the type of person who wiggles out of social occasions, preferring to stay home with a nice cup of tea. I keep the
neighbours at arms length, I would hate it if they wanted to come into my house!

I do seem to make friends easily, but I want it all on my terms and get irritated if they want to put me into a weekly slot! I would much prefer it, if say, the coffee morning was about once every 6~8 weeks! Shopping with a friend is a definate no no!! A and there is no way on this earth I could live on a housing estate or development, I tried it once and couldn't cope, had to move house!

So yes, the hut in the woods sounds like just my thing!

ljonski

Not fitting into this world probably means that there is something in you that realises the stupidity of chasing after rainbows whilst attached to the treadmill of life. In literature there are plenty of anti heroes who don''t fit in and their problem is that they know too much about human nature. You can'''''t swim against the tide for ever but you can attach yourself to something that is not susceptible to be washed away by the tsunamis of life!
Maybe the New Year will open an opportunity for you to find a solid rock............

Yolina

Meh, I've never quite fitted anywhere - which is fine by me, I don't like being pigeon-holed anyway
And I'd like to live in a pretty hand-carved cave There's a guy in the US who carves caves, they're absolutely stunning.

WeAreGhosts

i recommend this book for anyone in this situation
http://www.amazon.co.uk/Quiet-power-introverts-world-talking/dp/0141029196

bluelass

I have many times. If you feel depressed please don't suffer in silence talk to someone n here or a doctor. wishing you well.

elaine373

Yep often and most of the time. As the above person said, if you think you are depressed, then don't suffer in silence. It may be just you as a person or it could be a characteristic of depression. Or maybe just that you have spotted that the world is mad. And you do fit in here.xxx

London_Town

Yes, I can relate to this too OP. It was very difficult when I was younger, in my teens and twenties. Now I'm in my forties, I've become far more comfortable with the situation. Yes, it would be far easier if I was like "most people" but I'm not. I get on fine with my colleagues, but they really know nothing about me, which is how I like it to remain.

Personally, I think the answer is to create your own world and populate it with the people and things that are important to you. Perhaps most of us do this to an extent, but when you feel like an outsider, this strategy is even more important.

BritAbroad

Yes, totally. I frequently feel that I want to stop the world and step off. Doesn't help that I am pretty lonely most of the time.

I feel I don't fit in where I live. Old-time UK friends seldom bother to keep in touch, and people I meet here see me as the token Brit, a curiosity, but they're not the least bit interested in socialising.

I do have some 'friends' (acquaintances, really, all fellow expats), but if there's a group I'm always the one who gets left on the sidelines while everyone else chats. Most of them have kids and that's mostly what they want to talk about. At least two of them haven't asked me a single question about my life in the whole of 2014, despite knowing I've had a really hard year. I think they just don't 'get' me as I don't have kids and have no interest in having kids.

It's always been the same. I enjoy stimulating conversation and intellectual discussion, but celebrity gossip leaves me cold, which meant I was never included in chatter with workmates. I'd go to every night out but always end up sitting on my own at some point. I never had anyone to share a taxi or a train ride home with.

Even in my own home, I've had visitors talk over me and disregard my opinion or wishes, which makes me angry, but I'm too polite to pull them up on it.

The Susan Cain book is terrific. I found it almost painful to read at times because it was so accurate.

I'm at the point now where I'm fed up of all the trite advice on how to make friends - volunteering, gyms, clubs etc. I do all of the above but haven't made any friends from any of them. I continue to do them because I enjoy the activities. What I would like is real advice on how to embrace and savour the loneliness as I think that would be a much better strategy for me.