Frugal Frump to Fab - 2015

3forholidays

greenbee wrote: »

I switched to oil cleansing a few years ago - started by using OOD flaxseed oil, sometimes use olive oil and am currently using a blend called 'wonder oil' which smells delicious.

Just wipe oil on with your hands and wipe off with a hot damp muslin or flannel. If you're having a bath you can leave it on while you're in there. Oil removes the dirt without dehydrating your skin so can help moisture balance and oiliness. I really notice the difference when I'm away for work and have to use face wipes or cleanser.

Thanks for this. :A I'll try to obtain a bottle when I'm next in town as it might be worth a shot.

greenbee

3forholidays wrote: »

Thanks for this. :A I'll try to obtain a bottle when I'm next in town as it might be worth a shot.

Just use whatever cooking oil you have in the house to start with and see how you get on!

3forholidays

greenbee wrote: »

Just use whatever cooking oil you have in the house to start with and see how you get on!

If I can't get the wonder oil I'll just buy some olive oil from the supermarket as I'm sure that the oil that is in the kitchen cupboard has been used for cooking as there is bits of unknown origin in it! :rotfl:

indiepanda

Feeling decidedly unfab this morning. I split up with my boyfriend yesterday. I've known deep down for sometime that I am not really willing to settle for what he is willing to give me. I didn't set out to date someone who lived a 2.5-3 hour drive away who only makes time to see me every 3-4 weekends when he doesn't have sporting commitments - when we met he lived in London too, we saw each other every week and he didn't have the extent of sporting commitments that he has taken on since he moved.

However, I really love him, and every time I thought of pushing the issue I backed away because I knew deep down how it would turn out.

Anyway, yesterday after a typically unsatisfactory phone call the night before I finally summoned up the courage to let him know how I felt. His response was to tell me that though he really likes me and very much enjoys spending time with me, he thinks I want more than he can give, that he's going to get busier and have even less time for me, and that I'd better off with someone who lives closer by and is happy to spend more time together. He also pointed out some other ways we were incompatible, which I was aware of but tolerating, and could have lived with if I only I felt his affections matched mine.

I know I've done the right thing pushing the issue and not allowing myself to carry on putting up with so little, but I am still completely heart broken as I've been trying to convince myself he had feeling he just isn't as expressive as I am. I really should know better at my age... but there's no fool like someone in love.

I think I've slept for about an hour, maybe two. Head thumping and eyes red and puffy, nose streaming. God knows how I am going to get through the day at work, but I've too much work to not go in, and I think it is probably still better to get out of the house and to a place where I haven't spent time with him.

Weirdly it's put me completely off my food, my appetite usually goes up when I am upset.. Oh well, I don't expect it will last, and I have plenty of fat to burn so I am sure it won't do me any harm. And at least with the new job and my exercise plans plus plenty of friends to look out for me I shouldn't have to spend too much time alone moping (though to be honest my usual failing is not to let my feelings out at all, suppress them with junk food).

Oh well, I made plans to run with a friend whose phone broke yesterday so I can't text to tell her I won't come so I'd better get my kit on and get out, even if it's just to apologize.

Sorry for appearing and just dumping my misery here. It's hell being sad in the small hours of the morning and not feeling like you can talk to anyone, and writing it down does help a bit.

Rowan_moon

Indiepanda I so feel for you. But good for you for getting clear about what you want and having the courage to make space for it in your life.

Feel free to let it out here whenever you want. Sending you a BIG HUG X

maddiemay

Indiepanda you are not dumping on anyone, just sharing with caring friends, virtual ones,but friends nevertheless. Take care and keep busy, it will be hard, but it seems that it is the best decision for you, you are worth more than a half hearted relationship. Xxxx

lessonlearned

Indie. So so sorry. Have a virtual hug.

And no you aren't dumping on us, we are here for you, any time......

If it's any consolation I think you have done the right thing.

The heart knows what it's needs and wants, you want commitment, he didn't want the same. It's a hard one to face but you have been very brave facing up to facts and not allowing yourself to live in vain deluded hope.

Well done for that.

None of us should ever sell ourselves short, we are worth so much more.

We don't need half hearted lovers, we deserve total full commitment.

We deserve complete adoration, nothing less.

The heart wants (and needs) what the heart wants.;)

Hang in there Indie, the pain will gradually ease.

maman

Couldn't read and run indie. Sending you a great big hug and good to hear that you're already starting to see a possible silver lining in terms of loss of appetite;). Hope your run with a friend helped a little. Keep in touch.:A

chanie

Indie sorry to hear your news. Take care of yourself.

3forholidays

Indiepanda You knew in your heart that the relationship wasn't right and deserve credit for admitting this. Big hugs x