Mooloo's "Making my future, one stitch at a time"?

Savvy_sewing

I will have to be firmer with them!
We also lost some money today, as a lady paid upfront for some alterations, but then requested more work, etc and it took several more hours of work, but she hadn't been told the work would cost extra, so I had to let it go out and lost the difference!
I had a really cottonwool head on today, and struggled to get my head around things.
I need a break so I will have to plan my evenings and mornings better, so that I can just relax a bit more.
The accounts etc I will have to tackle still of course, but I will have to pace myself so I don't hit overload before I get my holiday in August.

Savvy_sewing

I went to bed around 9 last night. Woke a couple of times, especially around 3am
Dreamt the neighbour had moved his van, and two more were in it's place! Dreamt about the twins, except they were about 3!
My brother, my ex husband, my old house I used to own, and many many things including the sewing machine I donated to the college yesterday.
My fears etc seemed to be trapped in my dreams, and it was such a busy night of dreaming.
So obviously my mind is on over load at the moment.
I used to write massively in my journal, but rarely manage it, so that means it's all in my head keeping me awake, stressed or surpressed in my sub conscious and starting to effect me.
So time to get pen to paper out again.
I have to sort out my priorities, etc and list what is in my noodle, and get it on paper, and organised, or I may just crumble under the strain of it all.
Yesterday talking to the ladies who sew, it appears that the lady who does the reception type work thinks she is above everyone else, and doesn't always speak to them very well, and have told me of incidences where she has been abrupt, if not rude, to customers. So I think we need a little observation, and a chat before it gets out of hand, or ruins my reputation.
Also there are things that have been niggeling me as well.
So time for my BGKs, and talk to her.
( that side of being a boss I do not like!)
I'm off to write for 20 minutes before the school start of the day takes over. Here's hoping it will start to clear my muddled head!

Savvy_sewing

It was the first day at work where I really didn't want to be there at all.
I am struggling for energy and was tired all day. Well I am still tired.
I had a lady come with her sewing machine, as she was struggling to get it to sew. It's always a pleasure to show people the mysteries of their machines. They always leave with a better knowledge of their machines, and an enthusiasm to see again.
My lady doing reception was very very quiet today, I have given her some tasks to do tomorrow, and my experienced sewer is in and she has a long list of work to start on. The jobs are thankfully still flowing in regularly. Although some defy reasoning why they would want to bother, and I am very much from a make do and mend world.
I told the dry cleaners I was not happy with the riding gear, I actually was do stressed I struggled with tears.
But I had to keep on keeping on.
This evening I have chatted to my Mum on Skype, and cooked our dinner. Chocolate brownies now in the oven.
We had banana and custard for pudding.
Not that I should after measuring my waist line last night.
But at least I haven't turned to the wine.
I shall have a bath, hair wash and squirt the lavender sleep remedy tonight.

trix-a-belle

Well done on the riding gear mooloo that didn't sound nice at all
Hope you have an early night tonight & a restful sleep, don't forget the pen & paper to clear your head

Savvy_sewing

I took my journal to bed. Wrote for 15 minutes then stopped. I used the lavender roll on on my pulses, and the mist around the pillows.
I did fall asleep better, but woke several times for the loo, and was still dreaming weird weird dreams. Why are my twins young children in my dreams? Twin 2 was about 6 this time.
I have only seen her on Skype since November. Feel guilty that I can't afford the train fare for her to come up, but that's the truth.
I have a few large purchases to pay out this month, and then hopefully I shall start to be able to pay myself something, even if it is only £50 a week.
Or my love of the job won't be much good if we are still living from hand to mouth just on the tax credits payment and DGDs reduced guardianship.
I wanted to stay in bed a bit longer, set the alarm for 7. But gave up at 6.30 trying to go back.
It's time to get up now anyway.

Savvy_sewing

Well taking the day off was needed!
It was lovely to take time out with my Mum. We both have a creative streak, so we had a great time choosing our crafting bits, and Mum treated me to my stash. Although I didn't know that till we got to the till.
Then we went to Stoney Stratford, and had lunch.
Then this afternoon, I went to Northampton College, and watched a fashion show.
Then back to collect DGD from her disco.
It's been a good day, wish I could have a few more before I had to go back, but alas, too much work so I better go back to work at 9.30 tomorrow!!!

Savvy_sewing

What a difference a day makes.
I took time out yesterday, up on the top deck as I call the workshop, with the laptop and the government forms, etc
It was full on paper work, and I only sewed in the last hour. My young sewer stayed all day, and sewed for me. She was in again today until 3pm aswell.
I paid all outstanding bills today, so I know where I am financially at the shop, but I'm still struggling with hmrc website for the payroll.
I will try again on Monday.
I started to see at 2pm till 5pm.
But it was a day full of interruptions for fittings, and questions etc.
However we are still keeping up with the jobs, just.
Last night my ladies chose their sewing projects, and we sorted out the patterns, did measurements and calculated the fabric they need.
I always get a buzz after a lesson, when my ladies always feel they have learned a lot, and that they are enthusiastic to get on.
Tomorrow the morning will be catching up on the cushions that need to be made, with lessons in the afternoon.
It's carnival day, so I have no idea if I will be busy or not.
DGD was chosen to do cluster sports on Wednesday. She didn't tell me she won the bean bag throwing. I read it in the school news letter today. But then she did produce a certificate.
I am worried about her. She's constantly eating, and is becoming too fat. I checked her height and weight just now on the NHS website and she's flagged up Red and overweight.
I am having a battle royal with her as she raids the fridge, the cupboards etc and expects a pudding every day!
As she has free school meals she doesn't need a second meal, but often I have cooked her some as I'm cooking for me.
I have to do something about it. Now, but as I am only 9.11st, and 5'6",
I am still well within my limits. And most of my life I have been too thin. ( 8st.8, and a size 8 when I ran the pub.
I have never been on a diet in my life, and wouldn't know where to start.
I'm worried as I don't know how to deal with her.
Any ideas what I can do. We don't have a door between the kitchen and the sitting room. And she can reach all the cupboards.
She is 133cm tall.

jackyann

Dear Mooloo
Many kids grow in fits and starts (growth spurts!) so if you take a "snapshot" weight & height you will often find a beanpole or a dumpling who will settle out in time.
So I wouldn't get too worried at present.
However, it might make sense to talk to the School Nurse (I'm talking about the NHS community nurse allocated to your DGD's school). They have very good knowledge about healthy eating and exercise and tend to be sensible. They also have training in child psychology and family dynamics, and will be aware of the difficulties your family has faced.
I would look for that sensible, holistic sort of help, rather than get anxious about your grand-daughter's eating and maybe pass on the anxiety.

Savvy_sewing

I have no idea who the school nurse would be.
We don't seem to have them like we did when I was at school, or my children for that matter.
I will speak to the Special Needs Co-ordinator, who is also the deputy head. She knows our situation.
I'm wondering about DGD's inner state, as with her Mummy now only seeing her irregularly, she is feeling abit abandoned. Last night we spoke to her Mum on Skype, but they are not coming up until 10th July. So it will be about 6 weeks since she saw them I would think, by then.
They keep talking about her going to stay with them, but I am not planning to let them take her away. I don't know his family. I am concerned that they might not bring her back. I haven't forgotten his threats last September or around then.
My Mum, and Brother etc think I should not allow it. Concern about what they would do, say, etc and how it could cause a problem for me with the guardianship.
I think I must ask Gizmo, see what her take will be on it.
She, DGD, did tell me after the Skype call, "I love my Mummy, but I love you the most". Poor wee soul.
Today our normal babysitter can't have her, so one of the lovely ladies who works at her after school club is having her, and taking her shopping today.
Wonder what I would do without the lovely friends I have met since moving here to look after DGD.

Eager_Elephant

Mooloo wrote: »

I am worried about her. She's constantly eating, and is becoming too fat. I checked her height and weight just now on the NHS website and she's flagged up Red and overweight.
I am having a battle royal with her as she raids the fridge, the cupboards etc and expects a pudding every day!
As she has free school meals she doesn't need a second meal, but often I have cooked her some as I'm cooking for me.
I have to do something about it. Now, but as I am only 9.11st, and 5'6",
I am still well within my limits. And most of my life I have been too thin. ( 8st.8, and a size 8 when I ran the pub.
I have never been on a diet in my life, and wouldn't know where to start.
I'm worried as I don't know how to deal with her.
Any ideas what I can do. We don't have a door between the kitchen and the sitting room. And she can reach all the cupboards.
She is 133cm tall.

My DD (now 12yrs old)has always been one of the largest in her year - the difficulty was that she was not one of the tallest.
It was difficult at times to get her clothes which fitted etc.
I would have said we were a reasonably healthy family, we eat well and we are quite active etc.
The majority of my family are obese (maybe morbidly) and most of the others are overweight. I veer between normal and overweight depending on the time of year.


What I did was make sure that there was always healthy stuff in easy reach so lots of fruit which she liked in the fruit bowl, other healthy things in the fridge and limited the crisps and biscuits - we have 2 cupboards - one is for snacks and one is for school only and is not to be touched unless you are making packed lunches.
This is not only for the kids benefits but also my DH who can eat 2 or 3 bags of crisps in one sitting.


I also encouraged her on the trampoline, riding her bike and going to the park with her friends.


For the last 18 months she has started to shoot up in height so she looks thinner - so much so that the Age 14 plus trousers we got at Next in August are hanging off her - I reckon next year she will just have Age 14 normal trousers.


My best friends daughter was the same, she is now 19yrs old and was also a chubby child but as soon as hormones hit she shot up and slimmed right down.



I try not to mention weight or size in the house - I do not want my daughter to get a complex about her weight. When we go clothes shopping we only glance at the children's section and usually go to the adult section, DD will wear size 8 women's clothes for her tops.


It's difficult to stop children eating but the only thing I can suggest is that you only keep healthy things where she can reach it or limit the amount she eats so each day she can have 1 bag of crisps a day so she has to pick whether she wants that at lunch or after tea. I know crisps are not that healthy but I feel that children should have some enjoyment in life!!