Mooloo's "Making my future, one stitch at a time"?

Tescodealqueen

Great advice EE.

Savvy_sewing

I will go and see him with this EE. He is dyslexic and cannot read and write very well at all, you are right. So he evades it all. I shall try and take him and see what he can do.

Eager_Elephant

Mooloo wrote: »

I will go and see him with this EE. He is dyslexic and cannot read and write very well at all, you are right. So he evades it all. I shall try and take him and see what he can do.

I appreciate he has dyslexia and is relying on his GF but if she is lazy then he must know he cannot rely on her and so it will fall to him unless they want to lose the house.


He has family he could ask and also he must know about the support his sisters have had and know there are organisations who can help.


Does his GF have dyslexia or any other learning difficulties - if she does then it would be worth asking for a note to be put on the HB claim so if there are issues in the future they can either send a visiting officer to get the evidence or they can ring to advise of what's needed (followed by a letter)


Are Bromford support people in his area? Could he be referred to them?

Savvy_sewing

Bromford Support used to be in the area, they were who started to support the twins, however they pulled out a couple of years ago.
I sent them to see the councils debt advisor last year, so I will try that again.
I will go and visit them tomorrow on my way back from town, hopefully I will get through to them and see exactly what's happening, what's not meeting in the middle etc.
My daughter, Biggest of Mooloo's, has been trying also to get them sorted, but they seem to not follow through with the paperwork.
Bit like Elvis's song!
I shall take it myself, then I'll understand why it's returning again and again!!!
I am so tempted to actually tell her she's a lazy good for nothing, and he's an irresponsible s.o.d. For allowing her to dictate to him and not actually follow through!!
Grrrr is my feelings!
On the work side I fretted all day yesterday about a complaint for a blind I made being too short, nightmare etc the evening before, and when the woman brought it back, it was not my fault. The original measurements I was given, were wrong. So the blinds were made to the measurements in my book, but 10cm out from the measurements she now has!!
But as she hadn't taken the top copy of the order with her, she is putting the blame on us. £66 worth of fabric plus all my time etc making it, and now technically it's her word against ours, but for good will, I will have to buy the fabric and remake them. I'm not happy, I'm far too busy to be going back over work, and the system will need tweaking.
For a start, she should have had the top copy, and I think in future, sign it to agree the measurements are correct.
I thought I was going mad when she said I'd made them wrong. I knew is measured twice, cut once! But the measurements written down that I worked from were wrong! Least I now know I wasn't wrong personally, and can at least stop worrying that I had made the mistake, and I can now put in place a method to make sure that it doesn't happen again. Be it costly mistake that I have had to bare!

thorsoak

Mooloo, I have a friend who makes curtains, and she insists on taking the measurements herself - she charges a fiver for doing this before giving a quote - but that way, she and the customer know exactly where the curtains are going/fitting. This might be an idea useful enough for you to "steal". x

Brighton_belle

I would have thought measuring yourself would take up a lot of time driving around to people's homes, parking etc. My preference would be a signed piece of paper confirming clients measurements.

duchy

I'm wondering if the reason for the delay with benefits is because the GF is trying to claim as a single person and not as part of a couple ? As DS is working she'd not be entitled to JSA anyway.

I'm guessing your DS wouldn't have a clue if she was (or the trouble it could get him into)

Eager_Elephant

duchy wrote: »

I'm wondering if the reason for the delay with benefits is because the GF is trying to claim as a single person and not as part of a couple ? As DS is working she'd not be entitled to JSA anyway.

I'm guessing your DS wouldn't have a clue if she was (or the trouble it could get him into)

I don't think GF is trying to claim as a single person as she would have been told to claim Income Support as she would be a single parent.


GF could be entitled to JSA depending on the hours DS works - it's not as simple as saying he works, so she can't have it. There are a lot of factors to consider.

Savvy_sewing

DS came to see me today. They had run out if baby milk! So another £10 and he admitted they have run out of food for themselves, after today. I told him a few home truths, and told him that after my opticians appointment tomorrow I was going over, and I would go through it all with them, that he has to take control before she looses them the roof over their heads, or the fuel supplies. We will look at the cupboards and see exactly what they have, and make a menu plan etc.
Biggest of Mooloo was on phone a little while ago, she's going to bring her laptop, and the pair of us will go through everything, check, apply, negotiate, etc as appropriate!
The gf may or may not like it, or may or may or be there, but tough! It's enough. Told him he must apply for the milk tokens if she can't be bothered. He must get the forms to make her sign at the doctors, ( I'd get Biggest to drag her to the surgery if she's there!).
But then we hope to at least see the extent of the trouble and work a way out of it.
The stress has really started to get to him, and he is the shell of the lad that left last year. ( year before?)
Anyway I have a plan now. So hopefully we will get somewhere.
Before the stress really gets me as well!

*Robin*

Good luck for your visit to DS & GF tomorrow, Mooloo.

A thought: Could you put an ask on Freecyc!e / Freeg!e for some terry nappies for the baby? Yes if GF is lazy she won't like it, but she's not working so can't claim she's got no time for washing, and not buying disposables would put a fair bit back into their household budget that could be much better spent on food.