Toddler behaviour

Blackpool_Saver

Tygermoth wrote: »

Blackpool saver. instead of hinting at your disapproval in a passive aggressive way just come out with your opinion.

I am sure we all await with bated breath.

I already gave my opinion several posts before, compare it with some latter ones, or is that beyond your capabilities, do you need me to hold your hand and spell it out for you. Is that direct enough ?

purpleshoes_2

Ive just looked at the posting history, everything youve posted until now has been a bit drama filled.

j.e.j.

purpleshoes wrote: »

Ive just looked at the posting history, everything youve posted until now has been a bit drama filled.

Now to be fair, quite lot of what gets posted on this board is drama-filled.. :whistle:

Kayalana99

notanewuser wrote: »

Has he pulled the wire out before? Does he know it's something he shouldn't do or is he just exploring? If it's something he's doing repeatedly, can't you do something so that he can't get to the box?

What other things is he doing that he's not allowed to do? Does he know you don't want him to do it? He won't understand you punishing him by removing his dummy from him. Have you tried explaining why he shouldn't be climbing up the curtains or whatever it is he's doing?

It's possible he's doing it to get attention (he has a younger sibling, doesn't he?). Toddlers don't differentiate between positive and negative attention.

I wouldn't be removing anything from him though. It's likely to make things worse. There are other ways to deal with it.

Yes he knows he shouldn't do it but he finds it funny basically to do things he isn't supposed to, telling him off is also funny. He is at an age where his verbal understanding is limited though so you can't explain what he is doing is wrong as it falls on deaf ears. The box is the travel cot in the corner and he can pull himself head first over it not much I can do but remove the travel cot altogether but he would just find another way to test boundaries.

I'm hoping it is just a phase and once his understanding comes on he will start to behaviour better as he will understand why he can't do things...I guess at this age they know if they pull a tv cable out the tele goes off & mummy gives him attention whether it be good or bad...yes I would say half attention and half just wanting to do what he wants to do i.e the travel cot is full of toys so more him wanting things as well

Rev

I'm actually in a similar position myself.

I spent Christmas Day at my cousins and her youngest is 3. No joke, he was like some type of feral child. Spitting at people. Hitting, kicking and punching people. Throwing plates at the window. Pulling the Christmas tree over. Whacking his elder brother in the face with a shoe. If at any point he was told 'no' all hell broke loose.


People were bringing gifts. If it wasn't what he wanted he would throw the gift on the floor and actually tell the poor astonished gift giver to eff off.


He didn't want his dinner so threw it in his uncles face. he whacked the poor dog so hard she yelped on more than one occasion.


All the while his mother seemed utterly unbothered by his behaviour I can only assume she was too ashamed to do/say anything or that this is the norm for him. Even when he was kicking her in the stomach she carried on watching tv, after a barely managed 'stop it babe'.


I've never seen anything like it. Absolutely astonishing.


Like yourself I have zero idea what to do. Surely his cant be normal? If it is I can only assume he had never had any form of discipline whatsoever at all. I speak to his mother often and as far as I know he has zero medical problems. He can't be doing it for attention because nobody seemed or bar an eye lid never mind give him attention good or negative attention.

KARO

Rev wrote: »

I'm actually in a similar position myself.

I spent Christmas Day at my cousins and her youngest is 3. No joke, he was like some type of feral child. Spitting at people. Hitting, kicking and punching people. Throwing plates at the window. Pulling the Christmas tree over. Whacking his elder brother in the face with a shoe. If at any point he was told 'no' all hell broke loose.


People were bringing gifts. If it wasn't what he wanted he would throw the gift on the floor and actually tell the poor astonished gift giver to eff off.


He didn't want his dinner so threw it in his uncles face. he whacked the poor dog so hard she yelped on more than one occasion.


All the while his mother seemed utterly unbothered by his behaviour I can only assume she was too ashamed to do/say anything or that this is the norm for him. Even when he was kicking her in the stomach she carried on watching tv, after a barely managed 'stop it babe'.


I've never seen anything like it. Absolutely astonishing.


Like yourself I have zero idea what to do. Surely his cant be normal? If it is I can only assume he had never had any form of discipline whatsoever at all. I speak to his mother often and as far as I know he has zero medical problems. He can't be doing it for attention because nobody seemed or bar an eye lid never mind give him attention good or negative attention.

Good grief. Sounds like they need Supernanny!

It's certainly not 'normal' for a 3 year old to be so aggressive.

notanewuser

KARO wrote: »

Good grief. Sounds like they need Supernanny!

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No. Not supernanny. Anything but supernanny. Her methods are beyond hideous.

northerntwo1

Are there any indications of DV? Spitting isn't normal for a child that age socially isolated.

KARO

notanewuser wrote: »

No. Not supernanny. Anything but supernanny. Her methods are beyond hideous.

It just reminded me of a child on Supernanny who was really badly behaved and aggressive. The sibling was not, and was being bullied by the badly-behaved one.

Sometimes you need to be a bit of a fly on the wall to see the dynamics in the family, and to pick up on why a child is behaving the way it does, and the programme did seem to do this quite well.

As to her methods, aside from the naughty step I don't recall them very well.

notanewuser

KARO wrote: »

As to her methods, aside from the naughty step I don't recall them very well.

Isn't that enough?